lmao, she's totally doing that right now. It's killing me.
I can't be on here all day, I get short burst of time in which to post. Some people evidently can devote more time to posting and paying attention to the spacing of their (and clearly also of other posters') posts. Is there a specific guideline as to the appropriate spacing?
Post by deanlicker78 on Oct 1, 2013 15:24:54 GMT -5
When Ava starts kindergarten next year I suspect I will swing wildly back and forth from crying because my last baby is gone to jubilant celebration because my last kid is gone. Probably more of the second than the first.
Cinnamoncox, is it really that hard to believe that a mother (or father or both) loses that feeling of having their own identity after raising children and when they get to a point where they don't need their parents 24/7, it can feel like a giant sigh of relief from the parent?
Finally having her life back doesn't me "I regret having kids, good; I'm glad they are gone - little heathens!" I'd imagine a lot of parents feel a relief that they are their own person again, instead of just being Mom or Dad.
@trickybob I can TOTALLY understand it, as I am a sahm and have been almost exclusively for 14 years, less the two years I went to work full time. So believe me, I know that it's nice to have the kids get older and need less constant care, get more independent, etc. As I said, my youngest two just started preschool full time and I've been, in anticipation of them starting school, job seeking like crazy, so I can start focusing more on me and work etc. There seems to be some sort of misunderstanding here. I never once said I couldn't understand it or that it was wrong, I simply said the tone or the way it was worded just felt uncomfortable, that's all. Her feelings are hers alone, it's not my place to judge her, nor am I. I've been home full time with twins for the past three years, I absolutely get wanting time alone.
toledo I didn't say anything was wrong with it, I simply said it was different. I'm sure you're able to see/understand the difference
No, you said it was "gross" and "uncomfortable." Try to remember your own posts from ten minutes ago before you spin bullshit.
toledo I said her PHRASING was "gross" and "felt uncomfortable", not her actual feelings on it. That it totally understandable. Why are you so hellbent on twisting this into something else? At first I thought it must be a misunderstanding but I've come to realize it's not.
I don't get how the tone of like a 6 word sentance can be uncomfortable.
But then again I am 100% that parent...sooooo.
Also I was reading this thread and I was reminded about how smugly easy I thought having two kids were when Leo wasn't mobile. Hell I still thought it was a walk in the park until he started walking. Now I feel as if I might die every night from the hours of 5-7 pm. Babies are so fucking easy. They just sit there and shit.
agnes Why is this? I need to read 15 (app) pgs before I'm allowed to reply to something earlier in the thread?! LOL Okaaay!
Because it will significantly decrease your punchability rating.
Lolol! What will reduce yours?? I've said nothing here to warrant this. I think someone misunderstood something I wrote to be negative to working moms? Not sure
Cinnamoncox, is it really that hard to believe that a mother (or father or both) loses that feeling of having their own identity after raising children and when they get to a point where they don't need their parents 24/7, it can feel like a giant sigh of relief from the parent?
Finally having her life back doesn't me "I regret having kids, good; I'm glad they are gone - little heathens!" I'd imagine a lot of parents feel a relief that they are their own person again, instead of just being Mom or Dad.
@trickybob I can TOTALLY understand it, as I am a sahm and have been almost exclusively for 14 years, less the two years I went to work full time. So believe me, I know that it's nice to have the kids get older and need less constant care, get more independent, etc. As I said, my youngest two just started preschool full time and I've been, in anticipation of them starting school, job seeking like crazy, so I can start focusing more on me and work etc. There seems to be some sort of misunderstanding here. I never once said I couldn't understand it or that it was wrong, I simply said the tone or the way it was worded just felt uncomfortable, that's all. Her feelings are hers alone, it's not my place to judge her, nor am I. I've been home full time with twins for the past three years, I absolutely get wanting time alone.
So what is so different from a sahp and a working parent reveling in time spent alone when their kid is in school?
lmao, she's totally doing that right now. It's killing me.
I can't be on here all day, I get short burst of time in which to post. Some people evidently can devote more time to posting and paying attention to the spacing of their (and clearly also of other posters') posts. Is there a specific guideline as to the appropriate spacing?
@trickybob I can TOTALLY understand it, as I am a sahm and have been almost exclusively for 14 years, less the two years I went to work full time. So believe me, I know that it's nice to have the kids get older and need less constant care, get more independent, etc. As I said, my youngest two just started preschool full time and I've been, in anticipation of them starting school, job seeking like crazy, so I can start focusing more on me and work etc. There seems to be some sort of misunderstanding here. I never once said I couldn't understand it or that it was wrong, I simply said the tone or the way it was worded just felt uncomfortable, that's all. Her feelings are hers alone, it's not my place to judge her, nor am I. I've been home full time with twins for the past three years, I absolutely get wanting time alone.
So what is so different from a sahp and a working parent reveling in time spent alone when their kid is in school?
Again, I didn't say the sentiment was "wrong" or bad, etc. I simply said the wording felt yuck, that is all. And since then, I have stated numerous times that I can totally understand it, as I am in a similar situation myself. It's been 14 years, I'm good and ready to have more time to work to offset the outrageous amount of $ the preschool costs for the twins. So is this misunderstanding ever going to be understood properly?
