Do you and your H or SO- have fights. Yelling, screaming, door slamming fights? We do not (we rarely have an argument) and lurking on other boards makes me think we are abnormal.
Post by MissusTexas on Jun 21, 2012 16:03:27 GMT -5
Not since we've been married. I used to get crazy and scream and yell during fights when we were still bf/gf, before I learned how to discuss things like an adult.
Post by blondemoment123 on Jun 21, 2012 16:43:21 GMT -5
I admit that we've had a few. It was when H was unemployed and we were both incredibly stressed. It's been at least a year since we last fought aside from petty arguments.
We have. I'll be the first to admit that I have a horrible temper...it takes a lot to push him to the point of yelling, but I can get him there. They're few and far between now, but we did a little bit of counseling b/c I hated that I was like that. We still slip up, but the skills we learned are invaluable and even when the slip ups happen, they're not as bad and easier to move past.
I used to scream and cry but never tote point of slamming doors and one of us leaving. I soon realized that acting like that doesn't help the situation.
I did when my depression and OCD wasn't being controlled. I wasn't able to even express what I wanted very well at that time and I would yell, scream, throw things, and slam things out of pure frustration.
Post by louietunes on Jun 21, 2012 18:27:31 GMT -5
About once a year. It's because I'm crazy and lose it sometimes. It's not so much a fight as me flipping my shit and yelling at him. Have I mentioned what an infinitely patient man he is? Anyway, it's much, much more seldom now that I have antidepressants that actually work.
About once a year. It's because I'm crazy and lose it sometimes. It's not so much a fight as me flipping my shit and yelling at him. Have I mentioned what an infinitely patient man he is? Anyway, it's much, much more seldom now that I have antidepressants that actually work.
This ^^^ is me. I often wonder how E has managed to handle all of my craziness over the past five years.
Post by treedimensional on Jun 22, 2012 8:59:29 GMT -5
No. We never fight. I've been angry, and acted bitchy, and melted down, but even then he doesn't lash back. And when he is annoyed with me, he still doesn't lash out. He's impossible to fight with.
We'll fight occasionally, but never to the point of throwing things. I do tend to walk away when I get mad because I realize I am being irrational, and I need to take a moment to regroup. I will usually take the dog for a walk or go for a run. It clears my head and helps me to articulate what I actually mean (and figure out if I am actually upset about the issue at hand, or something else bigger.) He has gotten to the point where he will walk with me, but will not say anything until I start the conversation
He is more likely to yell and scream, but only for a hot second. And doesn't understand why I am still annoyed, five minutes after he goes off.
Fighting at all has become few and far between of late, but this is more how it was when first started dating.
No, never. At our worst we use irritated voices during a disagreement, but that's rare because we're both laid back individuals who don't have issues very often.