I feel SO bad for DH

[musiclover]

ugh..Nolan is 16 months and STILL is attached to me.  Just last night we had 3 situations where N lost his shit because I dared to leave him with DH.

1) When DH got home from work I left him outside to play with the boys so I could go make dinner, N cried and cried and cried (while staring at the house) until I came and got him. Perhaps a touch of that was him being hungry, but he was not crying like that when I was out with him.

2) During dinner I ran upstairs really quickly to grab something, N stopped eating and cried so hard the entire 2 minutes I was up there.  The moment I came back he stopped crying immediately and picked right back up with his eating.

3) N woke up at like 10pm crying last night, he is either teething or a little sick so he has done this a little bit this week, DH went up to soothe him. After 5 minutes of intense crying I went up to see if I could help, DH was sitting in the dark holding N trying to calm him down, the second he could hear me in the room, he lunged over to me and stopped crying.  DH said that he was trying to get out of his arms the whole time .  Cue heart break.

Wow, Adam was NEVER this bad, it breaks my heart for DH because he really is getting so sad about it. To add insult to injury Adam had a small meltdown while I was cooking and said he also wanted to be with me in the kitchen while I cooked and Nolan hung off my hip.  I don't get it, DH is amazing, but the kiddos are practically still in my womb it seems.
side note: Nolan is happy to be left at daycare and see his friends every morning....

Has it gotten any better @sprinkles?

I know I should probably let N cry more with DH, but if I am home it breaks my heart not to give him what he wants....me. 
How is that for a child who FF, lol?

[sunshineluv]

Hopefully this clingy phase will pass. Henry gets more clingy at times, I feel bad for DH too. But Henry seems to get over it really quickly.

I have a feeling if we have a girl next, she will be clingy to DH then we will be even, haha.

[greenkitty98]

You have pretty much described what happens when I leave P with dh. B also wants me instead of dh 90% of the time when he is upset or sick (even if I was the one that made him upset by saying no).

I took B into the store with me the other day and left P in the car with dh. She screamed the whole time and calmed as soon as I got back in the car. And heaven forbid I try to walk in a different room than her at home.

Eta: B has no problems being with dh if he isn't upset/sick, so at least dh gets to have fun with one of them.

Sent from my Galaxy Nexus

[musiclover]

Aug 27, 2013 9:46:09 GMT -5 @pcloadletter said:

Poor your H. Owen never went through an I want Daddy phase like Hazel. It is all me all the time, but not on the same scale as N. It is exhausting for both parents.

It totally is, I keep telling DH that it is not roses and puppies for me the whole time when I've got N clinging to me and I try to use the bathroom or God forbid leave the room to grab something.  It's tough all around, but of course it must be way worse for him to feel rejected

[musiclover]

Aug 27, 2013 9:47:37 GMT -5 greenkitty98 said:

You have pretty much described what happens when I leave P with dh. B also wants me instead of dh 90% of the time when he is upset or sick (even if I was the one that made him upset by saying no).

I took B into the store with me the other day and left P in the car with dh. She screamed the whole time and calmed as soon as I got back in the car. And heaven forbid I try to walk in a different room than her at home.

Eta: B has no problems being with dh if he isn't upset/sick, so at least dh gets to have fun with one of them.

Sent from my Galaxy Nexus

Yep, I can relate to the car thing too and to the leaving the room pain, it's tough.  It's to the point that whenever someone needs to go get something, it needs to be him and I'll stay with N, it is just not worth it to hear N get so upset.  Sometiems at night N will wake up and need Tylenol, DH has to get it.  I'm sure that someday we'll miss this phase...right? lol.

Adam is pretty much cool to do whatever, but will 90% pick me for various things over DH. 

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Ugh, this breaks my heart... and I totally get it. Cam still does this with DH. It has helped that he's been home all summer, it seemed to be getting better. But DH was gone over the weekend and he started work on Monday. So I can already tell Cam is slowly clinging to me again. He likes to play with DH when I'm home and around, but if I need to go start dinner and leave while they are playing, Cam RUNS for me. I know it still breaks his heart... and I just feel so awful. I didnt ask for this, and I wish DH knew how much it hurt me to see it too.

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This same nonsense goes on here too, but a little less extreme. Just a little. If I'm at work, j will let DH put him to bed, but if I'm anywhere in the apartment j would rather be attached to my hip doing nothing than in his room playing with h. It's weird.

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Ya similar situation here but slightly less extreme. It sucks. I feel bad for DH and it's also stressful to me, I just want a break!

[carawestt]

Exact same thing is/has been going on with Lincoln. I have to be right next to him or he freaks out. We were at the grocery store yesterday and I was standing behind the stroller, he couldn't see me for a min and he started saying "mama?" and looking around frantically. I feel really bad for my H because he only gets to see him for a couple hours a day but Lincoln only wants me. What is the deal with these boys??

[greenkitty98]

Aug 27, 2013 9:53:24 GMT -5 musiclover said:

Aug 27, 2013 9:47:37 GMT -5 greenkitty98 said:

You have pretty much described what happens when I leave P with dh. B also wants me instead of dh 90% of the time when he is upset or sick (even if I was the one that made him upset by saying no).

I took B into the store with me the other day and left P in the car with dh. She screamed the whole time and calmed as soon as I got back in the car. And heaven forbid I try to walk in a different room than her at home.

Eta: B has no problems being with dh if he isn't upset/sick, so at least dh gets to have fun with one of them.

Sent from my Galaxy Nexus

Yep, I can relate to the car thing too and to the leaving the room pain, it's tough.  It's to the point that whenever someone needs to go get something, it needs to be him and I'll stay with N, it is just not worth it to hear N get so upset.  Sometiems at night N will wake up and need Tylenol, DH has to get it.  I'm sure that someday we'll miss this phase...right? lol.

Adam is pretty much cool to do whatever, but will 90% pick me for various things over DH. 

Maybe we'll miss it when they are teens and want nothing to do with us.