I don't know how I'm gonna do this

[spaghetticat]

I'm sorry to whine. But I don't know how to be engaging to 25 kids when I feel like I'm going to barf. And I don't know how to go home to my kid and be a good mom when I'm laying on the floor barely playing with her, for the brief time we get together. I feel like a terrible everything. I just feel so damn sick all the time. And since no one knows, I just look lazy. I know I'm so so lucky. But I don't know how to get through this at the moment.

[Regina Philange]

Chin up! You will get through this. It's temporary. I hope you feel better.

[katie]

I am sorry, I really don't know how you teachers do it when pregnant. It's horrible enough having m/s when you are just in an office able to sit nevermind standing and talking. Have you talked to the doctor about zofran? I really hope you feel better. Did you get your lunch figured out? Are you eating enough?

[creamsiclechica]

Survival, honey. Don't focus on fine points. If you're making it through the day and night, it doesn't matter how you compare to the "usual" you. Right now is an exhausting, sick, and difficult time, and you just need to know you're doing a great job by surviving it. I did a lot of crying early on thinking I was failing at being a wife, mom, housekeeper, human. That couldn't be further than the truth. You are doing a great job, and putting pressure on yourself to do "better," is only going to make you feel worse unnecessarily. The fact you're getting up, getting to work, teaching, coming home to a child to feed, clothe, bathe, and soothe is a BIG job and you're doing it. Just hang in there. It's so hard right now, but it's not forever. Just do what you have to do I get through it, without being so hard on yourself. Hugs! Whine any time, I mean it!

[spaghetticat]

I am able to cope better when MH is home so I'm looking forward to that half of the week.

I have been eating yogurt and a banana before school and then for my 945 "lunch" today I had cereal and fruit. I was wondering if I need to eat a bigger breakfast but I'm not getting hungry, just nauseous. I haven't puked at all (knock on wood - don't want to do that in front of the kids) but I feel like I'm damn close most of the time.

I went to the dr last week and I have my first u/s later today, so hopefully that will make me feel better!

Thanks for letting me vent, guys. I appreciate the encouragement.

[cat19]

(((hugs)))

[sunshineluv]

Hugs!!! I can understand how you feel overwhelmed at the moment. I had LOTS of guilt about being a crap mom while I was in the thick of feelng bad (my work is at a desk so I can fake it a bit more easily than you).

What we did was in the evenings DH handled everything, and I would lay on the floor or loveseat while DH played with DS. Henry would come love on me and give me hugs but I was not playing or engaging him. It helped me a lot to even just get to hang out with him, even if I was having to be a crap mom.

HUGS!! This stage will pass, hopefully sooner than later.

[jaime183]

Ask your dr for zofran. You don't have to take it everyday but have it with you for the bad days. I felt it was so hard teaching while so nauseous and not telling on top of it. The kids would do gross stuff that would make me gag!
Zofran is the only way I survived my first graders!

[TrudyCampbell]

Ugh, I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine having to go to work right now. Can you ask for zofran?

Good luck at your u/s!

[laurack]

Every day I tell myself "I cannot do this, I just cannot." When I wake up. When I am at my desk or in a meeting. On the train. With M in the evening.

BUT every night I go to bed and I HAVE done it. I survived a work day. My child was loved and fed and bathed and is asleep.

You can do it too. It is all about survival now and doing what you can to get through this first trimester. Our kiddos won't remember that for a few weeks mommy was being a bit weird, they won't even know the difference. And they are getting a little brother or sister out of it!

So, hang in there only a few more weeks to go of this misery!

[kdrake8]

Hon please feel free to PM me anytime to vent. I understand. I could have written this same post in feb. I was a shitty teacher and then went home and the most i could do was lie next to Mila on the floor while she played.

It sucks. It will pass. You are doing better than you think!!! Big hugs.

[charlielove]

First tri is seriously survival mode. It WILL get better, but it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. Hugs!

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry that you feel so bad. It's so hard to keep engaged in all of your work with you feel like total crap. I really hope that it passes soon for you!

[ruby412]

Oh man, teaching with m/s is no joke! I remember it clearly. There was lots of deep breathing involved. Hang in there! Definitely ask your dr. about zofran. It didn't cure the nausea for me, but it made me not throw up, which was a great reassurance at work. You can take it as needed. Other things that helped me were peppermint chapstick - wearing it and taking deep breaths. Maybe also ginger ale and crackers?

Just take it day by day. You don't have to be supermom or superteacher. Just do what you need to do - this is temporary.

[formerlyllizzyb]

It is so hard!! Teaching full time while pregnant kicked my butt, and I didn't have a toddler at home.

I was recovering from hip surgery in my first trimester, so most people and my students assumed my fatigue and such was from that. Although, I don't recommend morning sickness and crutches together

Honestly, I might just tell people earlier this next time around if I have another rough first trimester.

[formerlyllizzyb]

spaghetticat Zofran is the only way I got through each day. I don't think I could have kept my job without it.

[carawestt]

I'm sorry! I can't imagine going to work all day while feeling like crap. Don't feel bad, you're doing the best you can right now!

[Beener]

I feel you. I rely on DH for everything- cooking meals, grocery shopping, playing with Emmy after work. I do what I can but sometimes, all I can handle is laying on the couch and maybe reading her a book.

I think Emmy understands because she's been extra cuddly recently!

[spaghetticat]

Mh is gone for half of each week and I lost it the other day when he was about to leave again. He's been really helpful but he's just not there sometimes and it's all me.

I really thank you for all of your replies. They are really helping!

Eta: ginger ale! I don't know how I forgot that. I tried ginger candies and they made me want to hurl. I will definitely give that a try.

[sunshineluv]

Sept 10, 2013 13:46:31 GMT -5 spaghetticat said:

Mh is gone for half of each week and I lost it the other day when he was about to leave again. He's been really helpful but he's just not there sometimes and it's all me.

I really thank you for all of your replies. They are really helping!

Eta: ginger ale! I don't know how I forgot that. I tried ginger candies and they made me want to hurl. I will definitely give that a try.

Oh no, that makes it a little more tricky. Just try and remind yourself it is okay if no dishes get washed and all you make for dinner is jelly sandwhiches and goldfish. TV is okay, survival mode!!

[jaime183]

Sept 10, 2013 14:03:30 GMT -5 sunshineluv said:

Sept 10, 2013 13:46:31 GMT -5 spaghetticat said:

Mh is gone for half of each week and I lost it the other day when he was about to leave again. He's been really helpful but he's just not there sometimes and it's all me.

I really thank you for all of your replies. They are really helping!

Eta: ginger ale! I don't know how I forgot that. I tried ginger candies and they made me want to hurl. I will definitely give that a try.

Oh no, that makes it a little more tricky. Just try and remind yourself it is okay if no dishes get washed and all you make for dinner is jelly sandwhiches and goldfish. TV is okay, survival mode!!

and pick up some paper plates/cups.... dishes can wait for when he's home!