Tell Me About Your Big L

[partiallysunny]

In honor of gault.

Tell me about when you and your SO finally says "I Love You". Or even an amusing story about an old flame.

[partiallysunny]

Honesty, I don't remember between H and I. I know he told me first and I sort of ran away. I didn't say it back until a few weeks later. But I don't remember the details. I don't know where we were or what we were doing.

On the cute side, when I was in 9th grade a boy a grade younger than me liked me. I sort of led him on a bit (I was in 9th grade and liked the attention!), until he drew me a rose and it said "I love you". I panicked and returned the picture, telling him I wasn't ready for that amount of seriousness.

[margarita]

I knew for a while that I loved H. I think I knew before we were officially dating.
I had always been told by a lot of my female relatives and peers that a girl should never, ever be the first one to say I love you. Why? I don't know. But I "broke" that rule with H.

By this point, we'd been together for a while. He drove me home from my class, and when he parked on my parents' driveway he turned around to kiss me. It was a really great kiss, and after it was over, I just blurted out, "I love you."
He looked really surprised. I thought I had freaked him out completely and he'd break up with me on the spot.
I don't think I even meant to tell him that day, or at that moment. It just came out. It all turned out okay though.

[starrieskies]

stbx said "I love you" after our 3rd date. I laughed at him and said "Are you serious?!?" I think my reaction was the same the first time he asked me to marry him... I probably should have stuck with that answer.

[Chirp]

I don't remember how it happened with H and me. I'm 99% certain that H said it first though.

And now that I'm thinking about it, I don't remember how it went down with any ex-boyfriends either.


I think that moment is so stressful and awkward, that everyone just blocks it out eventually.

[Deleted]

Mine was pretty epic. He and I went to a hockey game one night about 5 months into dating and had a great time. Lots of beer was had. After the game, when we were walking to the car, I got kept walking while he stopped to talk to someone who was a fan of his team. I didn't realize (because I had so much to drink) and kept walking and got lost in the crowd of people.

He finally found me and I got mad at him - not really, but I got scared when I couldn't find him and I was drunk and had no idea where I was in this huge parking lot. We fought on the way home and when we got there he was like, "I don't even understand why you are so upset." Me neither to be honest. I just yelled out, "WELL I THINK I LOVE YOU. And I was scared I couldn't find you." And he said, "I think I love you too." And that was that.

[starrieskies]

AAAWWWWEEEE! that's so sweet, DL!!

[bowies]

We had driven to the OBX for a day trip - some lounging at the beach and then an ice cream fix. We were in the middle of driving home when out of the blue he said "I need to tell you something and you don't have to say anything back. But I love you." It took me off guard since we'd only been dating 2 months, if that. I stammered that I wasn't ready to say it, but my feelings were heading in that direction. Luckily it didn't make anything awkward between us...he really meant what he said, all of it.

About a month or two later, I said it to him. I don't remember the context. If I had to guess, it was after he cooked me dinner.

[Deleted]

My ex-FI said it on one of our first few dates. I looked at him all confused and said, "How can you love me? You don't even know me."

Should have been a big warning sign.

[gault]

I had a guy tell me he loved me after 4 dates. I told him he wasn't in love, he was in lust.
Then I broke it off and he continued to email me every 6 months apologizing and telling me how he was a different person and he hoped I was doing really well. For about 2 years.

[Deleted]

Sept 27, 2013 14:39:11 GMT -5 gault said:

I had a guy tell me he loved me after 4 dates. I told him he wasn't in love, he was in lust.
Then I broke it off and he continued to email me every 6 months apologizing and telling me how he was a different person and he hoped I was doing really well. For about 2 years.

Wtf?

My ex-FI was a major clinger. 

[gault]

It was the first guy I saw after my marriage ended. Obviously my judgement was clouded... but I ended it after he said that, so yay me?
OH. This was the dude who bit my nipple and broke the skin, and thought he did a good job of turning me on. And said he watched a lot of porn so he knew what he was doing.

lolz

[Deleted]

I just cringed gault.

[margarita]

*shudder*

I think I remember you talking about that guy way back in the day, gault, but I'd blocked it out of my mind. He sounds speshul.

[tiramisu]

Oy gault, that's terrible.

I don't really remember specifics with anyone anymore. I might have said it first, he might have, I don't know. But I do remember that we had sex before we ever said "I love you" and that weirded me out. But clearly I got over it.

