julez - Did you talk to your MIL last night?

[julez]

I did. I was still really hurt and upset about it, and I was trying really hard not to cry. I told her that it really hurt my feelings and that I don't appreciate being the subject of her scrutiny and gossip.

She was sincere and apologized profusely and told me over and over that she didn't mean to hurt me.

I know that I've done all that I can do, but I'd be lying if I said that I'm not still hurt. There's an icky, unfair part of me that thinks that she's just sorry that she got caught, and that she wouldn't have thought it to be a big deal at all if she hadn't accidentally sent the message to me.

She has made herself very scarce today, and while I'm thankful, it's just awkward. I hate awkward and I just want my house back and to not have to think about it anymore.

[pinkeggs]

I'm really proud of you. That's not an easy conversation to have, but I definitely think you did the right thing by discussing it. *hug*

[shostakovich]

Good for you for letting her know how you feel. She needs to know what a twat she was for even thinking those things, let alone texting them to a friend while she was in your house.

When does she leave again?

[vanillacourage]

I think you handled it just right but it's still sucky. Sorry julez.

[nursewife]

It looks like you handled that well. I felt the exact same way with comments. Since twins made me a bit of a walking freak show, people always commented in my size. ((Hugs)) you'll get there and deliver two wonderful babies. Opinions like that are just so unnecessary and rude. Maybe I could send a pic of my old preg tummy to your MIL. She would be shocked by the grossness of my stretch marks. Help take the heat off you

[bonquiqui]

I agree with Nic.  Fuck her.  ::hugs::

[Deleted]

I'm so impressed that you talked to her. It is so hard to tell people when they've hurt us; you are incredibly strong and empowered. I hope you can feel that through the (completely understandable) hurt.

[malibu]

I am so proud of you.

[Deleted]

i am impressed that you confronted her. that's so hard to do. you are graceful and awesome.

she is an unfair hosebeast.

[tacokick]

Sept 10, 2013 21:56:47 GMT -5 julez said:

There's an icky, unfair part of me that thinks that she's just sorry that she got caught, and that she wouldn't have thought it to be a big deal at all if she hadn't accidentally sent the message to me.

I don't think this unfair of you, this is probably true. I'm glad you said some thing and I hope she leaves soon! Maybe sooner than expected if you are lucky.