Feeling weird about my friend and XH

[kellbell191]

I agree with you that this sounds fishy. And I personally would not be cool with a good friend dating my xh.

[Deleted]

First:
I feel bad for you that you are in this situation.

Second:
I totally agree that what your friend is saying vs. what your friend is doing is completely different. You can be friends, but she clearly knows he has feelings for her, and by all appearances she seems to be kind of taking advantage of that. Regardless of whether or not you tell someone it "isn't a date", if you keep giving mixed signals like that... it just doesn't seem very beuno.

On the other hand, who knows what is really going on? It may simply be that you XH and/or your friend is being a little thick headed about this.

On another note, good for you that your are talking to your BF about spending time with your DDs.

[gozf]

Come sit next to me.

My exH slept with two of my friends. Everyone was really sly about it. I wasn't thrilled. I don't talk to those girls anymore.

I'm not saying they're fucking. I'm just saying that they're probably fucking and she is feeling you out to try to decide if you're going to go bonkers or not.

[Deleted]

I agree she is testing the waters with you. She is feeling around to see the reaction. Do not be fooled by the "i made it clear to him its not a date" BS. They may not be porking now, but they will be shortly!

You need to make a decision!

[stephbfan]

Be honest with her.
Tell her that you think she is getting closer and closer to your ex and even though it would make you uncomfortable, you are all adults and can work things out.

[ravenb1111]

It's sounds like she likes him. No way would I be going out with my friends xh and his children. It's like she's trying to get you to say its ok to do these things or it's ok to like him. She doesn't sound like a very good friend.

[ravenb1111]

Jun 21, 2012 8:33:35 GMT -5 gozf said:

Come sit next to me.

My exH slept with two of my friends. Everyone was really sly about it. I wasn't thrilled. I don't talk to those girls anymore.

I'm not saying they're fucking. I'm just saying that they're probably fucking and she is feeling you out to try to decide if you're going to go bonkers or not.

This

[prettyinpearls]

Flat out ask her if there's something going on between them. Explain that you would much rather have her be honest about it (esp since DD is involved) and that you can all be adults about it.

[starryfish]

Jun 21, 2012 8:54:16 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

Yeah, she's either hiding her feelings from you, or she's really enjoying his attention and is sending him all kinds of mixed signals.

this and/or she is feeling u out for your reaction...

[ECB]

Jun 20, 2012 21:53:45 GMT -5 inara said:

She started to suspect he had feelings for her and decided to stop spending time with him because she didn't want to lead him on.

Yeah. She goes from this to now going out w/ him twice. Supposedly she's clear that "it's not a date", but still... she stopped spending time w/ him before. What changed?

This isn't adding up to me either.

[gozf]

"It's not a date" is code for "I'm not telling you that we've been banging because I'm waiting for you to say, 'it's ok if it's a date,' at which point I will pretend that this relationship just started once I had your go-ahead."

This woman is not your friend.

[wrathofkuus]

What is WRONG with people?! How hard is it to just date attractive people who aren't your friends' exes, or your ex's friends?!