Can I complain about my FIL?

[jane6672]

Just a little? Is that ok?

Disclaimer: he has serious health issues right now, and is in a pretty big funk. We are being patient and supportive and understanding.



BUUUUT I just got a snippy voicemail from him.

"I've tried to call your husband and he didn't answer and I've asked him multiple times and you guys need to be available in case something happens and it's only 8:30 and you need to coordinate so that someone always has their phone on blah blah blah"

Dude. It's 8:30 on a Friday. What if we were getting jiggy? What if we were in a movie? What if we were showering?

I called back within 5 minutes. THAT SEEMS REASONABLE TO ME. In fact, H is at the gym (carry me around, bitch!), and I was spending some quality time with myself (more than you ever wanted to know), so forgive me for not leaping up and racing downstairs to have a chat with dad-in-law.

[jane6672]

I love him! I really do! But somewhat reasonable expectations are important.

[Deleted]

Yes, 5 min is reasonable. If he can call you, he can call 911. Anything else can wait 5 min.

[muffin0]

I'm guessing everything was totally okay and he just wanted to chat?

Hope you enjoyed the private time. LOL

[jane6672]

On a scale of urgent phone calls, this was a

Probably Should Respond Sometime Today
not a
Danger Will Robinson, Respond Immediately

[karmasabiotch]

It sounds like he's scared? Are there other people he can call so he has someone to talk with if you aren't around?

Being tied to the phone is awful.

[jane6672]

No, MIL is still alive, they are married, and live together. She is very available.

He's been in a real slump for a few weeks, and it has been interesting.


Remember; "Are you going to have kids, or are you just waiting for me to die?"

[Deleted]

he needs a swift kick in the pants.

[Muddled]

Sept 6, 2013 20:03:36 GMT -5 jane6672 said:

No, MIL is still alive, they are married, and live together. She is very available.

He's been in a real slump for a few weeks, and it has been interesting.


Remember; "Are you going to have kids, or are you just waiting for me to die?"

This would elicit nothing but snark from me, quite possibly resulting in a patience talk from H.

[jane6672]

Sept 6, 2013 20:16:02 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Sept 6, 2013 20:03:36 GMT -5 jane6672 said:

No, MIL is still alive, they are married, and live together. She is very available.

He's been in a real slump for a few weeks, and it has been interesting.


Remember; "Are you going to have kids, or are you just waiting for me to die?"

This would elicit nothing but snark from me, quite possibly resulting in a patience talk from H.

H told me (after the fact) that FIL said this, and I just died laughing. So inappropriate.

[Muddled]

Sept 6, 2013 21:02:42 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I would not be able to resist. Everytime someone asked me when I was planning on having kids, I would HAVE to say "Well, we're waiting till FIL is dead".
Then laugh maniacally.

Yep. And then I might have to let it slip that he should just hurry it up already because these eggs are rotting as we speak.