Excellent blog post

[tiramisu]

My cousin just shared this on FB and I think it's really wonderfully written.  And also scary in some ways.

kateharding.net/2009/10/08/guest-blogger-starling-schrodinger%E2%80%99s-rapist-or-a-guy%E2%80%99s-guide-to-approaching-strange-women-without-being-maced/

I wish there were a way to make all men read this.

[wrathofkuus]

The link isn't working,

[starrieskies]

I love that! It's so true!

[tiramisu]

Aug 22, 2013 23:21:55 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

The link isn't working,

Does this work?
tinyurl.com/ya2fd8v

[wrathofkuus]

That worked!

I've read this before, and loved it.

[partiallysunny]

Very well written. I shared it on my Facebook.

[captainmel]

I read it last night on ambian I liked it then but I don't really remember why. I am going to read it again soon.

[margarita]

I like it! Very well said.

[tiramisu]

I've been reading the comments too, and they're great. I like the idea of handing this out to men and using it to teach. In fact, the one who talked about a questionnaire she gives her students inspired me to try to come up with something similar for the kids I'll be working with.

It also reminded me of last Friday night, when I firmly told this guy "no" put her down" when he picked up my friend, as well as when we told the guy driving by that hooting at women from a car was not a way to meet anyone of quality. I don't know what got into me. It still upsets me that women have examples they can readily identify for these kinds of things.

[captainmel]

tiramisu, you had to tell someone to put your friend down?! I would have become violent. This is why I don't go out.

[tiramisu]

Aug 23, 2013 11:09:37 GMT -5 captainmel said:

tiramisu, you had to tell someone to put your friend down?! I would have become violent. This is why I don't go out.

Yes! It was so ridiculous. Because she's only like 5'1" guys seen to think it's okay to pick her up. The only reason I didn't get violent is because I was afraid he would drop and hurt her.

The one time I threatened to kick a man in the balls was when he'd picked up a friend of mine and wasn't listening to her or me about putting her down. I got my knee within inches and told him if he didn't listen to her and put get down gently, I'd hurt him.

[captainmel]

tiramisu. I would lose my mind if someone picked up me or my close friend. Nope, put my friend down motherfucker. I will ruin you.

On time a guy grabbed my arm and I nearly killed him. He spilled his drink all over my leather bag and when I was getting paper towels he told me I was taking too many and grabbed my arm. I told him he should let go before he had to buy me a new bag and a prosthetic arm for himself.

[tiramisu]

Good for you mel!!

I seriously shocked myself. I just looked that man in the eyes and said no the way I would say it to my cat or a dog. Then I said "put her down" in the same firm tone. And he listened. And then he saw that he hurt her hip the way he picked her up and apologized. Then we both told him to leave us alone and he listened. So apparently talking to strange men like they're dogs works?

[captainmel]

It is so unfortunate that people like that exist but I would love having you as a friend tiramisu.