More public shaming of children from their parents

[Deleted]

I would never publicly shame Wy.

[cat19]

I hate this. Hate it. There are better ways to parent.

[lolaburns]

I don't really see what it accomplishes but I'm not in her shoes and haven't yet had to deal with a twerking 11 year old. I would think grounding and taking away privileges would be a much more effective option.

[monkeybabe]

I stated in a previous thread that I feel like public shaming is more a "look at me disciplining my kid" and more likely to cause serious ridicule and bullying among their peers at school than it is actual discipline.

[katfco]

Whatever happened to just saying, "You can't go do anymore dances"?

[sunshineluv]

I feel like there are better ways to dicipline. But I won't judge too harshly, until I have walked in her shoes. She may have tried all the other types of dicpline and feel like she has no control anymore. (But goodness I hope to still have some control at 11 :-))

[showdogz]

I don't know. I might be one for it because what a better deterrent than making an 11 yo totally embarrassed. I could've cared less about grounding, etc when I was a teenager (granted I am thinking more like 15 but times have changed).

[showdogz]

But I did think the sign should have said something more along the lines of the kid not respecting herself. Who cares about the parents? I don't know.

[creamsiclechica]

I have actually seen this happening here. I mean I've seen parents making their kids hold signs on the side of the road or at the mall for various transgressions. It doesn't sit well with me. Especially in some of the cases, because these people were trying to shame their daughter's promiscuity or inappropriate dress. Um, drawing attention to that makes it worse and makes her a target.

I don't know. We live in an AW society these days. Everything is becoming more about "look at me, look at me, I'm doing the right thing!" than just actually doing it and turning something into an actual teachable situation.

[mscatra]

Agree with Cream and Chels that it's more of a "Look at what a great parent I am!" moment than an actual lesson taught. It's not cause and effect in any way. It's just "Look at my power! I am parent, hear me shame!" But, I hate AWs, so I might be biased

[katfco]

I don't know if it's necessarily parents trying to show what good parents they are so much as trying to show kids that their actions have public consequences. Imagine how much less internet bullying there would be if people's actions and words were made public for all the world to see.

I'm not saying I agree with the choice, but I do see some of the logic behind it. They're trying to teach their kids to own up to their decisions.

[fusion]

I agree with Cream. Her daughter was being sexual, so she put her on a street corner? Does not compute. All that is going to do is make everyone who reads that sign imagine her twerking, which is NOT something I want people to be looking at my daughter and thinking about. She should be building up her positive traits, not breaking her down and making her feel even less self worth.

[monkeybabe]

Sept 11, 2013 13:51:33 GMT -5 katfco said:

I don't know if it's necessarily parents trying to show what good parents they are so much as trying to show kids that their actions have public consequences. Imagine how much less internet bullying there would be if people's actions and words were made public for all the world to see.

I'm not saying I agree with the choice, but I do see some of the logic behind it. They're trying to teach their kids to own up to their decisions.

I just really feel like this sort of discipline opens the kid up to so much more bullying, though. This girl is in middle school and middle school can be hellacious, without your parents adding to the public ridicule pool.