Creepy lurker w/ MIL comment question

[HockeyRefWife]

The other day we went over to my IL's for dinner.  We arrived during DD's "witching hour" and she was wailing like a banshee.  As we pull her out of the car seat (still crying), MIL says to DD "Aww, are you crying because your mommy beats you?"  Umm, WTF?? I do not beat my two-month-old child thank you very much!

Later when DH and I were alone I asked what he thought of her "question" to DD and he said it was weird, but it's just her sense of humor.  

Am I right to be offended? Or is my PPA/PPD affecting my interpretation of her comment? As far as I'm concerned, physical abuse of my child is no laughing matter.

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

What's she like usually?
MIL and I say this to the girls in regards to each other often, but we are messing with each other.
PPD is a bitch.

[fivechickens]

It doesn't really matter whether anyone thinks its 'right' or 'wrong' you don't/didn't like it so it is wrong for her to say it. You should have your DH talk to his mom about not joking that way again.

[snickers]

I don't understand why someone would say something so insensitive to a mom, but I don't think she meant you actually beat your child. Sounds like it's just her twisted sense of humor

[Deleted]

She was probably joking, but that doesn't mean that she can't be told to knock it off in the future. Besides, that kind of thing is only funny once, and she failed on the first go. Time for grandma to get some new material.

[sparkythelawyer]

Is your MIL's humor normally this macabre? If yes, brush it off, it is really not directed at you. But I do get that it sucks when you are feeling otherwise tender.

[sugarbear]

I would be weirded out, if not offended. Does she know that you suffer from PPD / PPA?

[HockeyRefWife]

I really don't think she meant anything by it, but I won't lie - it did hurt to hear her suggest I'm abusing my baby, even if she meant it as a joke.  She's had to deal with some pretty serious medical issues of her own in the past (cancer, Crohn's) and DH is convinced that she's depressed as a result, so I'm reluctant to vilify her.

[game blouses]

DS's PT said something like this the other day, when DS was knocking on a table - "Do you knock like that because your mama knocks on your head?" WTF?

Some people have a weird sense of humor. I'm sorry you're going through PPD; I know it doesn't make these comments any easier.

[Booze Raccoon]

I think it was a joke.  Not a good one, but a joke nonetheless.  Also, you're probably extra sensitive.  Not a wise thing to say to you.  

[fivechickens]

I think your husband can say something to her without vilifying her.

[HockeyRefWife]

Ultimately I think DH needs to have a talk with her about my current "fragile mental state" (my words, not his).  She's the kind of MIL who says I'm not feeding DH properly when he loses weight (by his own choice) so I'm not too optimistic about the outcome.  She's definitely not my biggest fan since I stole her first born child from her.  Hopefully once my PPD/PPA medication fully kicks in I'll be able to let comments like this roll off my back!