[motzie]

H said it first, except he mumbled, so I pretended I didn't hear him. He said it again a few days later, I said it back and confessed I'd actually heard him the first time, but was waiting for it to be loud and clear.

[macmars45]

When H and I had been dating 6 months he told me there was something he wanted to tell me but was scared to say. I told him to just rip off the bandaid and say it. (I knew it was coming as he'd been kind of skirting around it for a week or so.) So he said, "I think I love you." I replied that I thought I loved him too. Then as he dropped me off at my house later that night we straight up said I love you to each other.

[captainmel]

Mine is super flameful... You all would totally (and within reason) flame my beebee ass. Maybe I will tell you all tomorrow.

[tiramisu]

Sept 28, 2013 22:01:57 GMT -5 captainmel said:

Mine is super flameful... You all would totally (and within reason) flame my beebee ass. Maybe I will tell you all tomorrow.

Now you have to tell us!

[captainmel]

Sept 28, 2013 22:30:01 GMT -5 tiramisu said:

Sept 28, 2013 22:01:57 GMT -5 captainmel said:

Mine is super flameful... You all would totally (and within reason) flame my beebee ass. Maybe I will tell you all tomorrow.

Now you have to tell us!

I will type it up for you soon.

[captainmel]

My flameful for tiramisu.

A timeline of events.
2003- Mel and Boyfriend meet. Boyfriend and Mel don't get along and the first thing Boyfriend ever said to me was "you are a worthless waste of oxygen." Really, it was all uphill from there.

2005- Mel and Boyfriend finally tolerate each other. Occasional conversations occur. 

2007- Mel and Boyfriend are friends

Early 2008- Mel and Boyfriend are good friends. I was 17 and was constantly fighting with my parents over religion. In April of 2008 Boyfriend is asked to house sit for the summer and offers to let me move in with him when I turned 18 in June. Free housing and no Jesus. Hooray! I'll be living with my good friend.

May 2008, Mel and Boyfriend have been spending more time together just the two of us in anticipation of the roommate situation. Mel has a shitty bf at the time but starts to realize she has feelings for Boyfriend. Boyfriend has feelings for Mel but neither of us think that the feelings are mutual.

Late May, Boyfriend offers to take Mel to a dinner with his parents and some family friends. This has been known as the first date. We went back to the house and watched a a movie while nearly snuggling. We slept in the bed together that night and I pretty much knew I loved him. The next morning we woke up and I basically made him kiss me. After lots more kissing he made me breakfast. Later I called shitty bf and broke up with him.

3 days later, (on my 18th birthday) Mel and Boyfriend move in together. 

7 days later, Mel says "I love you" Boyfriend says "I think I might love you"

We have been together ever since. You can pretty much flame everything in here... I would flame me. It worked for us though.

[tiramisu]

captainmel all I could think to flame you for is proceeding without breaking up with your shitty bf first, but at least you broke up with him pretty soon after you knew it was mutual. And honestly your story is cute, IMO.

If it makes you feel any better, I met MH many times but never remembered him from one time to the next until one day I put the pieces together. I realized I liked him before my bf and I broke up and I did flirt a little so he'd know I was interested once I was single (bf and I knew we were breaking up, he was moving out of the country).

[MixedBerryJam]

Sept 27, 2013 15:25:38 GMT -5 gault said:

It was the first guy I saw after my marriage ended. Obviously my judgement was clouded... but I ended it after he said that, so yay me?
OH. This was the dude who bit my nipple and broke the skin, and thought he did a good job of turning me on. And said he watched a lot of porn so he knew what he was doing.

lolz

Yikes. I don't think my inverted nipples would ever see the light of day again! Owie!

[partiallysunny]

captainmel - I was also in a sudo relationship when I started dating H. FLAME AWAY!

In my defense, I had tried to break up with this guy numerous times. He refused to answer his phone or return a phone call or text. He just dropped of the face of the planet. Came to see me at work a month later and was all "oh sorry, I was sick. Are we still dating?".

[margarita]

I can't really flame you captainmel. I think it's cute.

I wanted to punch him for calling you a waste of oxygen, but then he redeemed himself.

[captainmel]

Sept 30, 2013 9:26:49 GMT -5 margarita said:

I can't really flame you captainmel. I think it's cute.

I wanted to punch him for calling you a waste of oxygen, but then he redeemed himself.

I was 14 when that happened. I'm sure that I was so super, fucking, annoying.