I want to crawl under a rock (long)

[ILikeSloths]

I'm having a bad day. I'm just disappointed and need to get this out.

I turned down a job offer. As you all know, I've been unemployed for a long ass time. I apply for jobs all the freaking time and this is the first offer... or hell, even the first interview I've had in forever.

Long story short, it was eerily similar to my last job where I was constantly used and abused. The interview process and offer left a bad taste in my mouth. It's a 24 hour facility and they couldn't commit to telling me a schedule OR a wage and some things seemed unprofessional.

First she told me I'd be working 2nd shift (ok, fine), then she said swing shift or "whenever we need you" (um, not ok with me - been there, done that and it took a toll on my health). I know how this stuff works - it basically means you're on call all the time, the turnover rate is high, and you're forced to stay and work a double if the next staff member doesn't show up. The place is also an hour away so that's 2 hours of driving every day and since they wouldn't commit to a wage then I didn't even know if it would be worth it. I promised myself I'd never get stuck in a situation like that again.

So I turned it down. We're fine financially and not hurting for money. DH says he's ok with my decision. But I still feel guilty and embarrassed and I'm dying to work - just not at a place where I have to sell my soul. This is the first interview I've had in a long time and while I was optimistic for a while, I really don't know if anything else will come along in the near future.

Please don't quote because I'll probably DD later.

[alabasterangel]

Why would this be worthy of a DD?

It sounds shifty, shady, and shitty.

There is nothing wrong with turning that down.

[MissusTexas]

You turned it down for legitimate reasons, don't be ashamed! Now, if you're staying at home and not keeping things around the house taken care of, bills paid, etc. just being lazy then yes, you should be embarrassed... but I have a feeling you're not like that!

[ILikeSloths]

Jun 22, 2012 16:49:37 GMT -5 alabasterangel said:

Why would this be worthy of a DD?

It sounds shifty, shady, and shitty.

There is nothing wrong with turning that down.

Because I don't usually put many personal issues on the internet. Even though I'm anonymous, I still feel odd about it.


I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought it was messed up. I'm ok with my decision. I'm just disappointed that this is the only offer I've had in awhile and had to pass it up.

I'm having a Debby Downer moment (cue music!) but I know I'll feel better about everything in a few days.

[alabasterangel]

And I think being upset and disappointed is perfectly reasonable.

Just keep trying.

You can dooo eeeet!

[ILikeSloths]

Jun 22, 2012 16:51:53 GMT -5 MissusTexas said:

You turned it down for legitimate reasons, don't be ashamed! Now, if you're staying at home and not keeping things around the house taken care of, bills paid, etc. just being lazy then yes, you should be embarrassed... but I have a feeling you're not like that!

That's one good thing about being unemployed - the fridge is always stocked, the home is spotless, errands are run, and I've been able to focus on other things too lately which is nice. I spend a lot of time stressing over searching and applying for jobs though. I've tried to network also but it hasn't gone over too well.

[ILikeSloths]

Jun 22, 2012 16:58:29 GMT -5 alabasterangel said:

And I think being upset and disappointed is perfectly reasonable.

Just keep trying.

You can dooo eeeet!

I can do it allllllllllllllllll night long!

[ILikeSloths]

Thanks, guys. Like I said, just having a moment. I know it will get better, and I'm VERY grateful that my H has a stable job that he enjoys! We're very lucky.

[blondemoment123]

Don't feel bad! I can't blame you for not taking that job. It sounds shady and 2 hours is a lot of time to spend in the car every day.

[treedimensional]

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! :drink:

[ILikeSloths]

Thanks, ladies. It's always nice hearing that you did the right thing. I really do feel loads better already. It was just the initial shock of OMG, I finally got an interview and an offer... wheeee! to Oh shit, this sucks. lol

[Bridey]

You did great.

[louietunes]

I'm pretty sure YH would rather you not go through hell at another job. You made a smart decision!

[honeydew1894]

I love you! That is all.

[Deleted]

I admire you so much for setting boundaries around your work expectations. I've made the same mistake about being too willing to do too much work for less than clear expectations and I too won't do it again. Good for your DH for supporting you.

[macmars45]

I empathize with you. I was relieved when an interview was cancelled on me on Monday. I've been underemployed for freaking ever but I don't want a full time shitty job to replace my two part time sucky jobs, KWIM?

[Deleted]

That sucks, but I fully get your reasoning...it doesn't sound like a good place to work.

[darkling_glory]

Aww, Sloths! Don't feel to bad! You'd feel even worse if you took this crummy job and then had to quit. The right job will come along.

[shorty20]

I'm sorry you feel bad about it, but there's no point in taking a job you'll be miserable at. The right one will come along.