I'm sorry. Can the home recommend a place? Wasn't there one you liked that you tried to put her in before? Would that be a possibility?
They "couldn't speak to other facilities and what they offer." In the nastiest tone you can conjure.
There is another home, but it is not close. I think we might have to go with that one. I just don't know what to do. Its at least a 20 min drive and my grandmother is going to give me so much shit about it, but I don't have many other options at this point.
I'm sorry. Can the home recommend a place? Wasn't there one you liked that you tried to put her in before? Would that be a possibility?
They "couldn't speak to other facilities and what they offer." In the nastiest tone you can conjure.
There is another home, but it is not close. I think we might have to go with that one. I just don't know what to do. Its at least a 20 min drive and my grandmother is going to give me so much shit about it, but I don't have many other options at this point.
I'm sorry they were so rude to you. Try not to let your grandmother get to you. I know that's easier said than done. You'll figure it out.
Post by orriskitten on Aug 26, 2013 20:21:00 GMT -5
I spoke to a number of places that flat out told me they wouldn't take her. A few were much nicer, so at least that made things a touch easier. I reached out to the local mom group here and got some recommendations for social workers/RNs/case workers who might be able to help, so I am checking into them tomorrow. Sure beats cold calling from a google search and all of these people at least sound compassionate.
I also made sure the ball was rolling with medicaid stuff that has been put off for so damn long.
Things need to start getting easier. I demand it, universe!
I'm so sorry. My MIL dealt with something similar recently when she was trying to find a home for her 103yo great aunt who is completely healthy and mobile. She's in Northern NJ, so I just emailed her to see if she knows of any area resources/groups for you to contact. I'll let you know what she says.
Walking shouldn't be a disqualifier. Will she be day 1 Medicaid? That might be. Look for non-profits, she'll have the best chance possible if admission.
Does she need 24 hour nursing or would she be ok in Assisted Living?
Check the nursing home compare at Medicare.gov. CMS rates nursing homes on a 5 star system and you can see how potential nursing facilities compare.
I'm so sorry. My MIL dealt with something similar recently when she was trying to find a home for her 103yo great aunt who is completely healthy and mobile. She's in Northern NJ, so I just emailed her to see if she knows of any area resources/groups for you to contact. I'll let you know what she says.
Thanks. Happily taking all the suggestions I can get!
Walking shouldn't be a disqualifier. Will she be day 1 Medicaid? That might be. Look for non-profits, she'll have the best chance possible if admission.
Does she need 24 hour nursing or would she be ok in Assisted Living?
Check the nursing home compare at Medicare.gov. CMS rates nursing homes on a 5 star system and you can see how potential nursing facilities compare.
She isn't currently on medicaid, just private insurance and medicare. She would be excellent in assisted living, but we can't afford it. The cheapest in the area is $3,500/month and none of them take insurance so it would have to be 100% out of pocket. Gg has no savings and doesn't make 1/2 of that in a month. Dh and I could help some, but we'd still be looking at over $1,000 that we just don't have.
We actually know of the best homes in the area (family friend works in senior daycare and has had a lot of jobs) and they won't take her because of her abilities. They felt bad, but she is too with it and walks.