Feeling Crummy (Gaming Group Related)

[darkling_glory]

So, my husband and I have been dating since we were 17 and have had the same gaming group (RPGs) for just as long.

We used to play weekly - every single Friday night - for years. However, like many things, we are all getting older, starting families etc... The last few years, attempting to game has been difficult and inconsistent. It's frustrating. We make plans and then at the last minute, people cancel or attempt to reschedule or show up late and then I get annoyed and can't have fun. 

Recently, a friend reached out to the group to see about getting going again. However, my husband and I talked it out and we just can't deal with the blow-offs and no-shows. It's sad, but it is what it is. We replied back that we would not be gaming with them because we couldn't deal with the inconsistency. 

Now, I feel like shit. I miss my group. I'd love to game. But it's never been me or my husband holding things up. Our other friends are just not reliable. 

Bleh. Getting older sucks. College was awesome 6-8 hour sessions every weekend. Now we all have LIVES! 

To top it all off... we recently met another gaming group that we really hit it off with and we were invited to join a twice a month D&D game. I feel guilty. Like I'm having an affair. LOL (that's a little dramatic, but you know what I mean). 

I just wanted to share here because I don't think anyone else would really understand. 

[Deleted]

I feel you 100%. I had a awesome gaming group, but there was always call offs, reschedules, and just general disorganization. Then drama went down recently, so K and I took a step back, because who wants to invest time/effort into a game that is constantly blown off?

So I totally feel you and I agree it sucks.

[starfish]

I green you have a new group to go to. We have two other friends who play up here, but its like trying to get toddlers to sit still. I miss our old group back home. I keep trying to get my DH to join meetup and go to the huge gaming group listed, but he worried I would be mad at him for leaving me home to watch the kids.

[darkling_glory]

I'm glad I'm not alone!

Starfish, what state/area are you in? It's so hard to meet new friends, let alone new gaming friends that you click with!

[starfish]

We are in the Atlanta area, you would think since its such a big area it would be easy. My dh keeps bringing up if we went to a new group they would be super creepy and skin suit us.

[CheshireGrin]

I would kill to play D&D again. It's been at least 12 years. I had some kickass characters too!

[dr.girlfriend]

We ran into something similar with our book club. We all started it when we were kid-free, and now almost all of us have kids. It's actually gotten a little easier as everyone's kids get out of baby-hood and can stay with a sitter, but basically we went to a bimonthly format. Better to have fewer dates, set up well in advance that everyone moves heaven and earth to make than more regular dates that people find it easier to flake about. Maybe that would work with your old group? Having one date a month that everyone tries really hard to make? That said, I don't think you should feel guilty about the new group.

[midnightrae]

I've never played D&D, but I've always wanted to play. Good for you for saying you won't game with them. People not showing up/blowing me off drives me crazy. Don't feel bad. I'm glad you were able to find another group.

I've had this friend that I have known since I was in 5th grade. We used to go to poetry night together. We talked about starting up a poetry night again and play some tabletop games as well. We wanted to start up a group again. I hope it works out.

[gwynnetx]

We are part of three home groups (2 D&D and 1 Pathfinder), and we are having this problem with one. It's run by a friend, and besides us, the other members are his co-workers. We've had several game times set up, and they've cancelled the day of. I'm wondering if that one's going to work out. Our other two are going great, but we don't meet every week. We try to do every other week with each group, but sometimes, we go 3 or 4 weeks, depending on people's schedules. Don't feel guilty about joining the new group. Being part of group that works for everyone's schedules/lives is more fun -- IMO -- because you can look forward to, relax, and enjoy the game, rather than feeling like people would rather be somewhere else.