Mad, but there's nothing I can do. Stupid parents

[juliahenry]

I talked to my mom today. During our conversation, she casually mentioned that it was a beautiful day but they were spending it at home.

why? Because my dad just got discharged from the hospital this morning after surgery for prostate cancer with "minor complications". He's fine.

we knew about the cancer beforehand - it's one of those old-man versions that will be with hum until he's like 104 and dies of a heart issue. And we knew he needed surgery, but really, why wouldn't they tell us it was actually happening?

what the hell? Normal people would share that shit beforehand. At least I think that's what normal people would do, I wouldn't know since I was raised by weirdos.

[urbancowgirl]

I can sympathize. A few years ago, my parents didn't tell me until THE NEXT DAY that my dad had a minor heart attack. Wtf. I guess they didn't want me to worry because I live far away.

[jinkies]

Parents can be so weird about stuff like this. My mom didn't tell me for WEEKS when she was going through testing and ultimately diagnosed with thyroid cancer. We're close, and I was hurt that she didn't tell me about it from the beginning.

Having said that, I do also understand wanting to protect your kids from bad news, and (in my mom's case at least) not wanting to worry me until she got a definitive diagnosis and a plan for treatment.

Parents, man.

[meganew]

My grandmother pulls this stuff all the time. She says its because she doesn't want to worry us or cause us stress, but its more stressful to always be wondering if everything's ok! We talk everyday, just tell me what's going on!

My nana- "Me? Oh I'm good. Got some gardening done yesterday, made that pot roast, took you grandfather to the ER for a mild heart attack, talked to your Aunt. How are you?"

Me- "We're good! Took Ollie to the-- hold on, what?!"

[ooglie26]

My mom does that....and it frustrates me to no end. She is getting better about telling me about stuff like that.

[birdistheword]

My inlaws casually mentioned to us at dinner a few weeks ago that FIL had had surgery the week before.

At the hospital where my husband works. While he was working.

[kristie]

Parents do weird shit like this and I don't understand. My BFs dad had a major heart attack and subsequent open heart surgery and tried to hide the whole thing. And that is one of many examples I can think of.

[zoidberg]

My dad is like this, too. It drives me nuts.

I don't tell my parents ever little thing that happens to me, but I sure as hell tell them if it is something serious.

[Captain Serious]

My ex-boyfriend's father didn't tell us he had an aneurism while we were on vacation.

My mother had her gallbladder removed during an emergency procedure while I was on my honeymoon, and nearly died on the table, and no one mentioned any of it until we returned.

In both cases, they "didn't want to ruin our trip." After the last incident, I gave up any hope that my folks would be upfront with me about health related issues. Every time I get a "call me right away" message from them, I worry they waited too long to tell me about something, and things have taken an awful turn.

[bonquiqui]

Years ago, Exh and I were coming back from Cancun, and we got to the airport, ready to head home, and my mom says, that she didn't want to tell me before we left, but my dad had open heart surgery while we were gone.  They scheduled this before we left.  He had a 5 bypass, whatever the term for that is.  lol  I was all like "wtf" This is not a normal everyday surgery.  He wasn't having his kidney removed.  lol

[bania]

Sept 25, 2013 21:30:57 GMT -5 urbancowgirl said:

I can sympathize. A few years ago, my parents didn't tell me until THE NEXT DAY that my dad had a minor heart attack. Wtf. I guess they didn't want me to worry because I live far away.

Are we sister? Because yeah, same thing happened to me and I lived 5 mins away. Rage!!