Minor FIL vent.

[ECB]

I'm venting here because I know my DH doesn't want to hear it.

Small note that plays a role in this is that my DH works a 2 weeks on/ 2 weeks off job, so in essence, we only get 2 weekends to plan things- parties, family outings, other social stuff.  It does limit us.

DHs and FILs b-days are a week apart.  DH was last weekend, FIL this. 

The past few years, it's basically become the tradition that we do out to dinner w/ them somewhere in early Sept. to celebrate both birthdays.  We went out last weekend to a nice restaurant.  Good - done and done.

DH calls FIL last night to wish him a happy birthday.  Then I hear him saying "Oh, sure, yeah - we'll have to find a time to go out and celebrate".  Um, what?!?!  That was last week!  I said something briefly to DH, but that was it.  But seriously.... no, we aren't going to start celebrating BOTH birthdays w/ a fancy dinner out a week apart.  No.  Plus, DH and I just don't have the time. 

DH is back at work right now anyhow, and his next 2 weeks off- he's actually working 2 days and then the 2nd week we're going on vacation.  So our time is even more limited.

But it's just a general frustration w/ his parents - they seem to forget how we do things, they don't "get" DHs schedule and that our time is limited, and.... well.  I'm just annoyed.

In the end, this 2nd dinner probably won't happen because we just don't have the time.  But if it does get mentioned again, i'm going to tell DH that he needs to nip this in the bud.  we are NOT going to start celebrating twice.  Nope. 

OH- and please let me add that these dinners don't usually include DS.  The annoyance in this is that ILs hardly see DS, complain about not seeing him, but then when it comes to these "family dinners" - they want to go to fancy restaurants at times that just don't work for DS.  For dinner last week we actually didn't care. DH told his dad where we were going and when and that DS would be coming. It was a nice restaurant but we went at 5 instead of 7. And don't get me wrong- we are normally fine w/ going out w/o DS. DH and I like to adult outings! Trust. We're just both annoyed that w/ his parents, they complain about not seeing DS then actively try to plan stuff that doesn't include DS.

[tiramisu]

Your annoyance sounds justified. I think that would frustrate me too.

[partiallysunny]

Ew, that is annoying.

I also hate when people complain about getting to spend time with my kid but make NO effort to actually include him in their lives.

[Muddled]

Sounds like DH forgets how you do things, too.

[ECB]

Sept 16, 2013 10:16:05 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Sounds like DH forgets how you do things, too.

No, not really.  He was just trying to appease his dad in the moment. It was his dad's b-day, there is no way we can do dinner w/ them anytime soon anyhow- my DH didn't find it necessary at that moment to "burst his dad's bubble", so to speak.  DH doesn't have anymore of a desire to go out for ANOTHER dinner w/ his parents either.  That's why I say I don't think anything will come of this.