Am I the only one who thinks this is a little weir

[xokell2]

I got a text invite for a friend's daughter's 3rd birthday party and it contained a link for a "wish list" at toys r us. Seriously? A registry for a 3 year old? Whaaa?

[bethaboo]

I would say yes, but I have found registries for little kids' really helpful. I am admittedly not great at picking out gifts (unless it is for someone I am really close to) and really appreciate that I can get-in-and-get-out of the store when there is a registry.

[Deleted]

Well considering it's a text invite and contains a link to a wish list-yes it's weird and slightly tacky.
Wish lists can be helpful though. Sometimes you have no clue what to buy a child.

[bimbi284]

I agree with Betha...I think at first glance I would think its weird, but then I would probably be relieved because I tend to buy gifts at the last minute, so having some idea of what the parents want the kid to have would be helpful.

That, or I would just go get the noisiest, most obnoxious gift in the store

[beahbia12]

I'd be irritated that all I got was an invite by text, but that's a different issue.

At first I would think it's tacky, but I always ask my friend's and family what their kid's are into or what they need to get gift ideas, so I guess it would be helpful in the long run.

[karebear304]

My boss and I had this conversation today!

She got an invite for a party for one of her kid's friends and you actually go to this local store and buy from their registry - which is essentially a basket filled with all the things the child picked out. You just grab it, they wrap it and you go.

We both thought "tacky" at first until it took her like 5 seconds to run over there, grab out of the basket and go. Now it just seems kind of efficient. Not sure I'd do it for my own child, but I'd probably like it if others did it!

[hz80408]

I agree with Virginia. It makes sense for the concept and efficienty for shopping, but, if you're going to have a registry, I really think you should have a proper paper invite

[birkbop]

it's weird. 3 year old are so easy to shop for...... I'm pretty sure they say "I want" at every commercial so... is it them making that list or their parents?

[bimbi284]

Jun 22, 2012 9:51:08 GMT -5 birkbop said:

it's weird. 3 year old are so easy to shop for...... I'm pretty sure they say "I want" at every commercial so... is it them making that list or their parents?

Exactly. Hence my "what the parents want the kid to have", haha. Also, hence my "get the noisiest most obnoxious gift in the store"

...Oh, Billy wants a new educational book that he can't read because he's 3?? No...I think Billy wants this rockin' guitar with buttons and bells and whistles and tons of sounds!!!

[birkbop]

in that case... my Billy wants the Anthro Column dress in a medium and the Naked Palette 2

[bimbi284]

Jun 22, 2012 9:56:29 GMT -5 birkbop said:

in that case... my Billy wants the Anthro Column dress in a medium and the Naked Palette 2

LOL...totally. Billy REALLY wants mommy to have that new Marc by Marc Jacobs satchel. In blue of course, since its BILLY'S favorite color.

[mrspost08]

I think that is ridiculous! The whole thing!

[house]

Jun 22, 2012 9:44:56 GMT -5 hz80408 said:

I agree with Virginia. It makes sense for the concept and efficienty for shopping, but, if you're going to have a registry, I really think you should have a proper paper invite

My thoughts exactly!! Yeah you won't spend a dime on an actual paper invite (cuz text is free) but you expect me to buy new toys for your kid? ^o) Um, I am heading to "once upon a child" for this gift. And you will get what I give you and be happy that you got a gift.

Damn, I am a mean mama!

[lmdbww]

I have started wish lists on Toys R Us and Target sites, but they are only for me to use to remember stuff she mentioned liking. I dont send links to anyone.

[Deleted]

I think texted invites for parties where gifts are typically given are rude.

[amarima]

Jun 22, 2012 9:51:08 GMT -5 birkbop said:

it's weird. 3 year old are so easy to shop for...... I'm pretty sure they say "I want" at every commercial so... is it them making that list or their parents?

They are easy to buy, but at the same time could you end with 2 or 3 toys that 1. are the same, or 2. the kid already have. And most people does not include the gift receipt in case you need to change it.

I find evites more commmon these days, and the registry seems also clever too me. Some people literally don't have a clue what to get. Last year, in her second birthday party, D ended with two infant toys, one that she already had.

Having said that, I'm still old fashion and I'd rather paper invitations and that people choose whatever they want to give to my daughter

[bimbi284]

Jun 22, 2012 10:13:58 GMT -5 @natariru said:

My BIL & SIL send out Xmas lists for their 3 boys with (brace yourselves) ASSIGNED gifts! That way they don't have to return duplicate gifts. It's never anything over $25 but STILL.
Am I the only one who's parents taught me to be grateful for what you get and shut the fuck up?!

