Post by snipsnsnails on Sept 30, 2013 20:07:25 GMT -5
Ha, yes, that was the anger I channeled for a good, oh, 6 months after. But I'm slowly getting to a better place now. I think not talking to him did wonders for my ability to be civil with his wife. I do believe what wbl said soon after in that even though they royally screwed me, it is better for me to be out of the org. I wish it would've been on better terms, but it is what it is <---my DH hates this saying!
Thanks, all. And feel free to skip the novella in the middle. It's just my ranting and I'll DD later. Definitely don't need it to advise! Ha!
Oh no, I'd say the rant is definitely needed to advise. This isn't a case of a promised business introduction that didn't happen, or even a situation where BFF's DH recruited your best employee. That's kind of what I was originally thinking and while those would have sucked, well, business is business.
This guy f*cked your life up while your BFF sat by apparently silently, and even spilled private information to him (your pg). Thanks but no thanks. Decline, and don't feel obligated to send a present at all.
You know I think of you often and think of this situation as I continue to process my own work betrayal. The guy who did the crap to me at work didn't do nearly the stuff that your former boss did. And I'm still angry about him. Really, really angry. And I have a hard time hanging out with his wife and kids (who I totally love) even though I KNOW the wife has no idea about anything that went down. Honestly, I'm still very angry for you. And I don't even know you in real life!
All this to say-- I don't think I'd go to the party if I were you. If she were really extending an olive branch, this is a terrible way to do it. This isn't an apology, or even a request to meet one on one to clear the air. It's a giant party. And if she views your non-attendance as a snub, well then she's really not worth the friendship you're not sure you want to have anyway. KWIM?