And I get that the gifs in particular are frustrating to you when you're trying to be serious but I think it's good to keep in mind that the gifs are part of the board's sense of humor.
The gifs are us being serious.
Barbeque on your titties is indeed a serious situation.
There's nothing wrong with a business owner telling a prospective client that he has only Christians working there. If an atheist is offended by this, that's their problem.
Also, nothing wrong with an eight year old telling an adult "You're Korean, aren't you? AREN'T YOU?" , then hitting him in the chest with a ball, then trying to knock over his toddler with the same ball. He's just being a kid and it's not racially motivated, and only a batshitcrazy mother would be upset to learn of this from her own husband..
We DID say it wasn't OK! BOTH TIMES!!!! For fuck's sake SMS, you sound like a skipping record now. I give up.
Yes, really.
Thejen said - twice- that it wasn't racially motivated and that I was overreacting. Then I got my ass handed back to me by several people for having the audacity to dispute that assertion.
I'd LOVE to know how anyone else would have liked it if they were in that situation. Hell, I'd love for any of my questions in the last several pages to be answered, but that ain't gonna happen.
This should generate about five more pages of insult gifs.
We DID say it wasn't OK! BOTH TIMES!!!! For fuck's sake SMS, you sound like a skipping record now. I give up.
Yes, really.
Thejen said - twice- that it wasn't racially motivated and that I was overreacting. Then I got my ass handed back to me by several people for having the audacity to dispute that assertion.
I'd LOVE to know how anyone else would have liked it if they were in that situation. Hell, I'd love for any of my questions in the last several pages to be answered, but that ain't gonna happen.
This should generate about five more pages of insult gifs.
This right here is part of the problem. They're not insult gifs. Really sunmoonstars. Though I'm getting the feeling that's about to change. Seriously. Take a breather and step back for a moment.
(and you just gave me the perfect excuse to use my all time favorite gif - it's not an insult though because truth be told we've all been there and blundered in to things - the trick is knowing when to laugh at yourself)
We DID say it wasn't OK! BOTH TIMES!!!! For fuck's sake SMS, you sound like a skipping record now. I give up.
Yes, really.
Thejen said - twice- that it wasn't racially motivated and that I was overreacting. Then I got my ass handed back to me by several people for having the audacity to dispute that assertion.
I'd LOVE to know how anyone else would have liked it if they were in that situation. Hell, I'd love for any of my questions in the last several pages to be answered, but that ain't gonna happen.
This should generate about five more pages of insult gifs.
I am an atheist. I do not want my kid in a religious day care. If I were in that situation, I would have said something to him instead of reporting him. Or maybe in addition. It would have gone like this:
Owner: Well, no, we won't force it on the kids or anything, but I live by the principles of Christianity and I make sure all my staff does too. We only have Christians here. Me: So that I understand correctly, are you saying you will only hire Christians? Because that sounds like discrimination to me, and as an non-religious person, it makes me really uncomfortable.
and then here:
I should report this, should I not? I know this is illegal. I will welcome any direction WRT this.
Depends on his reaction and how I feel. If he was a dick about it I'd probably figure out how to report it. If he clarified and backtracked, I'd probably give him the stink eye, tell him my lack of interest in enrolling my child, and intimate that maybe I'd do something. But really, I probably wouldn't because ultimately I have bigger fish to fry than to try to shut down a daycare that hell, some people probably like and depend on. Now, Momi gave you great LEGAL advice. I'm not a lawyer so I don't fucking know what is legal or not and honestly, like I said, my time would, for me, be better spent FINDING CHILD CARE. I do know that when evangelists come to the door I answer and say with a great big smile, "no thanks! We're atheists." I prefer to just be straight up.
SO there's your answer.
As for the incident with your daughter at the play area (I'm playing for bonus points!) I would probably have said something to management and tried to find the child's guardian. Also, I've now discovered and embraced the fact that when it comes to kids, the "mom" voice carries weight even if it's not my kid. So if an older kid tried to roll over Sam for ANY reason, I would have gotten in his face and told him his behavior was unacceptable. I *personally* can't assume that because he asked a question about your husband and then he did something to your daughter that it was motivated by race. He was 8. 8 year olds are still learning and growing and some yes, categorize people by race and are even racist. But they are also children, and should be given a second chance after a stern talking to.
