Post by karmasabiotch on Sept 6, 2013 13:36:40 GMT -5
This is going to sound so lame.
I feel like when J was in daycare and then preschool I could really go and get him anytime I wanted. Now I feel like since he's in actual school I can't do that. It such an odd feeling.
It's only his 3'rd day so I'm sure it will get easier or won't even be a thing anymore.
Yes, kinda. Her PreK had a very open door policy, even though it was all day. You can show up any time, and have lunch with them, play at recess, story time. Seriously, all the time. I was also FB friends with her teacher and the FB page would update all the time with pictures and what they were doing that day. I felt so involved. And I was also friends with so many moms there, so even if I wasn't there, at least 2-3 days a week someone would send me pics of DD at lunch or recess. It was so awesome.
Her K teacher is awesome, but it is such a closed door policy. I just want to know what is going on! But, I guess I don't want to be "that mom", and email the teacher all the time. Wahhhh....
Post by DotAndBuzz on Sept 6, 2013 13:44:37 GMT -5
I get you. I'm having a hard time not knowing what she's doing all day. Like, she gets off the bus talking a mile a minute, but it is about how first they sang a song, then a kid puked on the playground, after having been to the office twice, and Noah is a bully who got his clip sent to yellow today. I ask if they read any books or maybe did some math games or something (because I honestly have no CLUE what they're supposed to be doing in Kindergarten), and she's like "yeah. But I don't remember."
I get you. I'm having a hard time not knowing what she's doing all day. Like, she gets off the bus talking a mile a minute, but it is about how first they sang a song, then a kid puked on the playground, after having been to the office twice, and Noah is a bully who got his clip sent to yellow today. I ask if they read any books or maybe did some math games or something (because I honestly have no CLUE what they're supposed to be doing in Kindergarten), and she's like "yeah. But I don't remember."
And so it begins, I guess.
Yes, this! And I only get her off the bus once a week, so by the time I get home at 6:30, she has NOTHING to tell me. Other then how many times Polly got sent to the office.
Post by stephm0188 on Sept 6, 2013 13:48:14 GMT -5
I don't really relate to that. His preschool program was through the school district, but it was half days. There wasn't the kind of flexibility you describe.
It does feel a little weird and sad that he's so big. School is just... huge. That's what kids do. He's growing up and I don't like it.
Luckily, DD's Kindergarten program seems to be pretty open door. I can show up anytime to have lunch with her, and I'm pretty sure I could probably waltz into the classroom at other times, too, but I don't want to be That Mom. I was going to have lunch with her today (PIZZA DAYYYY!!!!) but DS is home sick again, so no dice.
But! I was genuinely sad the 1st day that the kids lined up, went in the room and the parents just stayed outside. I thought we were going in! I have no idea why... I didn't even get a chance to cry. I was kindyrobbed! Of crying!
I saw something that helped M answer questions. It said to ask specific things like. So who did you sit next to at lunch today or whatever. I tend to always say..."How was your day." and got the "I don't know, I don't remember." answer.
I saw something that helped M answer questions. It said to ask specific things like. So who did you sit next to at lunch today or whatever. I tend to always say..."How was your day." and got the "I don't know, I don't remember." answer.
I agree with this. The answer to "what did you do today" is always "Had fun!". And nothing else. Always.
Yeah. That and now we can't take a vacation until the summer or spring break and that's when EVERYONE else does it.
I'm enjoying it only because M is so tired after she comes home making bed time a breeze.
Thank you! We are taking W,TH, F, M off starting next week and then again the while week before thanksgiving. This is due to OOT inlaws. I feel all weird about that. DH justifies that this is it for the year and this is what he always did as a kid. This is going to be a yearly battle.
I miss DD. it is only kindergarten and it is literally a half mile away, but it feels like she is out in the big wide world alone. That said she was sick early this week and I was SO GLAD to send her back and was a little resentful I didn't get "my time".
Luckily, DD's Kindergarten program seems to be pretty open door. I can show up anytime to have lunch with her, and I'm pretty sure I could probably waltz into the classroom at other times, too, but I don't want to be That Mom. I was going to have lunch with her today (PIZZA DAYYYY!!!!) but DS is home sick again, so no dice.
Post by lissaholly on Sept 6, 2013 14:17:15 GMT -5
I use my mom, MIL and sisters for getting Daisy to talk. Put that girl in FaceTime with grandma and I know every thought that has ever passed through her mind.
Post by lolobeth802 on Sept 6, 2013 14:21:05 GMT -5
Ugh this school thing I HATE. I'm now enslaved by the school schedule. Missing a day to leave early for vacation etc is not possible, they just miss too much and can fall behind quickly. Not so much for my 1st grader, but especially for my 8th grader. No more easy breezy. Luckily I can still sneak my pre schooler out!!
Post by blueshirt2003 on Sept 6, 2013 14:43:36 GMT -5
I'm happy for my son to be in kindergarten. Me time and its quiet so that I can focus on my college course work. So, no sad days here! We are just finishing up week 2.
I'm happy for my son to be in kindergarten. Me time and its quiet so that I can focus on my college course work. So, no sad days here! We are just finishing up week 2.
This is how I feel. Then again he only goes for half day K, so we still have some freedom. I spent the better part of the week cleaning the house from floor to ceiling. It was shockingly peaceful not to have a helper.
I do miss the face time at pick up with the teachers and the daily posting of class activities. It's so hard to get anything out of DS. We did get a letter from the teacher today, I really hope its a weekly thing. I'm trying not to be that parent and email the teacher the first week of school.
Post by saraandmichael on Sept 6, 2013 15:42:36 GMT -5
is this real life? i don't understand how not being able to pick your child up in the middle of the day whenever you feel like it is sad? aren't preschools structured so that if you went in the middle of the day you'd find them napping? is my heart dead?
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is this real life? i don't understand how not being able to pick your child up in the middle of the day whenever you feel like it is sad? aren't preschools structured so that if you went in the middle of the day you'd find them napping? is my heart dead?
I think that this maybe a sensation more common with parents who stay at home and/or have very flexible schedules. It never occurred to me to randomly pick up my kids at preschool/daycare because I'm working at the time those places have my children.
Overall I think change is hard. If you used to having your kids around more than having them gone more often is an adjustment. Most stay at home moms I know know IRL only do prek for a few hours a week vs. the 30 or so for kindergarten.
Post by karmasabiotch on Sept 6, 2013 16:45:03 GMT -5
I never picked him up early but I could have. On the morning he had preschool and in the afternoon is was called enrichments where he had a specific activity each day. They didn't have naps.
Now I feel like I can't. Maybe it would be different if my work day was more structured. I have a pretty flexible schedule.
In preschool, I often asked Matilda "what was the best thing that happened to you today?" and "what was the worst thing that happened to you today?" It made her stop and think about all the things that had happened that day, and I often got interesting answers.
But on the "worst" question, she usually looked at me like I was nuts and said, "Nothing!" Pollyanna.
DD1 just started JK yesterday and I asked her these questions. Best part: playing dressup. Worst part: listening. Sounds about right.
is this real life? i don't understand how not being able to pick your child up in the middle of the day whenever you feel like it is sad? aren't preschools structured so that if you went in the middle of the day you'd find them napping? is my heart dead?
I think that this maybe a sensation more common with parents who stay at home and/or have very flexible schedules. It never occurred to me to randomly pick up my kids at preschool/daycare because I'm working at the time those places have my children.
Overall I think change is hard. If you used to having your kids around more than having them gone more often is an adjustment. Most stay at home moms I know know IRL only do prek for a few hours a week vs. the 30 or so for kindergarten.