I never 'fit in' with the IL talk because I adore mine like they were my own parents. We often hang out with them, just to hang out. We get along with them really well and they are such nice, cool people. We see them at least once a week. Usually they invite us over for dinner. So we'll eat, hang out, watch TV, play with Cam and BIL/SILs kids, play outside, etc. We also love game night!! Some times we put Cam to bed and play games.
ETA: As far as their relationship with Cam, they are really close to him. My MIL texts or FB messages me every other day or so to see how Cam (and us) are doing. And she's the only person he really likes besides us. My parents, on the other hand, (who, mind you. Live like 4 streets down) see him maybe 2-3 times a month. And never call to check on him. My dad tells me every once in awhile to send him a picture of Cam at work... thats it.
I am similar with the ILs and my parents. Both live pretty close to us and they are both over our house often. We see either my parents, H's parents or our grandparents pretty much every weekend and some random week nights. We are all really close.
Post by biblionerd on Aug 23, 2013 20:36:10 GMT -5
Mine live about 45 minutes away and usually come over twice a week- once during the week usually so I can do stuff or go to appointments and usually every sunday so DH and FIL can work on house stuff (we've been getting the house ready to sell) or we can go on a date. We're going on an alllll day long date tomorrow while they come over and I am SO excited. they can be overbearing, but the help is amazing.
livinreality your relationship sounds very similar to the one we have with my ILs.
lolaburns I'm sorry my ILs want to come over after Lincoln has already gone to bed, so I guess I just don't see the point? I'd be more than happy if they wanted to come see Lincoln but they really don't care.
I'm clearly blind because I missed that aspect so yea that is beyond bizarre to me. WTF?! I can count on one hand the amount of times my MIL has seen L. These situations SUCK.
Post by thedahliharpa on Aug 23, 2013 22:07:07 GMT -5
Concerts on our lake every few weekends during the summer. There is one tomorrow, not looking forward to seeing them because our friends are coming over and mil will try to be a AW. The rest of the year it's taco night or bbqs. DH and his dad cook and mil drives me up the wall. Good times.
My ILs are great when we see them. They are only like 10 minutes away. They love the boys and the boys love them. The only thing that bugs me is hey are so worried about overstepping that they under step. It's like they are scared to ask to come over or see the boys or anything. They wait for us. Is so weird.
My ILs are great when we see them. They are only like 10 minutes away. They love the boys and the boys love them. The only thing that bugs me is hey are so worried about overstepping that they under step. It's like they are scared to ask to come over or see the boys or anything. They wait for us. Is so weird.
My parents are 13 hours away. It's awesome.
my parents also under step because they're so worried about overstepping. My mom is petrified of being a "bad" MIL.
My ILs would see us every day if they could. Thankfully, they're a 45 min a drive away. MIL watches G two days a week, which is mostly wonderful, but then they also want to see us every weekend. That gets to be too much for me. I'm the one who sees MIL in the morning and afternoon on her days with G. In their ideal world, we would drive down after church every Sunday and spend 4-5 hours at their house. No thanks.
We just go out to dinner a lot. Sometimes my MIL will want to take me shopping or have a girls day and form a "bond." sometimes I go for the sake of DH. I have to get along with her because she really does a lot for us.
My family gets together for volleyball or game night at least once a week though, we are really close. DH acts happy, but I am sure he is a little annoyed by it.
I would love a MIL like this!
She is very generous, but extremely overbearing. It's a blessing and a curse!
She is very generous, but extremely overbearing. It's a blessing and a curse!
I have an aunt who is this way with her daughter in law. One time they stayed in a hotel overnight just so they could get up early and get this newly released Coach purse she wanted. She is always buying her stuff. I think it gets a little ridiculous.
She is very generous, but extremely overbearing. It's a blessing and a curse!
I have an aunt who is this way with her daughter in law. One time they stayed in a hotel overnight just so they could get up early and get this newly released Coach purse she wanted. She is always buying her stuff. I think it gets a little ridiculous.
I don't get stuff like that. lol. and I could never stand to be around her for an extended period of time!
My MIL lives about 30 minutes away and we see her probably once a week. Usually she, BIL and my nephew come over to us for dinner or we go there for dinner.
She's overall pretty great but I do get irked by the advice/ how she's always trying to "save" Matilda from something ha. She thinks we are too relaxed.
My parents are awesome but live in Ireland otherwise I would see them several times a week as that's just how my family is. Probably I would see them often without h because well I'm sure my family annoys him the way his annoys me, better in small doses
MIL loves Matilda and wouldn't ever want to hang out without her, which is normal. I think it's so odd your ILs want to come after he's gone to bed?! Wtf, weirdos.
My inlaws live 70 mins away Weser them about every 6 weeks we usually meet them half way for a meal. Even when we were only 40 mins away it was it frequent. Yet the drive 5 hours every 3 weeks to go see the other grandkids and sil. They are retired. They play with Brady some and have only babysat four times his whole life and it was while I was at school.