Me: Cook dinner, dishes from cooking, put away food after dinner
Him: Do post-dinner dishes, take out trash 1-2 times per week, clean out litter boxes (only while I'm pregnant, otherwise we would both do it)
Both: Vacuum, dust, light cleaning as needed in between house-cleaning service, laundry
We have a cleaning lady who comes once every two weeks, and does a thorough cleaning. Obviously we have to do some light cleaning in between, but only daily stuff (wiping up spills, dust buster/vacuum, swiffer, etc). We also have a gardener who comes ever other week in the spring/summer, but this is included in our rent (the landlords have a really nice garden and didn't want to risk us messing it up, so we split the cost of a gardener with them).
Post by looseseal on Sept 26, 2013 11:44:44 GMT -5
I clean bathrooms, do all laundry, mail, paperwork, and taxes. I also do most of the picking up and dusting. H does the trash, vacuuming, lawn mowing and coordinating home repairs. We split child care and dishes.
I do about half the cooking, in that I do crockpot meals or put together a casserole the night before that H throws in the oven the next day. See, H thinks that he then made supper. No, preheating the oven and placing a dish inside it does not constitute cooking. I guess that is a separate issue. H does less involved cooking the other half the time.
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We split between who has time and who likes to do what
I meal plan and grocery shop. He starts dinner because he gets home earlier. I finish dinner. He unloads the dishes. I load.
He gets the laundry together, separates and washes. I fold and put away.
He cuts the grass, I pull weeds
We take turns cleaning.
I take Hart to daycare, H picks him up because he gets off work earlier than I do. I give Hart a bath and H reads stories and tucks him in (most nights - I step in 1-2 nights a week because I am sometimes gone for nighttime meetings and/or yoga)
It can be done. But keep in mind we also don't have the cleanest house, so take all of that with a grain of salt
eta: let me add that I was doing it all for a while - and I really kind of put myself in that position, though H definitely took advantage of it. He doesn't volunteer a lot of stuff, but I'm getting better about telling him to do a,b,c and he gets it done without question
Post by juliagoulia on Sept 26, 2013 12:04:41 GMT -5
I do all the grocery shopping and cooking because I'm good at it. H does the dishes and all the laundry and the majority of stuff our animals need (there's 5 of them- so that accounts for a lot). I do most of the actual cleaning like vaccum, steam mop, clean bathrooms, etc. He takes care of DS in the mornings with getting ready and takes him to school and I normally do bedtime/bath time with DS.
Everything is pretty much 50/50 by which things we prefer to do/ are better at. It was not always this way- but slowly we have settled into a routine with both of us working.
He mows since i refuse to learn to use the zero turn giant lawn mower and does the edging; I will not use the gas powered thing, if he gets an electric or battery powered one, I will use it. We both will do other outdoor work like weeding, even though I really hate it. But to help with that we just put down all new weed paper and rubber mulch this year.
I do most of the cooking, I do 70% of the dishes, I do the laundry (he has been banned from doing it), we both clean inside the house, like the bathrooms and vacuuming. Though I do vacuum more because he is allergic to our cat, that I had to have.
I swear when I had my house and was with XH, i spent my weekends cleaning the house from top to bottom, now, not so much. I am not OCD with making sure the bathrooms and dusting are done every week now. I also never had to wake up at 4 am every work day either prior to moving in with H.
I essentially do all the buying food, cooking, cleaning, laundry, picking up, etc. Unless I specifically ask him to do something. He will help unprompted a bit if he knows we will be having company. He picks up his side of the bedroom and puts away his own laundry.
He does lawncare, snow removal, anything a handyman would be needed for, car maintenance, etc.
I have been getting frustrated lately doing everything. But he just remodeled the entire master bathroom (laid the tile himself and did all labor himself) so I should probably get over it.