Vent - I really hate tragedy whoring on FB

[gmail]

This is intentionally vague, and I'm sorry. I'm just really ragey at this and need to vent.

A friend experienced a loss a few years ago, and today is the birthday of the person she lost. So we sent her private messages and whatnot, acknowledging her loss and sending her love, etc. Another person made a fucking STATUS about this person's loss. She was all "Let's never forget So-and-so's person, etc etc."

IT'S NOT YOUR FUCKING LOSS TO AW OUT. It's not about you. It has nothing to do with you. Even if this person was your very best friend in the whole wide world, YOU DO NOT AW OUT SOMEONE ELSE'S TRAGEDY LIKE THAT. Send her a fucking private message. Show up at her house with a card. DO NOT MAKE THIS ABOUT YOU.

UGH.

It made me so mad.

[jerseygrl]

that is bullshit.  I hate tragedy whoring more than you can know.  I have a CW who does that about people she doesn't even know. 

[MWOS]

from my facebook, STFUparents style

Now that my friends and I have kids the tragedy of September 11th hits me in a different way as I think of all the parents who lost their babies and the babies who lost their parents. Hug your little one a bit longer today and pray for peace for the 9/11 families.

[eb777888]

I've had two people on my FB feed AW other people's pregnancy loss. It's fucking weird and so disrespectful. OMG.

[julez]

This is awful. Why does everyone want in on the tragedy when a tragedy happens? (My brother's best friend's sister's dog groomer's best friend was in the first tower! I was practically THERE on 9/11!)

[BaliHai]

Shit like this actually makes my skin crawl.

[eddy]

My MIL is the queen about making tragedies about her. So you will not be shocked to hear that she does this reguarly.

[onomatopoeia]

I hate this. I know people who have learned of the death of a family member or close friend this way and it's despicable.

[lilafowler]

My BFF's husband passed away in December and she has a friend who moved to Australia and has lived there for almost 5 years-they still talk and stuff via text/FB but obviously she's been gone a long time. She occasionally puts stuff up about "Missing X and feeling for my friend and her girls".

It makes my friend PISSSSSED. She also had the nerve to ask my friend that if her unborn baby was a boy could she use X's name as a middle name for her child? My friend said ABSOLUTELY NOT.

WTF is wrong with people!?

[snickers]

Ugh, I hate that too. Very tacky.

[Deleted]

I hate when people do that.

[Deleted]

Ya that isn't cool

[eb777888]

Sept 11, 2013 9:44:06 GMT -5 onomatopoeia said:

I hate this. I know people who have learned of the death of a family member or close friend this way and it's despicable.

I told H about his grandmother's death after seeing it on FB. I wanted to tell him before he logged on. Two people posted about it, one of them was MIL. I was fucking annoyed as hell.

[Deleted]

A little different but when my mom had her stroke I had a few friends posting as their status to pray for me and my family ... she didn't put why so I got 9 million texts and calls from people asking what was going on. Annoying

[Deleted]

Sept 11, 2013 10:11:16 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Sept 11, 2013 9:44:06 GMT -5 onomatopoeia said:

I hate this. I know people who have learned of the death of a family member or close friend this way and it's despicable.

I told H about his grandmother's death after seeing it on FB. I wanted to tell him before he logged on. Two people posted about it, one of them was MIL. I was fucking annoyed as hell.

I thnk I remember you telling us that

[Deleted]

Sept 11, 2013 10:15:22 GMT -5 Que? said:

Sept 11, 2013 9:37:13 GMT -5 MWOS said:

from my facebook, STFUparents style

Now that my friends and I have kids the tragedy of September 11th hits me in a different way as I think of all the parents who lost their babies and the babies who lost their parents. Hug your little one a bit longer today and pray for peace for the 9/11 families.

This sentiment bothers me in all instances. Being a parent makes me think differently about certain things, but not having a child didn't ever preclude me from empathizing with people's losses. Having a child doesn't suddenly make you conscious that other people have loved ones too ffs.

UM I think we have a mutual friend on facebook bc I read the exact same status this am

[MWOS]

Sept 11, 2013 10:21:55 GMT -5 @sloanpeterson said:

Sept 11, 2013 10:15:22 GMT -5 Que? said:

This sentiment bothers me in all instances. Being a parent makes me think differently about certain things, but not having a child didn't ever preclude me from empathizing with people's losses. Having a child doesn't suddenly make you conscious that other people have loved ones too ffs.

UM I think we have a mutual friend on facebook bc I read the exact same status this am

SHUT IT DOWN

[Kit]

My cousin is the biggest tragedy whore I know. She will take ANYTHING and make it about her.

[cleo29]

This is FB related, but I saw a post about moms and sons and it says something like "you were his first kiss, his first love,etc" and it really rubbed me wrong, especially the first kiss part.

I am all for being close with your kids and the special relationship between moms and sons and fathers and daughters, but it just seemed something...

[gmail]

I deal with the 9/11 remembrance posts b/c, while annoying to me, some people find it a nice gesture. Fine. Whatever.

But this - UGH. This poster pisses me off in general b/c she's an AW, but this made me so mad.

[MWOS]

turns out my STFUparent and @sloanpeterson's STFUparent are not the same girl

THERE ARE TWO OF THEM

[gmail]

uuuuugggggghhhhhhhhh

[sergey]

This is one of my absolute biggest pet peeves. Not everything is about you FYI!

[Deleted]

Sept 11, 2013 10:15:22 GMT -5 Que? said:

Sept 11, 2013 9:37:13 GMT -5 MWOS said:

from my facebook, STFUparents style

Now that my friends and I have kids the tragedy of September 11th hits me in a different way as I think of all the parents who lost their babies and the babies who lost their parents. Hug your little one a bit longer today and pray for peace for the 9/11 families.

This sentiment bothers me in all instances. Being a parent makes me think differently about certain things, but not having a child didn't ever preclude me from empathizing with people's losses. Having a child doesn't suddenly make you conscious that other people have loved ones too ffs.

right?

and i know a shitton of unempathetic assholes who happen to have procreated.

[cleo29]

Sept 11, 2013 11:05:53 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

Sept 11, 2013 10:27:34 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

This is FB related, but I saw a post about moms and sons and it says something like "you were his first kiss, his first love,etc" and it really rubbed me wrong, especially the first kiss part.

I am all for being close with your kids and the special relationship between moms and sons and fathers and daughters, but it just seemed something...

Ugh, my friend posted that picture and I was so creeped out by the phrasing.  You are not his "first love" and "first kiss".  You're his mom.

OK, glad I'm not the only one. lol