Neighborhood drama

[ooglie26]

Last week, my H was involved in an altercation with our neighbors daughter and her boyfriend, who are both in their early 20's.  They both have lengthy records with the police for fights/disturbances/violence, etc. 

Short story: She came running out of the house last week, screaming at the top of her lungs while wearing only a bath towel.  Her boyfriend, who was visiting, shoved her into the back seat of his SUV and was getting ready to take off.  H ran down and pulled the guy out of his SUV, because he thought the guy was trying to kidnap her or something.  The police were called, etc.

This morning, the girl stopped by our house while H was outside working on a car, and told him to watch his tires and stuff where he parks and where I park.  Evidently, her boyfriend has been making threats about slashing/popping our tires or messing with our cars/property.

I called the police and we filed No Trespassing orders against both of them.  About an hour ago, H found a piece of rebar that had been pounded into our rock drive where he parks.  I've lived here 9 years, and have never found anything like that in our drive.  We called the police to come take pictures and add to the report.

Is there anything else we can do to protect ourselves from these nut jobs?  I'm tempted to go buy a couple of cameras to install outside of our house, just in case.


I hate this type of drama.  All of our neighbors have been asking why the police have been by here a couple of times already this morning.

[montereybride]

Document document document

And yes! Install cameras!

[eb777888]

Ugh. Sorry.

I think cameras are a good idea. My friend has them and they have helped her already once get some damage paid for.

[goaskalice]

Shit, that's scary. I would definitely look into installing some cameras. Put in some motion sensor lights too, if they will point in the right direction. Heck even if they don't point in the right direction they may deter him a bit.

[Miss Phryne Fisher]

Install cameras for sure, and document everything.

What do the actual neighbors think of this, have they come to talk to you about this dickbag their daughter is with?

[jssymom14]

How worrisome! Install cameras for sure and make sure to alert other neighbors if they see something suspect to call police. Good job to you H for trying to help that girl!

[lime]

Another vote for cameras.

What do the actual adults that pay for the mortgage think of all of this? I'm guessing they don't love her BF either?

[ooglie26]

Thanks everyone. We're going to go look at cameras and stuff as soon as he's done working on that car. Our whole neighborhood knows about this girl and the drama that surrounds her, so they are watching our property for us too, since we can't be here 24/7.

As for her parents, they could care less. The young woman has a son with the guy who is threatening us, and her parents have custody. The sad part is, since she sporadically lives with them, her son is still exposed to all of the fighting/violence/drama. It has already affected his young life at 5 years old.

[Miss Phryne Fisher]

Sept 7, 2013 14:50:55 GMT -5 ooglie26 said:

Thanks everyone. We're going to go look at cameras and stuff as soon as he's done working on that car. Our whole neighborhood knows about this girl and the drama that surrounds her, so they are watching our property for us too, since we can't be here 24/7.

As for her parents, they could care less. The young woman has a son with the guy who is threatening us, and her parents have custody. The sad part is, since she sporadically lives with them, her son is still exposed to all of the fighting/violence/drama. It has already affected his young life at 5 years old.

That poor kid, what a fucked up family to not care if her daughter is around this dickbag. 

Keep yourself safe. 

[tacokick]

Costco has some really good deals on cameras if you want to go that route.

I don't remember if you have pets or not but keep a close eye on them and your yard if you do.

Beyond that, document and call the police or the non emergency number when there are issues. Hopefully he will direct his attention elsewhere eventually.

[bonquiqui]

Ugh, I am sorry you guys have to deal with this.  They sound crazy cakes.  I definitely agree with documenting and getting a camera.  

[ooglie26]

Sept 7, 2013 14:52:18 GMT -5 Miss Phryne Fisher said:

Sept 7, 2013 14:50:55 GMT -5 ooglie26 said:

Thanks everyone. We're going to go look at cameras and stuff as soon as he's done working on that car. Our whole neighborhood knows about this girl and the drama that surrounds her, so they are watching our property for us too, since we can't be here 24/7.

As for her parents, they could care less. The young woman has a son with the guy who is threatening us, and her parents have custody. The sad part is, since she sporadically lives with them, her son is still exposed to all of the fighting/violence/drama. It has already affected his young life at 5 years old.

That poor kid, what a fucked up family to not care if her daughter is around this dickbag. 

Keep yourself safe. 

Yeah.  I just want to shake her and tell her she's teaching her son its okay to treat women this way.  Then again, she doesn't know its not okay either.

Thanks.

[lime]

Well, that's crappy. Not surprising, but still crappy.

Kudos to your H for attempting to initially intervene. I'd hate to be kidnapped and have people think, "oh, it is just some domestic dispute I shouldn't bother getting in the middle of."

[ooglie26]

Sept 7, 2013 15:03:22 GMT -5 lime said:

Well, that's crappy. Not surprising, but still crappy.

Kudos to your H for attempting to initially intervene. I'd hate to be kidnapped and have people think, "oh, it is just some domestic dispute I shouldn't bother getting in the middle of."

Exactly this.  She had the nerve this morning to tell my H "the next time he and I are fighting, feel free to come down and punch him in the face." 

H told her he wasn't going to fight her battles for her, and was just going to call 911 from now on.

[RoxMonster]

Yikes. Yes, definitely document everything, install outdoor cameras, motion lights, and I'd consider car alarms since the threat was specifically about your cars. That way it may scare him off if he starts tampering with them. Your biggest ally, though, will probably be your neighbors. Most likely he will wait until you are both gone to try anything, so having them watching out for you and willing to call the cops immediately if they see him on your property will help immensely.