Is anyone else on 'routines' and 'obeying the schedule' type parenting/deals?
we don't do a lot of routines, other than the bedtime routine...which is shower at about 8:30-9ish..h and her brush their teeth together, then lotion up, diaper, books and wait for me, since i shower after them. then h gives her a bottle (sometimes during books), and when i'm done, i either finish up giving her a bottle and/or nurse her to sleep, and that's it.
if her afternoon naps go late/long, we try not to let her sleep after 7pm.
since we don't do daycare, our schedules can be a lot more flexible with naps, etc..since she can wake up late, and that's fine..she can nap during pickup time, and we'll just wait at IL's house, and that's fine (slightly torturous), but fine, too.
We don't really have a routine. She gets up about the same time every day and I will work out first thing in the morning, shower, and do breakfast. But after that it always just depends on what I have to get done that day or if I have something planned to do with M. Then bedtime we do bath every other night and she is in bed at 8 every night.
We try to stick to a routine for the most part, but if there's a good reason to break it, I'm ok with that too (maybe on average 1 late night once every 2-3 weeks?). If she stays up late, she's usually grumpy the next day so sometimes I'm willing to deal with that and sometimes not. A random weekend night when we have nothing planned I will probably insist on putting her to bed like normal (between 7 and 8pm, closer to 7). But for my brother's wedding we kept her up late 3 days in a row (rehearsal dinner, wedding, and post-wedding family pizza party) since I didn't want to miss out on any of those things and didn't want her to miss out either/wanted all of the family to get to see her. We did the best we could with extra naps, but really it took us all about a week to recover from that. And I would make the same decision all over again if I were in the same situation. If we push her one way, I try my best to accommodate in other ways ie attempt an extra nap/have a quiet day before or after a late night. Or if nap is disrupted then try for a slightly earlier bedtime.
Our typical weeknight routine is home around 6pm, dinner as soon as possible (usually ~6:30), in the bath by 7, then lotion, PJs, and bed by 7:30pm. Mornings I try to let her wake up on her own (typically between 6:30 and 7am), get her changed and dressed, eat breakfast, and have her and DH out the door by shortly after 8am.
Post by InBetweenDays on Sept 25, 2013 16:36:19 GMT -5
We didn't have a strict routine when they were little but they generally were in bed by 7 or 7:30pm and up by 6-7am. We definitely don't have one now. Well, beyond drop off and pick up times from school, and trying to do homework right when we get home. But this week we had soccer for E 6-7pm Monday night, Soccer for E (6-7pm) and P (5:30-6:30pm) and dad's night out for H (7:30pm) tonight, back to school night tomorrow night, and a date night Friday night. Most weeks have at least 2 nights with stuff going on for at least one of us so we can't really rely on a routine anymore.
Post by karebear219 on Sept 25, 2013 22:20:06 GMT -5
We aren't too hard on our routine but bkb likes it and gets very cranky when we stray from it. Even now she realizes on Tuesday and Wednesday she goes to our nanny's house. Well yesterday MIL watched her instead. She had an absolute fit that she was at grandmas. She is also beginning to realize on Thursdays sometimes she gets to stay home with mom and throws a fit when I drop her off with MIL. I can't wait until she understands when we tell her okay bkb you are going to hang out with so and so tomorrow. She's like her mommy, she likes planning and gets cranky when the events don't follow what was expected.
I went out tonight for a birthday party. Was the first time since November I hadn't been around for Thor's bed time ritual.
He apparently did not go down easy and was really upset.
I'd say my kid loves routine too.
Yup, G too. She flipped out last week when DH went out to a meeting on a Tuesday evening since he's "not supposed" to leave after getting home from work.