Ugh, I hate my SIL

[Cheesecake]

I need to vent. Sorry in advance...

Every time I hear something about my SIL, I hate her a little more.
We had the ILs over all day, had a great time, had coffee and cake at home, gave MIL het gift (for her b-day as well, as we hadn't seen her yet - a quilt I made from fabrics from GMIL's house, totally emo - she luuuuved it!) and went out to dinner.

Out of the blue at some point MIL mentions that it's so much easier to get to our house than to SIL's. We apparently looked confused, because she started explaining. Apparently SIL, once her parents are in her town, makes them change trains 2 more times, then take a subway and then walk half a mile (FIL can hardly walk well enough to get to the car parked in front of our house) to get to her place.

ILs pretty much only get invited to my SIL's when they babysit. From the first station in town to SILs house is a 5-10 minute car ride. SIL's kids are 9 and 11 years old. SIL only works 2 or 3 days a week (depends on week) and has a whooping 50 vacation days a year.

It just pisses me off. My ILs are the sweetest, kindest elderly people in the world. FIL can't really walk anymore, and you only invite them to babysit, plus make them change trains 4 times and walk half a mile, because you're too damn lazy/cheap to drive 5-10 minutes. We've been giving them 75 minute drives occasionally, because we felt the train (no transfers or anything) might be too hard on them. But we've definitely always picked them up and dropped them off at the train station that's most convenient for them.

I know it's not my problem, but it pisses me off to no end. How can people be so damn selfish??? This is the same (only) SIL who complained about the timing of GMIL's death, because her husband went skiing that week.

Thanks for letting me vent....

[dulcemariamar]

I am in the same boat as you. I just tell myself, that thank god we are not related by blood.

[crimsonandclover]

Your SIL sounds like a total jerk. And, um 50 days of vacation??!!??!

[americaninoz]

wow that does sound selfish - I would encourage the ILs to ask for a ride to the station - that woman sounds awful

[mouseinlux]

She sounds slightly better than my sister!

[clickerish]

Forget that they're your parents. Who lets elderly people do that ANYwhere? Horrid.

[Cheesecake]

Glad I'm not crazy for thinking she's a bitch!

My ILs are just way too polite/nice to ask for rides or anything. And SIL basically blackmails them with the grandchildren.

This is the same SIL who tried to make her parents change their will to include her husband because he was pissed off he wasn't in their will (and this was a couple of weeks after GMIL died), who couldn't make it to MIL's birthday because her husband wanted to watch soccer on tv, who didn't help even once cleaning and clearing out GMIL's house after she died.

We just keep telling them they're always welcome here and we try to visit them more often, but I can tell it hurts MIL that her own daughter isn't willing to do crap for her/them.

[mrsukyankee]

She sounds like a money grubbing, lazy as shit, ass-wipe. (I like the fact that I can use curse words on here...won't use them often but in the beginning it's fun)

[Cheesecake]

May 14, 2012 13:42:11 GMT -5 mrsukyankee said:

She sounds like a money grubbing, lazy as shit, ass-wipe. (I like the fact that I can use curse words on here...won't use them often but in the beginning it's fun)

If this were facebook, I'd click 'like'.

[pittpurple]

That makes me angry. Although I did get distracted by the idea of 50 vacation days a year... that sounds amazing and I want her job.

I am flabbergasted at having your parents WALK to your door when you can just pick them up. Can you just pay for a taxi for them or something like that?

[Cheesecake]

Good Idea Pitt, alas, they would never accept money from us for anything, let alone for a cab, let alone us giving them cab-money to go visit SIL. They still try to give us gas money every time we come visit them. It's kinda funny.

I'm just happy to know karma will some day come around and bite SIL in the ass. Even if we still have to wait for that for another 20 years, I rejoice in that idea :-)

[clogged]

May 14, 2012 13:42:11 GMT -5 mrsukyankee said:

She sounds like a money grubbing, lazy as shit, ass-wipe. (I like the fact that I can use curse words on here...won't use them often but in the beginning it's fun)

*stands up and cheers*

[mrsukyankee]

May 14, 2012 15:07:18 GMT -5 Cheesecake said:

Good Idea Pitt, alas, they would never accept money from us for anything, let alone for a cab, let alone us giving them cab-money to go visit SIL. They still try to give us gas money every time we come visit them. It's kinda funny.

I'm just happy to know karma will some day come around and bite SIL in the ass. Even if we still have to wait for that for another 20 years, I rejoice in that idea :-)

Probably when her kids grow up and they refuse to help her out in her dottage.