Post by browneyedhunni85 on Aug 30, 2013 19:34:01 GMT -5
I've had bad anxiety today. Some of my coworkers were telling me about this group of people going door to door selling stuff in attempt to abduct children. One of the girls has 4 siblings and they've came to her parents house twice. One of my biggest fears is someone breaking into our house and kidnapping Christian. He sleeps in his own room and it's on the other side of the house. We sleep with the monitor all the way up but it still really worries me. I feel like I live in fear all the time and it's starting to drive me crazy. I always think of the worse possible thing. DH left to help a friend load something in his truck and when he came back and I heard him at the door my heart started racing thinking that someone was trying to break in or that those people were at the door.
I've also read several stories online that have been upsetting. I saw a video of a mom hitting and kicking her young child in a store. Also, a 17 month old boy was killed today by a BB gun. The dad was apparently trying to scare the kid and didn't realize the gun was loaded. Then, I read a harsh letter on FB that a neighbor wrote another neighbor telling them how much of a nuisance her autistic child is and that they need to move. It was a very awful letter and I wish I wouldn't have read it. I just feel like we are surrounded by so much evil and it scares me that my child is having to grow up in a world like this. It makes me scared for the future.
Sorry for the rambling. I just feel like I need to get this out.
Also, having a large dog who barks a lot has helped me. She's more likely to jump all over and lick an intruder, but she won't do it quietly, which would give me time to call 911 in the supremely unlikely scenario of someone breaking into our house.
I understand how you feel. My husband is thinking about going back to midnights becuse the amount of forced overtime he gets lately is ridiculous. While I completely understand where he's coming from and agree that his current schedule isn't very good for his grad school work load, the thought of being home alone at night 5 nights out of the week with the kids scares me to death.
I don't sleep well when he's not home. I hear every squeak and creak in the house and worry about people breaking in
When DH was in Wisconsin I slept like crap. I had to take Tylenol pm a few nights just to be able to function the next day.
Post by puppylove64 on Aug 30, 2013 20:34:38 GMT -5
I've heard about those abductors too! At first I shrugged it off thinking it was fake, but it is ALL over fb! It is possible one came to my house a few months ago, he was selling expensive books for kids. I just hope my dogs would wake us up if we had an intruder! Scary place!
I've heard about those abductors too! At first I shrugged it off thinking it was fake, but it is ALL over fb! It is possible one came to my house a few months ago, he was selling expensive books for kids. I just hope my dogs would wake us up if we had an intruder! Scary place!
I've heard that 5 kids were kidnapped in Carroll Co. but were returned to their parents. Our chief of police made an article in the sentinel about it because there have been complaints about it in my county too. People said they are extremely aggressive.
Post by charmediamsure on Aug 30, 2013 21:11:58 GMT -5
Oh yeah, I'm a nervous wreck sometimes, too. My H works nights and when we move (we are in a basement apartment at my parents' house right now so I'm not alone) but when our new house is built H says an alarm system is a 100% necessity. I don't think I would feel safe without one.
Once someone came to our door claiming to be a photographer asking if there were any children in the house. My grandmother had answered the door and I grilled her for a good 15 minutes making sure she did not say there was a child in the house. What a creeper. I mean, who does that?
And that letter that was sent to the family with the autistic child was about 20 minutes from where I live. People suck.
Post by charmediamsure on Aug 30, 2013 21:24:12 GMT -5
Oh, also, I have GAD. Before pregnancy and breast feeding I used to have a prescription for Ativan and, let me tell you, that will calm you down quick when you have a legit panic attack. I've been learning to deal with panic attacks on my own since I can't take those things while nursing and it is really difficult without meds--ive learned to talk myself through a panic attack but it's so hard. Know that diagnosed anxiety isn't your regular garden variety anxiety so, like me, if you find yourself struggling to the point where you can't focus on anything else or are experiencing physical symptoms then it's a really good idea to talk to a doctor to see what your options are.
Hugs to you. The world is a scary place. When that story came out about the NJ home invasion where the mother was beaten in front of her toddler I was a complete wreck for days. It's hard not to let those things affect us, especially as moms, but this is when I have to try to remember that these things are rare.
I get it. Everything scares and freaks me out. I am so paranoid and full of anxiety. People suck but you're such a wonderful mom and C is a lucky little man to have you.
Post by TrudyCampbell on Aug 30, 2013 21:52:13 GMT -5
I'm sorry. I also get really bad anxiety about stuff like that when we are out of the city. For some reason my cramped building full of people makes me feel safe.
When we move to the burbs I'm going to need the best alarm system money can buy in order to sleep at night.
Ugh I'm sorry, anxiety sucks. I never felt anxiety before pregnancy/child, now I feel it a lot.
Mostly I worry about car accidents and her dying in her sleep, crazy person breaking into her daycare or her just having a horrible accident there. I feel stories I read affect me more than would be considered "normal" as I usually picture Matilda in the sad situation in great detail, then I cry.
