Weird Monday UO

[Deleted]

I agree and I think 95% of the time it's really just the girl's page.

[formerlyllizzyb]

I do, too. Same with couples' email addresses. I don't want to weed through all H's stuff to get to mine, and neither does he. Plus I always think of things like job hunting...it's unprofessional to put "[e-mail]" on your resume IMO. Get your own email account.

Shared facebook accounts and email addresses are fairly common in the conservative Christian circles around here. (Which I'm probably considered a part of much of the time.) I don't get it. I think some of it has to do with the thought that the Internet is full of things to guard against? And a shared account offers accountability? Just ponderings from formerlyllizzyb

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Aug 26, 2013 19:46:14 GMT -5 ladybug said:

I agree and I think 95% of the time it's really just the girl's page.

I was just going to say this. I have a few 'couples' FB's as friends and its always the wife. WHY have a joint then?!!?

[imimahoney]

Do people actually do that?

[unclejesse]

I think it can show a sign of distrust. Also, I get so confused with who is talking!

[TrudyCampbell]

People do this?

[Regina Philange]

I think it's so stupid.

[browneyedhunni85]

I think it's weird and a control thing.

[Regina Philange]

Aug 26, 2013 19:55:31 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I agree!

I've seen it a few times, mostly with older people - like parents. You know, OUR parents. The real parents, not us.

Hahahahah Tamb

[Faevantastic]

I did not know people do this. Laaaame!

[carawestt]

I think it's dumb too. Especially when it's like "JacknLucy's birthday is today!" Who's birthday is it really??

[katfco]

I agree that the shared FB page is dumb, but I can understand the shared email, especially if you also have separate professional emails. When DH and I were in China, we communicated with our loved ones mostly through email, and it would have been really helpful to have a shared account, because one of us was always forgetting to tell the other one what someone had said.

I don't know if it's a lack of trust thing, in general. I think it's more of a "we're a team, a single unit" thing. The friends I know who have shared FB accounts generally don't use it that often, either. It's more sharing pictures of the kids and communicating with family members.

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Aug 26, 2013 19:55:31 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I agree!

I've seen it a few times, mostly with older people - like parents. You know, OUR parents. The real parents, not us.

Oh ya! Actually my dad and stepmom do this. Haha

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I understand shared or family email. They probably have a separate one for work stuff but use the family on for friends and activities, etc.

[katfco]

Aug 26, 2013 20:16:20 GMT -5 @pcloadletter said:

Aug 26, 2013 20:12:38 GMT -5 katfco said:

isagree that the shared FB page is dumb, but I can understand the shared email, especially if you also have separate professional emails. When DH and I were in China, we communicated with our loved ones mostly through email, and it would have been really helpful to have a shared account, because one of us was always forgetting to tell the other one what someone had said.

I don't know if it's a lack of trust thing, in general. I think it's more of a "we're a team, a single unit" thing. The friends I know who have shared FB accounts generally don't use it that often, either. It's more sharing pictures of the kids and communicating with family members.

I hate the mentality that a married couple Is a single unit though. I am still an individual even though I am married. I also think if it is just gor picture sharing it ahould be The Blank Family instead of BobnBobette Blank

I tend to agree; I was just commenting on the idea that it's all about control or a lack of trust.

[formerlyllizzyb]

Aug 26, 2013 20:12:38 GMT -5 katfco said:

I agree that the shared FB page is dumb, but I can understand the shared email, especially if you also have separate professional emails. When DH and I were in China, we communicated with our loved ones mostly through email, and it would have been really helpful to have a shared account, because one of us was always forgetting to tell the other one what someone had said.

I don't know if it's a lack of trust thing, in general. I think it's more of a "we're a team, a single unit" thing. The friends I know who have shared FB accounts generally don't use it that often, either. It's more sharing pictures of the kids and communicating with family members.

This scenario makes sense to me!

I mainly don't understand people who don't utilize email or social media enough to have personal accounts. I don't share a phone with my husband...and I communicate with others just as much through email and facebook as I do my phone.

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We did a joint email when planning a wedding just to have all the vendors in one place

[bebeetmoi]

Aug 26, 2013 19:50:44 GMT -5 imimahoney said:

Do people actually do that?

This.
AKA reason 6836638538 I'm glad I'm not on FB. 

[bigapple]

I had no idea people did this. That just seems so weird to me. Does it take that much effort to set up your own account?

[laurack]

Agree. Super weird to do that! I can't understand this practice at all.

[creamsiclechica]

My dogs have a together Facebook lol.

No but I don't love it either. It seems strange to me.

[The Foozzler]

My cousin shares one with her H. It is weird because I have never met him but I was close to her growing up until she moved across the country. I feel awkward sending her a message.

I feel like a joint FB makes it seem like couples can't have their own friends.

[laurack]

Aug 26, 2013 21:05:53 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

My dogs have a together Facebook lol.

GASP

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My facebook UO is when couples talk to each other over status updates. Or just in general, talk on Facebook, have convos.. Sometimes I wonder if they are even sitting next to each other on the couch, you know?

[pippilongstocking]

Yeah, I agree that it's weird!

[charmediamsure]

I agree with this, but I'm kind of doing it....

I used to have my own fb, but I also used to use fb a lot more than I do now. I'm a teacher, however, and I've had students and colleagues try to send me friend requests or messages and it weirds me out. I have maximum privacy settings but somehow that doesn't matter or maybe they have a random mutual friend, I don't know. Either way, I'm uncomfortable with it especially since i dont have a permanent teaching position yet. So I deactivated my account. I reactivated my account over the summer but now that school is starting next week, I'm back on hiatus.

So I use my H's account sometimes, mostly to see what is going on with family or our mutual friends. Also, because all of H's family are 8-12 hours away from us we use fb to share photos of J so I linked his account to my Instagram. Sometimes I 'like' company pages for contests or freebies or share funny things but I generally don't post. H wanted to change the display name to both of our names but I told him its weird and I didn't want to do that. So, for me, it is definitely not a control thing, it's a way to still catch up with family but avoid students and colleagues.

[dojo]

Ugh - fb accounts for pets is marginally worse.