Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 27, 2013 23:52:20 GMT -5
Yep. My fault for putting it here where he could find it. But he got home from work, showered, then got on my phone because "you don't talk to me" . Found everything here and stormed out. I don'tknow if he'll come home tonight or if he'll be at dd's soccer game tomorrow.
Yep. My fault for putting it here where he could find it. But he got home from work, showered, then got on my phone because "you don't talk to me" . Found everything here and stormed out. I don'tknow if he'll come home tonight or if he'll be at dd's soccer game tomorrow.
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 28, 2013 5:59:45 GMT -5
He came home and we talked until about 3 am . Nothing was resolved nut we did make progress. It was a very calm discussion. He is willing to try counseling.
I told him we had to do it because I wouldn't stay if things stayed as they are now.
He came home and we talked until about 3 am . Nothing was resolved nut we did make progress. It was a very calm discussion. He is willing to try counseling.
I told him we had to do it because I wouldn't stay if things stayed as they are now.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 29, 2013 1:30:31 GMT -5
I have nothing to really add that hasn't already been said, but I'm going to say it anyway.
cuddlyevil, you are amazing and you deserve true happiness. I hope that your husband sees that as clearly as we all do because you deserve nothing less.
I'm angry that he thought it was ok to snoop in your phone, and his "you don't talk to me" excuse has me seeing red still. Perhaps if he was more available to you, emotionally and physically, he would create more opportunities for you to talk. Grrrr....
I also wanted to address your comment about it being your fault for putting it all out here. Honey, you are human! And you did nothing wrong! You are allowed to have your discussions with friends about whatever you want, and you are entitled to privacy and respect! Snooping through your phone is a violation of both.
I know this is getting long and wordy, but I just want to say, again, that I think you are amazing, and I know that you are in a difficult spot. Let us know if there is anything we can do for you! We're here for you!
I'm rooting for you (and your H)! I hope you guys go to counseling and he can see whats right in front of his face: a beautiful, loving wife who just wants an engaging husband.
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 30, 2013 7:53:41 GMT -5
PS, he agreed to go to couples counseling (after the "OMG the cost, the kids!" freak out), he basically told me to tell him when/where. He said he doesn't know what my plans are, but he wants to stay married to me. I told him that I could not stay if things remained as they are because it's not fair to him, me or the kids.
PS, he agreed to go to couples counseling (after the "OMG the cost, the kids!" freak out), he basically told me to tell him when/where. He said he doesn't know what my plans are, but he wants to stay married to me. I told him that I could not stay if things remained as they are because it's not fair to him, me or the kids.
Maybe him reading everything on here was the kick in the ass that he needed to see you were serious. It still makes me really mad for you but maybe it will work out for the best in the end.
cuddlyevil, I wish that your H hadn't found out the way he did, but I'm glad you guys finally talked about it. You needed some sort of catalyst to help you take that step and if that's what it took, so be it.
I don't think she should give you a second chance. I think the fact that you read her posts here in the first place just keeps confirming the fact that you don't deserve her. If it was me, you would've been out on your ass 6 months ago. So, enjoy your second chance. Don't waste it.
cuddlyevil, I wish that your H hadn't found out the way he did, but I'm glad you guys finally talked about it. You needed some sort of catalyst to help you take that step and if that's what it took, so be it.
I keep thinking that 99% of the things you post, he should know already.
Well, because I've told him as much? The only thing he didn't know about was the attorney. Not sure where we go from here outside of couples counseling, but we're both glad it's all out on the table even if it did come out unexpectedly. Still doesn't mean we'll end up staying together, but where ever we end up we'll get there in a healthy way (I hope).