I agree talking to someone might help you? I've been vaguely lately about how maybe I should see someone but then I feel good for a while and I'm like nah... I'm totally fine!
It does sound like this is pretty common for moms so at least we aren't all alone in this.
Ugh I'm sorry, anxiety sucks. I never felt anxiety before pregnancy/child, now I feel it a lot.
Mostly I worry about car accidents and her dying in her sleep, crazy person breaking into her daycare or her just having a horrible accident there. I feel stories I read affect me more than would be considered "normal" as I usually picture Matilda in the sad situation in great detail, then I cry.
I agree talking to someone might help you? I've been vaguely lately about how maybe I should see someone but then I feel good for a while and I'm like nah... I'm totally fine!
It does sound like this is pretty common for moms so at least we aren't all alone in this.
I feel all of this. I still put my hand on his back to make sure he is breathing in his sleep. Is it possible for anxiety to be passed down from family? My dads side as BAD anxiety.
Ugh I'm sorry, anxiety sucks. I never felt anxiety before pregnancy/child, now I feel it a lot.
Mostly I worry about car accidents and her dying in her sleep, crazy person breaking into her daycare or her just having a horrible accident there. I feel stories I read affect me more than would be considered "normal" as I usually picture Matilda in the sad situation in great detail, then I cry.
I agree talking to someone might help you? I've been vaguely lately about how maybe I should see someone but then I feel good for a while and I'm like nah... I'm totally fine!
It does sound like this is pretty common for moms so at least we aren't all alone in this.
I feel all of this. I still put my hand on his back to make sure he is breathing in his sleep. Is it possible for anxiety to be passed down from family? My dads side as BAD anxiety.
Research is still wishy washy about whether it's passed down or not. I think the tendency towards being anxious can be, IMO. If it's affecting your everyday life (not sleeping) - it's definitely worth talking to your doctor about.
I feel all of this. I still put my hand on his back to make sure he is breathing in his sleep. Is it possible for anxiety to be passed down from family? My dads side as BAD anxiety.
Research is still wishy washy about whether it's passed down or not. I think the tendency towards being anxious can be, IMO. If it's affecting your everyday life (not sleeping) - it's definitely worth talking to your doctor about.
This.
I had pretty extreme anxiety for 9 months after Ada, I probably should have talked to my doctor and now wish I did. It impacted my sleep and daily activities, if it is impacting sleep or activities I think you should talk to your doctor, it sure can't hurt.
I've heard about those abductors too! At first I shrugged it off thinking it was fake, but it is ALL over fb! It is possible one came to my house a few months ago, he was selling expensive books for kids. I just hope my dogs would wake us up if we had an intruder! Scary place!
I've heard that 5 kids were kidnapped in Carroll Co. but were returned to their parents. Our chief of police made an article in the sentinel about it because there have been complaints about it in my county too. People said they are extremely aggressive.
Omg! I didn't realize anyone had been kidnapped. I just told dh and he said a European guy came to our house last week selling books while he was in the garage! The guy kept asking dh if the mother was home and was very persistent to meet me!!! I didn't even know this until now!!! I'm freaking out. I'm so glad we are headed to the beach now and will be gone all week. When we get home, I'll be sure to lock all windows and doors when L and I are home alone
I've heard that 5 kids were kidnapped in Carroll Co. but were returned to their parents. Our chief of police made an article in the sentinel about it because there have been complaints about it in my county too. People said they are extremely aggressive.
Omg! I didn't realize anyone had been kidnapped. I just told dh and he said a European guy came to our house last week selling books while he was in the garage! The guy kept asking dh if the mother was home and was very persistent to meet me!!! I didn't even know this until now!!! I'm freaking out. I'm so glad we are headed to the beach now and will be gone all week. When we get home, I'll be sure to lock all windows and doors when L and I are home alone
My coworkers live in your area and she told me that 5 were but their names weren't released. This could all be hear say but it still freaks me out.
Omg! I didn't realize anyone had been kidnapped. I just told dh and he said a European guy came to our house last week selling books while he was in the garage! The guy kept asking dh if the mother was home and was very persistent to meet me!!! I didn't even know this until now!!! I'm freaking out. I'm so glad we are headed to the beach now and will be gone all week. When we get home, I'll be sure to lock all windows and doors when L and I are home alone
My coworkers live in your area and she told me that 5 were but their names weren't released. This could all be hear say but it still freaks me out.
I shrugged it off as hearsay originally, but I'm hearing it from soooo many local folks that I'm starting to believe it
This seems like an urban legend. That said I don't ever answer the door for anyone, period. Whether DH is home or not. Our family and friends know to call first if they want to come over and have us actually answer the door. If its a package being delivered they can leave it on the porch. We have a ton of solicitors in our neighborhood, drives me nuts.