So, we told my family about the fetus.

[TrudyCampbell]

And let's just say I wish I was related to kdrake8 because her parents were the cutest with their reaction. 

NO ONE understood the big sister shirt. Only my youngest brother did and he basically had to walk the rest of them through what it meant. It felt so complicated! And then everyone was happy, blah blah, but that was it. I know I sound like a baby when I say this but no one asked how I was feeling etc and it just felt very anti-climactic. My dad was the only one who stood up and hugged me. 

Then my mother proceeded to argue with me when I told her she can't share the news for another month or so... how it's so unfair of me to ask something like that etc. 

Then my grandmother proceeded to tell me it's "unnatural" to find out the sex of the baby before the birth. She was comparing it to being able to choose the gender of your child before conception in a futuristic way. She said "I absolutely did not choose to find out the sex beforehand because it is not natural and it is not what god would have wanted." Umm... actually, I'm pretty sure you didn't choose to find out because you gave birth in the 1950's and it wasn't a fucking option! 

Now the only person left to tell, besides friends, is my SIL. I cannot wait to tell her. She is not going to be as thrilled as she appears to be. 

[carawestt]

I'm sorry you didn't get the reaction you wanted. I really hate when everyone gets upset that they can't share YOUR news. And your grandma needs to take a chill pill.

[muppetinma]

Your family is lame. When I found out, I cheered out loud for you.

[spaghetticat]

I'm sorry it wasn't the reaction you wanted. I totally understand.

[fusion]

I'm sorry

[Deleted]

Ugh I'm sorry! That sucks!

Well WE'RE all super excited for you!!!!!!!!

When do you find out by the way?! I know it's a while away but what's your plan? Elective at 15w or anatomy scan?

[ruby412]

Ugh, I'm sorry your family ruined the fun. They had a temporary moment of suckage.

How did your ILs react? Did you tell them last weekend?

[thedahliharpa]

Trudy, one upside to producing a boy, should you do so, is that you will do so BEFORE sil does. Hehehe :-p

[rjamz]

Ugh, bummer, I'm sorry.

I'm really happy for you!! I know it's not the same though.

[TrudyCampbell]

Sept 1, 2013 17:42:19 GMT -5 ruby412 said:

Ugh, I'm sorry your family ruined the fun. They had a temporary moment of suckage.

How did your ILs react? Did you tell them last weekend?

They had a good reaction. Nothing over the top, but they were really happy. They're WASPs so they express as little emotion as possible 

Thank goodness we told my ILs bc my dad texted my FIL to say something about it without asking us if we had told them! Oy. 

[TrudyCampbell]

Sept 1, 2013 17:42:32 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Trudy, one upside to producing a boy, should you do so, is that you will do so BEFORE sil does. Hehehe :-p

I will not pretend that this has not crossed my mind 

[TrudyCampbell]

Sept 1, 2013 17:42:04 GMT -5 ladybug said:

Ugh I'm sorry! That sucks!

Well WE'RE all super excited for you!!!!!!!!

When do you find out by the way?! I know it's a while away but what's your plan? Elective at 15w or anatomy scan?

I'm going to see when I can get my anatomy scan. My OB practice does two (one and then another one 3ish weeks later), so if I can get the first one at 16w then I'll just do that. The midwife at my last appointment said 16w is the earliest so I'm going to try to go right on that exact day! 

If I'm (hopefully) still measuring ahead at my NT scan I'm going to go by those dates. That would make me 10w today so only 6 weeks to go! But, I might not be 10w yet. We shall see.

[fusion]

Sept 1, 2013 17:46:54 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Sept 1, 2013 17:42:04 GMT -5 ladybug said:

Ugh I'm sorry! That sucks!

Well WE'RE all super excited for you!!!!!!!!

When do you find out by the way?! I know it's a while away but what's your plan? Elective at 15w or anatomy scan?

