Post by LauraMoser on Sept 30, 2013 14:01:15 GMT -5
When the quiet one speaks their mind.
I mentioned before that I have cut out my sisters for a while, and I have seriously limited contact with my parents. I've always been the quiet one, and tried to keep the peace. Well I finally had enough and spoke my mind.
Talk about a major shit storm. Lol. My one sister keeps finding ways to message me and she has been accusing me of being depressed, greedy, and letting DH make all the decisions for me.
Huh. Guys I must really have problems, lol. I mean, I've never felt so stress free and happy before. Clearly I am a horrible, depressed person who refuses to get help.
I laughed the entire way through reading the message. I never meant for the break from them to be permanent, but its looking better and better with each message I get, lol.
Post by game blouses on Sept 30, 2013 14:21:57 GMT -5
The fact that they're protesting the break and trying to shame you about it shows that you're doing the right thing. Controlling people HATE it when they can't control someone anymore.
Good for you! I read somewhere that when you bring change into a relationship,the other person or people will nearly literally shout CHANGE BACK and jump up and down to try to get you to stop what changes you've made and go back to the old way of dealing with them. If they yelled at you before, they'll scream bloody murder. If they called you every day, once a day, to tell you something dreadful, well, they'll call you THREE times a day to get you to RESPOND to them, in the way you used to respond. It's just like when a toddler is having a tantrum; if you ignore them, they get louder and louder and louder and louder, before they finally give up and accept that you are not going to respond to the tantrum. Same thing here. Once I read that, it made it much, much easier to deal with my completely obnoxious sister who I swear must be your sister too.
That is so true Sue Sue. Thanks for all the reassurance ladies. You all rock!
My mom has done something similar a few times. My two aunts are both toxic. One we haven't had contact with in 10-15 years and the other has been really up and down the last couple years. My grandma is mentally ill and had an abusive childhood. She passed that on to two of her daughters, but thankfully my mom is pretty normal, by the grace of God.