Btw, I am the aunt who buys the most ridiculous gifts like the Wolverine glove that has pop out claws, the Captain America shield that shoots out discs and the Thor hammer that lights up & makes noise when you hit your little brother on the head. They loveeeee me :))

This is totally me, lol!

[Deleted]

The registry is a good idea, however, I think I would only send it if someone said any suggestions on what I should buy?

I've never been a fan of including regsitry details on any kind of invitation.

[xokell2]

Obviously when you go to a birthday party you'd bring a gift, but I just feel like a registry for a birthday party is a gift grabby gesture and basically feels like a shopping list from the parents. I have parties for my son but don't expect gifts and I would feel really awkward saying "here come to Johnny's party and buy this for him!"

[amandasw]

Jun 22, 2012 10:18:43 GMT -5 @gina11 said:

The registry is a good idea, however, I think I would only send it if someone said any suggestions on what I should buy?

I've never been a fan of including regsitry details on any kind of invitation.

ditto. whatever happened to the good ol' days of appreciating what people get you? baby registries and kid registries drive me up the wall. I think when you have a kid, you are choosing to do it and take financial responsibility to buy whatever the kid needs - whatever people give you is a bonus.

[nikolita]

I would like to do this for my birthday! Just kidding... kinda!

Typically, I only invite family/godparents to our birthday parties. They will typically ask me what the kids wants and I'll give some ideas. Like a flatscreen tv, new furniture, etc. Again, just kidding... kinda!

[texassmith]

Jun 22, 2012 9:54:18 GMT -5 bimbi284 said:

...Oh, Billy wants a new educational book that he can't read because he's 3?? No...I think Billy wants this rockin' guitar with buttons and bells and whistles and tons of sounds!!!

Well, I don't think a kid has to be able to read themselves to get good use out of a educational book, but that's opening a different can of worms.

I personally wouldn't make a registry/wish list like this, but I'm not convinced it is totally tacky either.

[niknik]

I usually do a wish list at Toys R Us for each of my kids around their birthdays and Christmas. If somebody asks me, I will offer that they have a wishlist if they want to get ideas but I don't volunteer the information and would never put it on an invite.

[adhdfashion]

Last year I had a bunch of people ask me where DD1 was registered for her second birthday. I was all say what?
Random pet peeve: I think evite's and FB invites are seriously tacky. I can't believe you got a text invite. That is all kinds of wrong.

[fashionx]

I think a paper invite is better in this situation. I am ok with casual invites on FB or evite for things like BBQ's or casual parties, but for a kid's birthday I agree traditional paper is the way to go.

The registry is weird to me for a birthday, but I do like that it takes the guess work out of the gift selection. So maybe not tacky, but the text invite is.

[315bride]

Jun 22, 2012 10:13:58 GMT -5 @natariru said:

My BIL & SIL send out Xmas lists for their 3 boys with (brace yourselves) ASSIGNED gifts! That way they don't have to return duplicate gifts. It's never anything over $25 but STILL.
Am I the only one who's parents taught me to be grateful for what you get and shut the fuck up?!

Btw, I am the aunt who buys the most ridiculous gifts like the Wolverine glove that has pop out claws, the Captain America shield that shoots out discs and the Thor hammer that lights up & makes noise when you hit your little brother on the head. They loveeeee me

No, and this is exactly what I was going to say. If I get a gift that I don't like or already have, I say thank you and either exchange or donate. Anything else is ungrateful and rude. Parents should do the same for their kids, IMHO.

I would side-eye a text invite, but not an email invite or an evite.

While registries might be helpful for some people, I don't think it takes a lot of energy to find a nice gift for anyone, including a child. I either ask my friends with kids, "Hey what did Johnny like when he was three?" Or I check Amazon which has lists of gifts by ages... I read the comments and buy something. I have been told that my gifts for kids are well-liked (both by the parents and the kids). For people who really don't know what to get, they can ask the parents. Like pp said, the parents then can offer a wish list or a registry in that case.

Somehow, I feel like modern technology makes people think they can throw basic common courtesies out the window. Like, I hope that parent still takes the time to thank each guest in writing for their gifts. Damn.

[ralphlauren]

Totally strange