Also all I seeing is people trying to tie this to Obama, which I am like whaaaaa. Basically this is just another opportunity for Obama=Muslim which makes me all
This is mostly what I'm getting too. The most prominent one has the towers and says "12 years later, our president wants to support the people that did this. If this appalls you, share the photograph and pray for our nation."
Really?
I have people doing this too. It is so disrespectful and disgusting.
I don't get the judgement for ppl who want to process this day however they want to process it. I probably won't post anything, but I'm not going to analyze someone else's motives or whether they are feeling/doing/saying enough or the right things to make me give them the grief-stamp-of-approval. Maybe they are hurting and the way they process it seems "trivial" to you. Maybe they do want attention. Why do you care?
....because I'm a human being with opinions. Who is being subjected to these images on a public forum and is allowed to have an opinion about them. If you don't want possible judgment about a crying eagle photo or your status update about how grateful you are you were in Hawaii at the time with a blinged-out twin-towers gif, maybe keep it private.
I never suggested that people shouldn't have opinions. Similarly, I have an opinion about the comments made in THIS public forum and am allowed to share them. If you don't want possible judgement about your judgement...
I never suggested that people shouldn't have opinions. Similarly, I have an opinion about the comments made in THIS public forum and am allowed to share them. If you don't want possible judgement about your judgement...
You said you don't get the judgment. I explained why I react this way several times in this post previously. So if you still don't get it, I can't explain any further. I'm lol at your followup though. I DON'T GET YOUR JUDGMENT SO I WILL ALSO JUDGE UNCHARITABLY!
Oh snap, shit just got uncharitable! Lol Ok maybe I shouldn't have said I "don't get," which indeed implies I require further explanation. It was more that I can't *relate*. And I JUDGE! Heh
Most years, I usually post an article about the search and rescue first response dogs. This is more related to my career though, and everyone on my friend's list has always appreciated an article about the doggies when the rest of their feed is a ton of tragedy whoring. I lived in Washington state, and was young, and was celebrating my four day old baby brother. That's about as far removed as it gets.
My FIL posted a status today referencing the fathers he knew who had their lives impacted by 9/11 via their son's post 9/11 military service. He included himself and my H and it kind of bothered me. FIL was extremely uninvolved in my H's life during his time in the military and has been a source of approximately zero support for his service related disabilities. I don't remember a single god damn time he even called to follow up on a medical appointment or asked how H was doing. Yet he feels the need to blast all over facebook how deeply changed his life has been by H's military time. I don't know. It rubbed me the wrong way this year.
Oh snap, shit just got uncharitable! Lol Ok maybe I shouldn't have said I "don't get," which indeed implies I require further explanation. It was more that I can't *relate*. And I JUDGE! Heh
Which is the lol part. "I don't like that you judge uncharitably others' grief processes, so I will then judge yours uncharitably and become....just like you."
But I'm judging in defense of the broken-hearted, so I win.
I never meant to imply an anti-judgement stance in general. In this case of ppl dealing with something so heavy, though, I can't get behind it.
Post by sailorgray on Sept 11, 2013 13:35:59 GMT -5
My brother was a fist responder to the Pentagon and is even in one of the iconic photos from that day. His wife's family has posted how proud they are of him with the picture. I know they mean well, but he hates it. He says that firefighters just don't do that stuff. NO, I haven't posted anything and don't plan on doing so either. I know what I was doing that day and that's enough.
But I'm judging in defense of the broken-hearted, so I win.
I never meant to imply an anti-judgement stance in general. In this case of ppl dealing with something so heavy, though, I can't get behind it.
Eh. I disagree that my cousin in Washington State who was four at the time of the attack is "dealing with something heavy." lol. What about the people posting anti-Obama crap? Or the workout memes? Or the 9/11 discount on golf clubs one company posted? Sorry, but I'm judging the shit out of those as well.
I would agree on all of these instances (barring any losses to loved ones of the 4yo), and they probably do not deserve the dealing-with-shit protection umbrella. But I get uncomfortable when we start dissecting who has a right to grieve or what methods are acceptable. Maybe aunt Jo was touched by the glittery butterfly and hopes her friends will be too. I think that's great. Today sucks and I'd rather give a maybe-AW the benefit of the doubt than judge someone who may be doing something that helps them cope.
I'd almost rather see a stupid crying eagle than another picture of a kid holding up a pinterest 1st day of school sign or a picture of someone's dinner or that another person "liked" j.crew.
Maybe it means they actually thought about the people affected that day, even if it was just for the 2 seconds it took to post the eagle. Not that Joe in Seattle's thoughts mean much, but its some human emotion? I'm reaching.
Lucy Honeychurch You are right. I'm just trying to find some positive in all the FB bullshit. I just hid someone for posting no less than 10 Sept. 11th memes and ecards and quotes and NEVER FORGET!!!! crap. The last straw was when she tagged me in one of them and said, "thinking of you Fryjack2!!" Don't drag me into your crazy.