SO, if I were your husband?
Kid: Are you Korean? You are Korean aren't you? Me (if I were your husband): No. Actually I'm not. Why do you ask?
later.... tries to knock down A Me (if I were your husband): get in the kids face and tell him "HEY - I saw what you did and it is unacceptable. Where are your parents? I'd like to talk to them.
There are my answers. I am sure they are not the right ones so I'm sure I've just wasted my time.
Post by thejen626 on Sept 30, 2013 23:50:08 GMT -5
Omg...I can't believe this is still going. I love all the gif's but my eyes are rolling so far out of my head right now.
I'm one person. I'm not "popular" here, anyway. I just gave my opinion. Take it or leave it.
Next time a kid is a shit to your kid, do something about it. Be assertive. If someone makes a comment to you about religion, and you're offended, stick up for yourself. It's not that hard.
I have 3 more seasons of Breaking Bad sitting in my dvr right now, so please excuse me as I get back to my marathon.
Oh AND to answer you, kids (and teens, and adult, and motherfucking old people) are assholes. My kid is very sweet, and so are her little friends, but they are only 4. They've said various rude things like "why don't you have hair on your head", "his butt is big because he eats too much", "what's wrong with your eye" (said to a child wearing an eye patch), "that man has boobies", "her shirt is too small", "she has a big nose", etc. Rude shit. But they are kids. They don't know what they're saying.
If the kid had said "Hey are you Korean? I hate Koreans. They make shitty cars. Koreans can kiss my ass." And then thrown the ball, then DUH that would be racially motivated. But NONE OF US KNOW HIS INTENT BECAUSE WE WEREN'T THERE!! HELL, YOU WEREN'T EVEN THERE! It sounds to me like the kid was just being a kid. "Rolling a ball like a bowling ball" doesn't even sound to me like he was trying to knock your kid over. It sounds like he was just being a kid.
Really, I'm puzzled why you think thejen speaks for the board. She rarely posts over here.
Yeah, who the fuck is thejen, anyway? (huh)
Sumoonstars, pretty please, shaddup. I like you fine. I think you get overinvested. We all lose our shit sometimes. Ask FMLB or me about cheerleading sometime and see what happens, lol. We get over it. Some kid was a bag of shit to your kid. He was rude as hell for questioning her nationality. I don't know that the rudeass little mofo was racially targeting your kid. I don't know what a fucking yoga ball is. I do know the little shit was impolite, poorly taught, and a bully to a baby girl, and is going to suck at life. I am no help on the daycare thing because I want to report religious zealot assclowns for merely existing. And I do know the fact that you want to revisit this thread from 4 months ago which apparently didn't get satisfactory attention is fecking strange. Have a fucking pumpkin latte and apologize to a Sikh with casmgn and move on.
SMS: You CAN disagree with someone on one topic, and really, really like them overall. Like--say this instance presented before you:)
you know sunnmoonstars, mominatrix gave you a wonderful response in THIS thread about what do to if you want to report it.
and you basically took a shit all over her answer, turned over the page and then wiped your ass with it. so if anyone needs to be all up in here with the insult gifs, it should be her at you for being an assbag.
If it makes you feel any better, I know you (though it probably won't as I'm not one of the "popular" kids, lol).
I know you, too, thejen.
Aren't you the one that traveled from Portland to the MM GTG in Seattle about 1.5 or 2 years ago? that was after miso inspired us to host local GTGs all around the country. Or maybe that was longer ago...I can't recall.
If it makes you feel any better, I know you (though it probably won't as I'm not one of the "popular" kids, lol).
I know you, too, thejen.
Aren't you the one that traveled from Portland to the MM GTG in Seattle about 1.5 or 2 years ago? that was after miso inspired us to host local GTGs all around the country. Or maybe that was longer ago...I can't recall.
Yep that was me! I was about 8 weeks pregnant with my DD2... And she will turn 1 tomorrow