I feel like this has to be a drug thing. I can't imagine being that desperate for $20 without any resource to access it. Did you respond to the last message?
Post by jojoandleo on Sept 11, 2013 10:42:39 GMT -5
I'm sorry gault-we all have those days. And you are right, if BF can't handle it, that says more about HIM than you. BUT, he may have just been thrown and not sure how to react at first. When I seem all put together and fine and then break down, H generally sits in silence for a while trying to take it all in. If I let the crazy out slowly, he's more ready for it.
partiallysunny-I had a friend of a girl I used to work with (met the guy maybe 2 times) ask me for legal advice on FB a year ago. I just told him I was still in school and it was illegal for me to give legal advice without being licensed. Then he said he understood, told me the entire story, and asked what he should do. Dude. I just ignored after that.
lol, jojoandleo. Thanks. He does get flustered with this kind of thing. We'll have to see how the next few weeks go. And hopefully I will feel better in general and won't take things so personally and/or retreat into myself.
partiallysunny, what a weird and random thing to do. For 20 friggin dollars.
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 11, 2013 11:32:42 GMT -5
I found a cricket in my office this morning--I'm on the 2nd floor of the building, how it got up here I have no idea. He was in the bathroom but ran off on my so now I have no idea where he is.
Is it wrong that I am glad it wasn't a roach (because they are gigantic in this building)?
Our contractor just emailed to ask if we wanted to start Monday, instead of 3 weeks from now. I want to say yes, but I'm afraid we won't be able to get it emptied in time. I am really sick of tripping over the broken floorboards though. And it would be done in time to have A's party at home.
My nose, or maybe my brain, is leaking. I think the weather changes have fucked up my sinuses bc every time I lean forward I leak. It feels like a nose bleed. I keep leaving drips of this runny yellow stuff around. I should not have worn a white shirt today.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 11, 2013 15:46:32 GMT -5
I finally dropped off all of my paperwork and the retainer payment with my lawyer. Now I feel sick to my stomach and my hands won't stop shaking... Why am I feeling this way??? I should feel relieved! UGH!
I finally dropped off all of my paperwork and the retainer payment with my lawyer. Now I feel sick to my stomach and my hands won't stop shaking... Why am I feeling this way??? I should feel relieved! UGH!
Because this is the biggest PERMANENT move you have made. It's not easy, even if it's something you want and need to do.
I finally dropped off all of my paperwork and the retainer payment with my lawyer. Now I feel sick to my stomach and my hands won't stop shaking... Why am I feeling this way??? I should feel relieved! UGH!
I just posted this on SO, but now I am compelled to post it here too.
I was wondering about you today. You are doing the right thing for you and DS, never doubt that ever.
p.s. I spent the last hour or so snuggling the blanket you sent me. It still smells good
I finally dropped off all of my paperwork and the retainer payment with my lawyer. Now I feel sick to my stomach and my hands won't stop shaking... Why am I feeling this way??? I should feel relieved! UGH!
(hug) (hug2) There is no book on what you should or shouldn't feel.
I finally dropped off all of my paperwork and the retainer payment with my lawyer. Now I feel sick to my stomach and my hands won't stop shaking... Why am I feeling this way??? I should feel relieved! UGH!
cause it IS scary. It's a big change! Plus, I am sure you are a bit worried about how your STBXH will react to it all. Your feelings are valid. *hugs*
I just got a heartbreaking phone call from a former employee. He took care of his wife and received compensation and support from the state to care for her (which is our business model - setting that up and allowing people to choose and control care for their loved ones etc).
His wife just died. Taking care of her was most of his income. He is in his late 70's. So now he has both no wife, and no job/money. He called asking about any unemployment benefits...which we don't provide to someone with his particular type of employment with us.
I feel terrible and had no news but bad news for him. So I said I'd research any supplementary income programs in his county and mail what I find to him (he doesn't have email). I also said I'd be on the lookout for any unemployment claims in case something does come through.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 11, 2013 16:25:10 GMT -5
I guess I just thought I'd prepared myself so well, that this part would feel easy... I was wrong. I was fine while I was doing the paperwork, but for some reason I just got a pit in my stomach while I was driving to her office. It feels so real, and surreal at the same time, like I can't believe this is really my life...
I don't doubt that this is the right thing to do at all. I clearly underestimated how hard this part would be emotionally...
Post by captainmel on Sept 11, 2013 17:57:29 GMT -5
I think your reaction is totally normal and expected starrieskies. You are amazing. Go home and relax and know that even though this is hard you are doing the right thing.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 11, 2013 18:05:41 GMT -5
Thanks guys! In about an hour and fifteen minutes, I will be with DS at the lake playing in the water and enjoying a beautiful, sunny day! I can't wait! I've been planning this afternoon trip to the lake for a week. I think it's just what I need.
Thanks guys! In about an hour and fifteen minutes, I will be with DS at the lake playing in the water and enjoying a beautiful, sunny day! I can't wait! I've been planning this afternoon trip to the lake for a week. I think it's just what I need.
That sounds like the best medicine for today. Enjoy! Like everyone else said, your reaction sounds pretty normal. You will get through this. (((starrieskies)))
Post by captainmel on Sept 11, 2013 18:16:35 GMT -5
I really dislike one of my little brothers friends. He is just so annoying. He just showed up at the house with his puppy. Your puppy isn't house trained and River is terrified of all dogs except my parents. You can't just bring your dog to someone's house. Also, I will not give you a ride home little kid. It is a block. I don't care if your puppy is tired, you shouldn't have brought her here in the first place.
I guess I just thought I'd prepared myself so well, that this part would feel easy... I was wrong. I was fine while I was doing the paperwork, but for some reason I just got a pit in my stomach while I was driving to her office. It feels so real, and surreal at the same time, like I can't believe this is really my life...
I don't doubt that this is the right thing to do at all. I clearly underestimated how hard this part would be emotionally...
It is not an easy thing to do. I sat in front of my attorney bawling uncontrollably as I signed the papers to file. (((Hugs))) it gets better
Hugs to everyone who needs one - PS, Gault, Starrie, Dixie.
My first wrinkle has appeared. Its timing is impeccable. I will console myself with the fact that the tailor thought I was 23 not 33. She got divorced 3 years ago and I convinced her to give online dating a shot.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 12, 2013 10:56:52 GMT -5
I was so preoccupied with my own drama yesterday that I completely forgot to say...
HUGS to you all!!
partiallysunny, I'm so sorry you had to put your kitty down! I'm sure it was a heartwrenching decision, but I think you know deep down it was the most loving thing you could do.
cuddlyevil, I'm so frustrated for you! I hate dealing with insurance adjusters!!!
gault, that sounds like an awful, conversation to have! Also, I'm so sorry that you're feeling down. I wish there was something I could do for you!