I'm going to see when I can get my anatomy scan. My OB practice does two (one and then another one 3ish weeks later), so if I can get the first one at 16w then I'll just do that. The midwife at my last appointment said 16w is the earliest so I'm going to try to go right on that exact day! 

If I'm (hopefully) still measuring ahead at my NT scan I'm going to go by those dates. That would make me 10w today so only 6 weeks to go! But, I might not be 10w yet. We shall see.

Make sure to get some good dangle shots at the NT scan so we can all agonize with you on them.

[TrudyCampbell]

Sept 1, 2013 17:50:51 GMT -5 fusion said:

Sept 1, 2013 17:46:54 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

I'm going to see when I can get my anatomy scan. My OB practice does two (one and then another one 3ish weeks later), so if I can get the first one at 16w then I'll just do that. The midwife at my last appointment said 16w is the earliest so I'm going to try to go right on that exact day! 

If I'm (hopefully) still measuring ahead at my NT scan I'm going to go by those dates. That would make me 10w today so only 6 weeks to go! But, I might not be 10w yet. We shall see.

Make sure to get some good dangle shots at the NT scan so we can all agonize with you on them.

You betcha! I'll be either 11 or 12w... is that too early?

[kdrake8]

I'm sorry that sucks. I wish they had gotten more excited for you!

WE are excited for you, if that helps

[TrudyCampbell]

I'll be 12w2d at the NT if my new measurements are correct.

[fusion]

Sept 1, 2013 17:52:35 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Sept 1, 2013 17:50:51 GMT -5 fusion said:

Make sure to get some good dangle shots at the NT scan so we can all agonize with you on them.

You betcha! I'll be either 11 or 12w... is that too early?

It looks like 12 weeks is more accurate www.baby2see.com/gender/external_genitals.html

[muppetinma]

I got a correct guess at 12 weeks, so it is possible.

[eav2c]

Sept 1, 2013 17:57:31 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

I'll be 12w2d at the NT if my new measurements are correct.

That is perfect timing for nub guessing. Ask the tech for a profile nub shot. Potty shots aren't good at that age for guessing.

Sorry for the less than stellar response. We couldn't be more thrilled for you.

[formerlyllizzyb]

Huh. Interesting? I'm sorry it wasn't what we would all want from a reaction

[TrudyCampbell]

Before we told my H was like "let's video tape it!"

I am so glad we did not!

[imimahoney]

Aw, I'm sorry.

[Regina Philange]

Ahhhh family.

Sorry, we are super excited for you but you already know that.

[joyhart02]

My family had a similar reaction and it was pretty anti-climatic with C. They also did not understand the big sister shirt.

I'm sorry they did not get super excited. Know that I got irrationally excited for an Internet stranger when I heard your news.

[bean47]

I'm sorry their reactions were disappointing

[laurack]

Ugh I'm sorry their reaction was so lame!
How was their reaction to the announcement with v? Wonder if this is a normal second child thing, it's like meh just another one.. Ha.

[TrudyCampbell]

Sept 1, 2013 20:19:37 GMT -5 laurack said:

Ugh I'm sorry their reaction was so lame!
How was their reaction to the announcement with v? Wonder if this is a normal second child thing, it's like meh just another one.. Ha.

A lot more excited. It was a different situation because my mom was in the hospital still so I ended up telling most people separately. I did tell my dad and brothers at the same time on my dad's birthday with a mug that said "#1 Grandpa" and they were very excited, and then told me that they had suspected it anyway because I looked a little fat 

Oh, today my grandma told me she can tell I've gained weight since my last visit. I have not gained a single pound, but thanks for the confidence booster! She also told me she's never seen my skin look the way it does (which is terribly awful). 

[laurack]

Lol your grandma sounds like a real treat!

[eav2c]

My dad once told me" a few crunches will help your stomach." Thanks, dad. Family is interesting and honestly you are gorgeous and I am jealous of your hot self!