I can't be on here all day, I get short burst of time in which to post. Some people evidently can devote more time to posting and paying attention to the spacing of their (and clearly also of other posters') posts. Is there a specific guideline as to the appropriate spacing?
It's just obnoxious as fuck.
Clue me in as to how you (general you) find the time to have to much to devote to ensuring the proper post spacing as to not be "obnoxious as fuck"
I'm here in spurts, it's how I post, it's the only way I am able to do it. Let me in on the secret
Again, I didn't say the sentiment was "wrong" or bad, etc. I simply said the wording felt yuck, that is all. And since then, I have stated numerous times that I can totally understand it, as I am in a similar situation myself. It's been 14 years, I'm good and ready to have more time to work to offset the outrageous amount of $ the preschool costs for the twins. So is this misunderstanding ever going to be understood properly?
Clue me in as to how you (general you) find the time to have to much to devote to ensuring the proper post spacing as to not be "obnoxious as fuck"
I'm here in spurts, it's how I post, it's the only way I am able to do it. Let me in on the secret
Posts have a time stamp? Common sense? It's just like you (general you) shouldn't go around looking for a bunch of 3 day old posts and responding to them. It's not that complicated. I don't get what you don't get.
I guess you are right, everyone else does have time for that, and that is exactly what I'm asking about, how does one find the time to post all day long to ensure their posts are properly spaced??
Clue me in as to how you (general you) find the time to have to much to devote to ensuring the proper post spacing as to not be "obnoxious as fuck"
I'm here in spurts, it's how I post, it's the only way I am able to do it. Let me in on the secret
Posts have a time stamp? Common sense? It's just like you (general you) shouldn't go around looking for a bunch of 3 day old posts and responding to them. It's not that complicated. I don't get what you don't get.
Margo, it was the 2nd thread when I opened ProBoards It didn't seem like a three day old post. letsgetweird has already cleared this up for me. Now perhaps I see where the confusion is coming from
Chib - I'm sorry I'm in the midst of deciding if I still want to be married to H and sometimes I think I don't, but then I can't imagine telling him that so then I think maybe I just don't know what I want.
TR I am in the same spot. Can't decide if it will change or not and I hate being in this waiting period. I hate how hard it is to decide if the guy I spent the last 12 years of my life will always be in my life by my choosing.
Cinnamoncox, is it really that hard to believe that a mother (or father or both) loses that feeling of having their own identity after raising children and when they get to a point where they don't need their parents 24/7, it can feel like a giant sigh of relief from the parent?
Finally having her life back doesn't me "I regret having kids, good; I'm glad they are gone - little heathens!" I'd imagine a lot of parents feel a relief that they are their own person again, instead of just being Mom or Dad.
Fuck to the yeah, right here.
Also, instead of judging this chick for being happy that she's "getting her life back," lets acknowledge that there's probably a good reason that she put her life on hold in the first place; more than likely, she's spent a lot of time putting her child's needs ahead of her own. Why the ever-loving fuck is it an issue that this woman is excited to finally have time to do things for herself? I'm sure she deserves it.
Life is multifaceted, yo. She isn't disowning her kids, FFS.
Chib - I'm sorry I'm in the midst of deciding if I still want to be married to H and sometimes I think I don't, but then I can't imagine telling him that so then I think maybe I just don't know what I want.
TR I am in the same spot. Can't decide if it will change or not and I hate being in this waiting period. I hate how hard it is to decide if the guy I spent the last 12 years of my life will always be in my life by my choosing.
Therapy. All of you. :waves hands around: Seriously.
TR I am in the same spot. Can't decide if it will change or not and I hate being in this waiting period. I hate how hard it is to decide if the guy I spent the last 12 years of my life will always be in my life by my choosing.
Therapy. All of you. :waves hands around: Seriously.
cinnamoncox, it might be best if you read the whole thread before you quote and post.
agnes Why is this? I need to read 15 (app) pgs before I'm allowed to reply to something earlier in the thread?! LOL Okaaay!
If you want to beat dead horse even deader. G'head.
Here's a "trick" I do. If you see a long thread, read the first page and then the last page: most relevant info. Forget all the stuff in between. It's all fluff.
Sometime last year I wore the spanx to work that had the pee hole. BAD IDEA. Can anyone get that effing pee hole to work??
Yeah, I threw them away.
haha I have a pair of these.
Normally I totally disrobe and just pee normally, but once I was at church and I had to be fast because I left in the middle of service and I didn't want everyone to see me come back in 10 minutes later and think I just took a massive dump (our church isn't that big and every one knows every one)
I now make sure that if I wear them to church I have an easy on/easy off outfit or I make sure not to drink anything until after church.
Post by Ohhmm(bligo) on Oct 1, 2013 20:08:44 GMT -5
Will someone draw me a drawing of what she actually means? A Venn, maybe?
So far, I've got: -The sentiment was gross and made her uncomfortable -So much so she came back and responded to EVERYTHING AT ONCE -Which is NOT WEIRD -It just means she's BETTER THAN ALL OF US -And it was just the wording, that's all -And she gets the sentiment -And we don't understand -But you know, I'm pretty sure this mom was SAHM MOM, who wasn't even going to a JOB OR ANYTHING -But um why would we think she thinks there's a difference between SAHM having this thought and a working mom having this thought? It's not like she's the one who made the distinc -We just don't understand. We never will understand.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby