I know that we're doing the right thing I just still feel guilty. But I feel guilty for everything lol.
Quit with the guilt. She's a sociopath.
Oh, I meant guilty for everything else in life. I feel a tiny amount of guilt for how everything went down concerning her, but it's a lot less that my normal level of guilt lol.
Post by aussiecrush on Sept 6, 2013 21:57:06 GMT -5
We went through this almost exact scenario (except that MIL still occasionally spoke to her brother, but we weren't close). Without speaking to her we attended the memorial, as H was close to his uncle. It was a nightmare. The fallout has severed our remaining relationships with the family. In my opinion do not engage.
Post by sineadorebellion on Sept 6, 2013 21:59:17 GMT -5
My MIL would do this crap. We changed our phone numbers and moved lol. I'm sorry to hear about your H's uncle. But don't let this weirdo suck you back in.
No, he can mourn the death of his uncle however he chooses and she can find someone else to unload on, assuming that is actually what she is looking for.
IGNORE. I cannot believe she'd use her estranged brother's death as a means to try to rope in your dh again. No No No No No.
I'm with Sue, the only exception is that I can see it. My MIL used FILs sickness and death to control H and I. Any weakness and people like this will use it. He doesn't owe her anything. I'm sorry your H lost his Uncle and he has to focus on his own emotions and grief.
Can you bloke MIL # from your phones? I'd do this now,
Will your H be going to the funeral though? I know all families are different but if it were mine there's no way I could avoid my uncles funeral without getting blacklisted.
Will your H be going to the funeral though? I know all families are different but if it were mine there's no way I could avoid my uncles funeral without getting blacklisted.
No we won't be.
We live 7+ hours away from his aunts and uncles and 10+ hours away from his mom. H had zero relationship with this uncle.
I'm not trying to be thick-headed or too literal, but what does she plan to "use her son" for right now?
Because "use her son" seems like a recurring theme... That he just stopped volunteering for.
You got it exactly right.
We have seen so many personalities from this woman over the past few weeks. She's just trying to find the one that is going to get to H. It is honestly like witnessing a toddler kicking and screaming on the floor for attention.
This sounds like my MIL. She's using this situation to manipulate your H. My H cut off contact with his mother 2 years ago and he would tell you that it's the best thing that he's ever done for himself. Don't feel bad, you're not talking to her for a reason and you need to remind yourself why.
I'm not trying to be thick-headed or too literal, but what does she plan to "use her son" for right now?
Because "use her son" seems like a recurring theme... That he just stopped volunteering for.
You got it exactly right.
We have seen so many personalities from this woman over the past few weeks. She's just trying to find the one that is going to get to H. It is honestly like witnessing a toddler kicking and screaming on the floor for attention.
lol. This is exactly how I used to describe my MIL. And if she can't get it by going directly to H, she'll try to get his attention by going through you.