I shouted at her

[laurack]

Hubby left to help a friend with his car and was gone for five hours. My house is a mess and I'm trying to clean and cook a dinner and Matilda is just sooooo freakin whiny today. And I feel so sick. She keeps screaming and screeching but I don't know what she wants and I can't help her. Eventually during yet anther scream fest I shouted at her- "STOP MATILDA WILL YOU JUST STOP!" And it was loud and angry. Then I felt really horrible. She stopped and had this sad look on her face   It's not her fault, she's just being a toddler.

How will I ever take care of two children! I can't even handle one. I feel like a terrible mother today.

[rjamz]

Aww, it happens. I've yelled at Jamie before and then.felt like world's shittiest person, but it happens. We're all human. There's no such thing as a perfect mom.

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[creamsiclechica]

It's okay! Really, it is. We all get overwhelmed, and sometimes, it happens and you can't stop it at the moment. Give her some extra love and she won't remember it even half as long as you do! It is absolutely no indication of how you will be able to handle two. It's also no "reflection" of what kind of mother you are. Just that you're human. We've all been there!

[Deleted]

I've been there, too. They won't remember, and moms are human beings with tempers, too. Two has not increased my yelling, just made me frustrated enough to yell for different reasons you'll manage just fine!

[orriskitten]

Try not to beat yourself up about it! I did the same to Melody the other day. She couldn't get the top on the shape sorter and would scream, but I wasn't allowed to help. If I tried to help, she would push my hands away and scream more. I felt so nauseous and exhausted and was miserable, plus nervous out of my mind about a doctor's appointment. Then she walked over to me and bit me and I yelled even more. It didn't dawn on me that she was just over tired because I had to keep her up past her nap time (had the Dr appointment at the time she is usually asleep, only appointment they had for a month and I needed to have that one slot).

She was fine after and I beat myself up for the rest of the evening. Just know you are a wonderful mom, but every mom loses patience at some point.

Drown your sorrows in chocolate tonight and soak in the smiles she gives you tomorrow when you're both feeling a bit better

[kkfeb04]

It's okay. We all get frustrated. I would be a big fat liar if I said I never yelled at them. It was not my finest hour but they still love me and I'm the bees knees to them.

[carawestt]

Like everyone else has said, it happens. Being pregnant has made my temper so short and I feel bad the constant whining is hard. She won't remember though and it won't hurt her.

[unclejesse]

I remember being sooooo frustrated at him when he was about 7 months old. I was like "OMG WHAT!!!!" And the look he gave me, I still remember it. It makes you feel awful, I know, but I guarantee she will not remember it and still think you are an awesome mama.

[ruby412]

We've all been there! Please don't get down on yourself. I promise you 5 minutes later she didn't even remember.

[Deleted]

It's okay! I'm sure we've all been there. I know I have. It happens I hope you're able to de-stress a little this evening. I hate feeling all frazzled and frustrated.

[browneyedhunni85]

We all have days when our patience is run thin. Don't beat yourself up. You are a great mommy!

[spaghetticat]

Don't beat yourself up. It happens.

[kdrake8]

It does happen!! It has happened to me on more than one occasion. I know how bad you feel about it but she will not remember! Don't beat yourself up.

[laurack]

Thanks guys, you are all so sweet. It's not the first time I've yelled at her but it felt like the worst because I felt so angry

She forgot about it immediately and still appears to love me.

I feel like I'm a bit manic depressive at the moment or something! Like I have SO MUCH LOVE for her, I get all sappy about how great she is then ten minutes later I am exploding with frustration towards her! Aaaah. I also have so much guilt about getting pregnant, now I'm not fully "there for her", she will suffer these next eight months because of my pregnancy. and the other baby will then come along and she will suffer even more. Ugh.

[formerlyllizzyb]

Big hugs. I've been there.

[mumegs]

OMG we are having a day today, she is so whiny and having tantrums about something every 5 minutes. I don't know what it is but I definitely snapped at her a couple times. I had to have DH put her to bed so I could get out of the house for a few minutes. Can't imagine this plus nausea, you are doing a great job!

[irish625]

I've been there multiple times before and have had the same thoughts about having patience for 2. And also not being the best mom this summer-I could barely get off the couch some mornings and felt so bad for her We do our best, and you are not alone. You're a great mom!!!

[claralou]

You are a wonderful mother. It's just one of those days, and I know it feels awful. Tomorrow will be better, and there's no harm done. Hugs mama.

[nilex0102]

We are all human and she will be just fine and not remember or hold it against you. That doesn't start until close to three. Jk.

[pippilongstocking]

It can happen to all of us. Don't worry about it too much, she still loves you and you are a great mom!

[bigapple]

Fact: yelling in a cute accent doesn't count.

[skiesthelimit]

Hugs. I've yelled at X before to "GO TO SLEEP" when he was a newborn. I felt horrible so I can understand how you feel. It happens. You are a great mom and will be an amazing mom of 2.