S/O Riddle me this...

[lizo11]

Who do you confide if you have a problem with SO or they are just driving you up a wall?

Strangely I was thinking about this earlier this morning, because there are some things going on with us. And I am not quite in the mood to talk about it, but I realized I am not terribly close to anyone who I would be able to talk to about it. So I wonder who you go to. Or do you just not?

[sapphire bou]

If I can't just get over it myself, I'll either talk to his mother or my BFF. His mom loves him unconditionally, and that will never change. My BFF might not have any good advice or words of encouragement, but she listens without judgement.

I don't talk to my mom or sister because it took a while for them to warm up to him in the first place and I don't want them to act like they used to again.

[duff]

I'll mention things to my BFF, but it's usually in a joking "OMG, I'm going to dump his body in the mesa behind my house, bring a shovel" way....she'll make me laugh about it and I'm immediately over it.

The one time there was something somewhat serious, I just kept it to myself.

[shorty20]

I confide most in my coworker. She's my age and we've known each other for like 9 years, so I feel comfy telling her most stuff.

My sister I guess would be second, but she tends to be a blabber mouth, so I don't always confide in her.

[louietunes]

My best friend, or Ala, or Otter. All three are very good listeners and don't judge me or D just because we're having a rough spot.

[winofairy]

I used to talk to my mom or sister but now I don't dare tell them a thing. I really don't have anyone to talk to about it. I've tried talking to his mom but he's her baby and she just can't wrap her head around him not being "perfect."

[alabasterangel]

I spread it around. I'll tell different parts to different people. Usually I keep most of it to myself at first. Then I'll share pieces with Louie, Otter, KNavy, other internet friends, and my mom.

[Deleted]

Usually BFF. NEVER my mom or MIL.

[stingsharkruns]

I try really hard to keep my DH issues to myself. Occasionally i'll tell my sister, "OMG DH is making me insane"

[MissusTexas]

I don't really talk to other people about our relationship, especially if I'm mad. If I do say anything I usually regret it once I've cooled off. Besides, it doesn't really help solve anything because whoever I talk to (usually BFF) always would take my side and then she'd form a negative feelin toward DH.

[lizo11]

I guess part of the problem right now is that it is not a fight between us, it is just a shitty thing going on, if that makes sense.

I definitely agree that I try not to talk about my H if we are fighting, because I know my mom will just take my side, whether I am right or wrong. And Sapphire, I went through the same thing with my sister when my H and I started dating, and I am forever hesitant to say anything negative, because I don't want her going back to that place either.

[MyName]

No one. I talk to him because he's the only one who can actually do something about it.

[blondemoment123]

I used to talk to my bff about it, but since we're in different time zones and she has 3 kids it's hard to talk as much as we used to.

[Trouble]

I don't really talk to anyone, I learned my lesson. One of my friends started to not like my H because I only told her the bad stuff. Now I just wait to cool down, if I need to and I just talk to him about it, or if he is driving me crazy, I just get away from him for a little while.

[darkling_glory]

I talk to my mom about most things. Sometimes my sister or my BFF.

[ILikeSloths]

Jun 22, 2012 12:17:05 GMT -5 MyName said:

No one. I talk to him because he's the only one who can actually do something about it.

This is pretty much how I feel about it. We're really open and I can tell him anything, so when he's making me mad I let him know why. I always feel better after discussing it and the issue is resolved pretty quick.

Every now and then if I need to vent a frustration then I'll tell one of my BFFs. They know DH really well and don't judge him based off of an occasional incident that upsets me.

[Deleted]

I hae 2 close friends that I talk to about things like that. Or you know, I take it to the internet message boards.

[alabasterangel]

Jun 22, 2012 12:17:05 GMT -5 MyName said:

No one. I talk to him because he's the only one who can actually do something about it.

Obviously I talk to him first. Sometimes you just need to vent to someone though.. or even just a "Hey, this is going on so you might notice we seem weird."

[MrsBunnyfoo]

I don't talk to anyone besides H about disagreements. I would never talk to my Mom, she comes from the age of doing everything for your H and if there is an issue you either ignore it or learn to live with it. So....yeah she wouldn't be helpful. My sis isn't married so I don't really feel like she can relate.

[latte]

Problems between me and MH usually stay here, but only because I don't really want to tell anyone because they might look at him in a bad light, when for me the situation will blow over eventually. I have one friend that I do tell stuff to when I can't handle it alone, but she is the only person.