What do you think about adults throwing their own birthday parties?
One of my friends is throwing herself one this weekend. I'm excited. It's her 21st bday, she's going through a messy divorce, and she's hosting, so no one is out any money.
Which made me wonder about adult birthday parties in general.
I'd kinda like to throw my H a bday party next year, but our birthdays are three days apart, so he has always refused. He says it isn't fair to have a party for just him, and it isn't fair to our friends (many of our best friends are either friends with both of us, or are married to one of our friends) to have parties two weekends in a row. That would be overkill anyway.
So I was wondering about just a general birthday celebration at our apartment, where we provided everything. Our friend group already has a gift system set up- we buy each other gifts, but don't spend more than $15 on anyone's gift, so it wouldn't bring a new expectation of gifts. More often than not we use birthdays as an excuse to go out to dinner.
Would that be tacky, since we would be mutually hosting and sharing a birthday party, which pretty much translates to throwing our own?
If it is tacky, I can delete the whole birthday idea and just throw a spring party for no particular reason.
Not tacky - although my 21st birthday (MANY years ago) was a drunken bar spectacle at random bar near campus.
I have friends from all walks of life throw themselves or their spouses birthday parties for their 30th or 40th. I mean, if you don't throw it, who is. No one expects gifts, it's just a good reason for people to get together (and my BF lives in Nevada, so woo hoo reason to spend the weekend in Vegas!)
Ok. Sounds good I know it's rude to throw your own wedding or baby shower, so I didn't know if birthday parties fell under the same guidelines, even though they don't have the same gift expectation.
Several of my friends throw birthday parties for their significant others, so I knew that was ok, but I wasn't sure about the whole combined thing.
Now the not yet 21 year old who is already going through a divorce has me doing this .
I'm glad she is. He's an abusive asshole. She mostly married him to get out of a bad home situation, although she thought they loved each other. She's doing well now, though. Supporting herself and about to finish school.
I'll make a post asking about ideas when it gets closer to the party
I can't drink, and h doesn't drink, so I've never paid attention to what my friends do for alcohol. No moral objections, so I don't mind providing it, it's just not something I think about.
I'll make a post asking about ideas when it gets closer to the party
I can't drink, and h doesn't drink, so I've never paid attention to what my friends do for alcohol. No moral objections, so I don't mind providing it, it's just not something I think about.
oh, that was tongue in cheek. if you're not drinkers just get some bottles of wine and some beer and call it a day. no need to become a non-drinking mixologist for one party
Totally normal among my friends... and since these things always take place at bars (sometimes with a dinner beforehand) it is always the guests who pay for the dinner and/or drinks of the birthday boy/girl. Nobody bats an eye unless the plan is ridiculous.
I'll make a post asking about ideas when it gets closer to the party
I can't drink, and h doesn't drink, so I've never paid attention to what my friends do for alcohol. No moral objections, so I don't mind providing it, it's just not something I think about.
oh, that was tongue in cheek. if you're not drinkers just get some bottles of wine and some beer and call it a day. no need to become a non-drinking mixologist for one party
Lol ok. Thanks. That sounds doable. I was on meds that you can't drink on well before my 21st birthday, so alcohol has never been an option. I've chipped in money for it for bachelorette parties, but that was the extent of my involvement.
Post by hopecounts on Sept 26, 2013 9:08:58 GMT -5
as long as you aren't asking your friends to supply food or booze for the party Not tacky at all. a party is fun, I think a general bday celebration for both of you at your place would be fine.