Post by starrieskies on Sept 27, 2013 9:06:22 GMT -5
I told stbx that he could have DS again this weekend (2nd weekend in a row) so I could go listen to a band play tonight, but I woke up with a headache and now I'm considering bailing on the band and having a lazy weekend on the couch...
My confession - DH and I started the baby conversation last night. It was hard and uncomfortable and gave me lots of anxiety, but maybe a little excitement too??
I'm a little annoyed at the furniture store. And H. We ordered a new bed and mattresses last weekend and they called on Wednesday and said everything was in and to set up delivery for tomorrow. Then they called yesterday and said the mattresses aren't in yet so I need to wait until next Saturday. Grrr.
I know it's only a week and not a huge deal, but I was all excited to get everything tomorrow. And now I have to wait a week. And I'm annoyed at H because he put this off for so long. I was ready to get new stuff a couple years ago.... but noooo. We had to wait for some unknown reason.
My confession - DH and I started the baby conversation last night. It was hard and uncomfortable and gave me lots of anxiety, but maybe a little excitement too??
Ooooooooh! Care to share any details? If you don't want to, that's completely fine.
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 27, 2013 9:32:59 GMT -5
Yay for Friday!
I may have to have the conversation with H tonight. He's hoping for sexitimes tonight and I'm just not having it. His big plans of "participating more" at home have not panned out so I'm over it.
My confession - DH and I started the baby conversation last night. It was hard and uncomfortable and gave me lots of anxiety, but maybe a little excitement too??
Ooooooooh! Care to share any details? If you don't want to, that's completely fine.
It went like this:
DL: Ummmmmmmmmmmmmm want to talk to you about something, but it is a difficult topic. Mr. DL: (smiling) what is it?? DL: I was in Target the other day when I walked by the baby isle and smelled all the baby goodness and had a thought that I wanted one of those. Mr. DL: Ohhh?? DL: And when we were together the other day, the same thought popped into my head. Mr. DL: You want one right now?? DL: Ummmmm no I don't think so, but these were the first times I had the urge. What do you think about that? Mr. DL: It seems scary to think about. DL: Are you uncomfortable? Mr. DL: Yes, this is a difficult conversation. DL: I am too.
Basically we talked about how we think we would like one, but not right now. We wondered how we would do it with lack of sleep, our lives changing and the stress. We are unsure of how we will know we are ready. It ended in a hug, but yeah, it was pretty uncomfortable.
Oh, my confession. Sort of. New bed = new bedding. So I'm doing some shopping.
I ordered a quilt last Wednesday. On Thursday, I got an email saying that my order shipped. A couple hours later, I get another email with a 50% off home goods coupon code. FUCKERS.
So I ordered the exact same quilt again, but using the coupon code. I'll return the first one to the store when its delivered.
I'm going out this weekend to buy new sheets, mattress covers and pillows.
OMG NEW BED!!!!!
Yes, those exclamation marks are all necessary. Y'all can't see my bed. The mattress is 12 years old, so springs make popping sounds all the time and I swear they're breaking in there. The bed itself is 8 year old fiberboard shit with that wood veneer crap on it. It's ready to collapse. I'm so freaking excited about a new bed. It's ridiculous.
I also got H to agree to new living room furniture next year. We have crappy value city furniture stuff. It's shitty and uncomfortable and I hate the style. And H insisted on buying the set. So the couch and chairs are all matchy-matchy and the tables all match each other. 2 end tables, a coffee table and a tv stand which does not hold a tv since it's mounted on the wall... but, again, it matches so H had to get the set. Not only do I get new furniture next year, but I get to have final say on style and selections AND H agreed to buy individual pieces instead of the fucking set. O M G.
I may have to have the conversation with H tonight. He's hoping for sexitimes tonight and I'm just not having it. His big plans of "participating more" at home have not panned out so I'm over it.
I hesitate to hit the "like" button, just 'cause it feels weird. But good for you. I hope you're able to work up the courage to do it and that it all stays amicable.
We can be very awkward, especially with conversations like this.
awwwwww hugs. You know I can commiserate. It's good that at least you put the idea out there for the future, instead of letting it hang out in your head for awhile and driving you nuts. That's important.
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 27, 2013 10:06:36 GMT -5
Chirp, I am jealous of the new bed!
Chirp & Margarita, I am still seeing the therapist. Honestly, I think he's forgotten that I even see her. I don't typically mention it at home. I hope it can stay amicable too. And who knows, when confronted with all of this he may decide to go to therapy but I'm just really frustrated with the level of participation at home. I haven't brought it up to him in a while, so I am sure he'll be all "WTF, this again?" because it's been relatively peaceful--if distant.
Confession: I lost it last night at H! LOST.IT. I got out of hand but don't feel remorseful for it. (it felt good!) He called my mom (he isn't close to his family and if they knew, the whole family would know). I'm sure I will talk to her tonight. I've emailed him my requests had a breif conversation this AM where I was VERY clear of my expectations. It's in his hands. We'll see where it goes. I know what I have to do if he does nothing! Cheers! Happy Friday! Can't wait to spend the weekend 'pretending' to be a family! We have a neighborhood block party and we're new to the 'hood. So I feel like we should go! I may get drunk and embarrass him! What do you think?
We can be very awkward, especially with conversations like this.
awwwwww hugs. You know I can commiserate. It's good that at least you put the idea out there for the future, instead of letting it hang out in your head for awhile and driving you nuts. That's important.
Yes, I had the thoughts and didn't tell him and then remembered our talk from last week so I decided to just tell him last night so it was on the table. It was scary and uncomfortable, but the thought of a little DL is kind of exciting. I just hope they will be freckly with red hair.
Post by captainmel on Sept 27, 2013 11:02:20 GMT -5
doglove, if you have a baby we must refer to it as puppylove. That's all.
cuddlyevil. You are making smart and well thought out decisions. I hope the conversation goes well. I'll be thinking about you.
I want coffee but I don't want to get out of bed to get coffee. My flameful is that I've been considering moving my coffee machine to my nightstand so that I don't have to get out of bed to make my coffee.
Post by margarita on Sept 27, 2013 11:09:03 GMT -5
Chirp - I am jealous about the new bed, too, and getting to pick out new linens.
I've been doing a lot of bra shopping lately. Like I mentioned in the Thursday random thread, I did the ML video, and oh my God...no wonder the bras I'd been wearing were doing nothing for me! No support, and definitely not comfortable. I've done orders at Nordstrom and Nordstrom Rack, but it's taking a while for one of the orders to get here. Eff you, Canada Post! Anyway, I'm excited about it.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 27, 2013 12:25:26 GMT -5
There's a local winery that has a shop between my parents' house and H's house. I took myself there for a wine tasting last weekend, and I plan on stopping there after I drop off DS for a nice glass of wine. I could see this turning into a bi-weekly routine...
There's a local winery that has a shop between my parents' house and H's house. I took myself there for a wine tasting last weekend, and I plan on stopping there after I drop off DS for a nice glass of wine. I could see this turning into a bi-weekly routine...
There's a local winery that has a shop between my parents' house and H's house. I took myself there for a wine tasting last weekend, and I plan on stopping there after I drop off DS for a nice glass of wine. I could see this turning into a bi-weekly routine...
I APPROVE.
As an added bonus, every 3rd visit, I get 50% off a bottle of wine!!