Post by orriskitten on Sept 11, 2013 8:28:43 GMT -5
The with grandma and gg continues.
I had a late appointment last night so by was at my grandma's. It was nice to have my home back, but now I'm struggling a lot. My grandma now has a neighbor who got evicted living with her. Essentially she is letting a homeless lady sleep on her couch for free, in return for homeless lady caring for her.
The main reason by is with me is because my grandma can't stand talking to her. But now there is a buffer with homeless lady.
Having gg here is getting really hard. She talks to herself and thinks no one can hear her, But we can. She has been saying "why can't I just die?" "Enough is enough" "why can't I sleep and never wake up again?" "I wish I were dead"And it is getting to me. On top of that, I don't want Melody to hear it and now that she is repeating everything people say, the day she repeats that, my heart will shatter. I have a small apartment so there is no other room to go to and Mel wants to play with gg, so there is no escaping it. I have tired talking to gg about it, begged her to not say those things, asked her if Mel should hear it, but she doesn't remember these conversations.
My grandmother has a much larger apt, gg censors herself around grandma and there is now the homeless lady, a home aide and cleaning lady there regularly. I am alone here.
I need my grandma to have gg up there. In addition to all that, I can't bring Mel places, we haven't been around other children since we were in Iceland in July because play group is when gg needs to be picked up. I don't even have a hamper that works to put gg's dirty clothes in, so it sits in my living room in a plastic bag, stinking up the apt.
DH has been so extra supportive, but we are stressed and he is starting to resent gg for what it is doing to me and I feel horrible.
How do I approach my irrational, self centered grandmother and make this happen?
Also, gg is getting Medicaid in the coming weeks and then will hopefully be able to go to assisted living. We looked at one place and she is really negative about it because it is40 mins away, but there is nothing closer.
I'm sorry you are dealing with all this. I think you are right, she is better off there. I know you want to care for her but it's better for all of you if she isn't in your small place. She will have so much more help there.
sorry, please take care of yourself and that adorable little girl.
I'm sooo sorry. That sounds like a terrible situation. I think you have to do what is best for you daughter and it sounds like having gg go to the home would be the best option. It is a sad situation, but you can't live like this.
I'm sooo sorry. That sounds like a terrible situation. I think you have to do what is best for you daughter and it sounds like having gg go to the home would be the best option. It is a sad situation, but you can't live like this.
No homes will take her since she is so physically well. Medicaid will happen in ~45 days and an assisted living should happen shortly after we hope.
She truly falls into some cracks in the system in terms of what she is eligible for.