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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Post by runforrest on Sept 27, 2013 7:40:03 GMT -5
I am sorry you are dealing with this.
Apology or not, I agree that you need to document this, save the voicemail, and go to the police about a restraining order. This probably isn't a one-time thing, unfortunately, and you need to protect yourself.
Why does your ex-husband from six years ago know where you live? You moved when you divorced your second husband, right? I'm divorced. My ex-husband, unless he's a scary google stalker, has no idea where I live, what car I drive or anything else.
Post by speckledfrog on Sept 27, 2013 8:10:46 GMT -5
I think that because this happens to you on a somewhat regular basis you've become desensitized to the fact that it is absolutely bizarre, dangerous, and illegal. Yes, follow through with the police.
I'd go to the policve and try to get a restraining order. And then, seriously, think about moving. Do you have a RO against your more recent ex? I can't remember.
Not to be an alarmist - but DO NOT LET THIS GO. I don't know if you guys remember this, but I just had a friend bury his 37 year old sister because her drunken boyfriend stabbed her to death earlier this summer. The guy was senteced Wednesday and claimed in court that he was "black out drunk" and doesn't remember killing her. No one really buys this, but the point is - do not take this lightly- do something/anything to make sure you are safe. No one thought that this guy was capable of murder, but he was.
Post by Velvetshady on Sept 27, 2013 8:34:05 GMT -5
He ripped up your mail and messed up your mailbox? I wouldn't just call the cops and get a RO, I'd be ensuring he get hit with Federal charges for mail tampering.
Why does your ex-husband from six years ago know where you live? You moved when you divorced your second husband, right? I'm divorced. My ex-husband, unless he's a scary google stalker, has no idea where I live, what car I drive or anything else.
And this is helpful how?
Sped, I agree with others. Don't let this go. Sure, it could be a onetime thing. However, it could be something that is going to rear its ugly head again. Good luck!
It was a question - I didn't know if they had previously been friendly and he'd gone nuts suddenly or if he'd stalked her or what the situation was. I guess it came off meaner than it meant to be. I can see how an ex can find you but I didn't know if that's what had happened.
Ditto others. He was unhinged. It doesn't matter if he was drunk, because he can be drunk again any time in the future. You have more power/control over that situation if you already have this incident on file and an RO in place. Good luck.
Next time he gets drunk, he'll do it again. Don't enable his behavior. File a restraining order ASAP.
And like the pp's said, I think you need to move and change your phone number. I know it's not fair to expect you to do all that b/c he's the scary one, but I think you need to be proactive with this.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by spedrunner on Sept 27, 2013 11:20:26 GMT -5
thanks guys , I am going to pursue the restraining order. I own the condo, but am actually in the process of moving, Too many bad memories, plus I need to get closer to work