AAAHHHHHHH, we have to move in with the inlaws. save me

[biblionerd]

So it's good and bad. We accepted an offer on the house today (yay! right at 30 days on the market), BUT they wanted a 30 day close, we negotiated to like a whole 40 days. That's just not long enough for us to find a house, get the horses moved, etc. while pregnant, DH is slammed at work right now, AND my inlaws/babysitters are out of town until 1 week before the close. Plus, we do want a little bit harder to find house in our budget so we knew it might take a little longer. 

The problem is that we were originally planning on moving in with the inlaws for a month or two. Well... that would put us at the end of December. Then you have xmas and the holidays and I'm due mid January. So I really think we'll be there until Ruby is born. I just know if I can move everything in the dead of an Indiana winter while 8 months pregnant. 

It's not HORRIBLE I guess, but not ideal. :/ They have a finished basement with two bedrooms and a den without a door, full bathroom, kitchenette (would have to wash dishes in the sink or use their dishwasher upstairs which they don't care about), huge living area already furnished, and a dining area. We'd have a fridge, microwave, sink, and 2 toaster ovens, but have to use the stove and full oven upstairs. So the kids would each have a room and we could sleep in the den without the door. That doesn't bother me really. They are our babysitters and we do usually get along well. They can be overbearing, but they are nice. I just wasn't planning on living with them for so long. 

Has anyone lived with parents or inlaws and NOT been miserable?

[skwcm80]

Not the same, but my MIL used to visit for the entire summer when L was younger. It wasn't tooo bad.

Congrats on selling the house.

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YOU HAVE HORSES??!!!!!!

[formerlyllizzyb]

That's so great your house sold! And your in laws really do have a perfect set up for you guys. It could be much worse, for sure.

I do know it's NEVER easy to live with family for an extended period of time, so my heart goes out to you there. We lived with H's parents for two months one summer due to housing stuff, and it was not my idea of a good time

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Congrats! I would rather move in the Indiana winter then the hot hot Midwest summers. Moving is no fun anytime though. Fingers crossed the right house comes your way quick!

[biblionerd]

Thanks guys! They've been really upfront and seem really excited about it actually. Mil can NOT get enough if the kids. There's a separate door to upstairs and they've promised to not come downstairs unannounced and not expect anything from us really in terms if seeing them, spending time, etc. We've insisted on paying rent and they refuse and only want part if the water bill paid. I know it can (probably will) be super hard, BUT they are awesome with the kids and I'm trying to tell myself how great it will be to have two other babysitters in the house when I'm as huge as a house. Not that I EXPECT them to be here to wait on us, but you know what I mean. Its just more comforting to be there with them at the end of the pg I guess than to be out in the boonies alone with a hospital and them 45 minutes away.

[cat19]

Congrats on selling! I lived with XH's family - it was great except when they invaded my privacy - it was right after I had Linz and they would walk in while I was sleeping with my boob hanging out. They don't have the same personal boundaries as I do, but once we sorted that out, it was pretty nice.

[biblionerd]

Sept 8, 2013 19:49:03 GMT -5 @smudgee said:

YOU HAVE HORSES??!!!!!!

I do. Ones for sale, wanna buy her?

[charmediamsure]

Sept 8, 2013 19:52:53 GMT -5 @pcloadletter said:

I wasn't miserable living with my mom for the first year. After that it went wayyyyyy downhill

Yep.  I can't wait to move out of here in a month.  But you'll deal, it's not forever.

...and we use their dishwasher.  It's a huge deal to me that we get all brand new appliances in our new house.  I'm like "we get to get out of this basement AND I get a dishwasher?!"  Heh.

[teamhayes]

congrats on selling the house.

think of all the $ you will save to be able to put towards the new house and all the extra help you will have

we lived back and forth between my parents and my ils while I was pregnant with K while we were looking for a new house. We closed on March 17th and K was born April 27th.

it wasn't that fun. I had to take a bus to work 1 hour each way and I lived out of a bag going back and forth between homes but it was great in the end, I got to spend time with my parents again have cooked meals when I got home, my laundry done etc.

I would do it again in a heartbeat. I guess knowing I was only there for a little while made it wasier to swallow. If Ididn't have a tentative move date I doubt I could do it

[kdrake8]

Hey lady, I'm in the same situation.

We have been at ILs 6 weeks so far, 5 more to go. Is not as bad as I thought. They are super helpful with M and its nice having extra hands when I'm not feeling good. It can be stressful at times and difficult, but overall, not as bad as expected.

We will be moving in to our new place 9 days before my due date so he'd better stay in. Pretty much everything of his is packed on the POD. I imagine you having a newborn there will add a whole different dimension than what I (hopefully) will have.

PM me if you need to talk/vent!!

[helicase]

Congrats on selling the house! That's a big, big deal. You'll find your perfect house when the time is right.

I don't have any advice regarding living with the ILs. All I can say is good luck.

[spaghetticat]

Congrats on selling your house! I am destined to be the same positon, and I am jealous of your arrangement. My IL's have have offered to let us (and V) stay in their bedroom while they stay in the den. My BIL, SIL and niece are living there as well. All with one bathroom. Your scenario sounds like a dream. Think of all the money you will save. And all the help you will have with the older two once the baby is born. I think it sounds great!

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Sept 8, 2013 20:06:20 GMT -5 biblionerd said:

Sept 8, 2013 19:49:03 GMT -5 @smudgee said:

YOU HAVE HORSES??!!!!!!

I do. Ones for sale, wanna buy her?

Yep sure do! lol. 

I have horses too! Big ol' draft crosses, a couple of mutts,  a Tennessee walking horse and a Fresian. The Fresian knows that he is pretty and it drives me nuts. If I put a mirror in the pasture, I swear he would stare at himself all day. But I love him!  I dont ride them often or hardly see them because they live 4 hours south! They are rodeo/ film/ dressage/ jumping horses! I board/ rent them out. 

I knew I loved you. Horse people make sense to me.