My SIL judged me :( now with the picture. oops!

[fryjack2]

H and I spend every anniversary in NYC.  We have taken our picture in front of the love sculpture every year for 6 years-since the weekend before our wedding. 

This year, we spent 2 night at my IL's in Queens and 2 night by ourselves in Manhattan.  It was the first time I have been away from the boys for a night since they left the NICU.  ILs watched them for 40 hours.  MIL did some typical MIL shit and I was bitching to SIL about it.  Background- I'm close to my brother's wife.  They have twins as well and their marriage is a bit rocky.   She said, " Well, that's pretty typical for your MIL. Maybe just be grateful that she watched them.  Your brother and I haven't left the twins alone for more than a night ever and they are five. We just wouldn't feel comfortable doing that."

Ugh.  I wanted to say, well maybe if you did spend some time away, just the two of you, your marriage would be in a better place.  Then I felt bad for thinking that.  But geez.  The boys are finally almost sleeping through the night and I have no problem leaving them with their grandparents.   Don't judge me!!!!!!

And here's a pic of our traditional picture.  Last year, we held the boys up in the letters.  I'll see if I can find it on my computer





Last years picture:

[charlielove]

I love the picture, what a sweet tradition.

Do not feel guilty for taking time away. I'm guessing your SIL is a bit jealous that you guys took that time for yourselves and they haven't - it sounds like they need it.

[jaime183]

don't feel bad! if you feel comfortable you should go! You deserve it

[muppetinma]

Oh please. She's just jealous and wants to play Debbie Downer. I would leave Andrew in a heartbeat if I had friends or family nearby that I trusted. It's good for them and good for you.

[helicase]

Do not feel bad about leaving the boys. And don't feel bad for thinking what you did about your SIL. It's healthy to get away with your SO now and then.

Love the pic, too!

[dixeedeluxe]

I WANNA GO AWAY FOR THE WEEKEND!

[fryjack2]

I don't feel bad that we went away!! I feel bad that I judged her in return! But not really. I was annoyed!

[dixeedeluxe]

She's not my SIL, but I judged her saying "we" don't feel comfortable and thought like maybe she was alao speaking for her H.

[carawestt]

Don't feel bad! If we had someone we trusted that lived close to watch Lincoln, I would do the same thing. You deserve time alone with your H!

[jenbelle]

That is so sweet!!!! I have always "loved" that sculpture- what a nice tradition!!!  Forget SIL- I agreee with you- a night out now and then helps BIG time!!!
Happy Anniversary!

[DesertMoon]

Don't feel bad, I'm sure she's not exactly proud of never leaving them yet, I think that's kind of embarrassing . SILS bicker every now and then, you'll forget about it soon.

[katie]

Cute pic, eff your SIL I agree she is just jealous.