I could use some hair pets.

[luvvy]

SS is having a hard time. H is out of town until Wednesday morning for a trade show. I'm making him an appointment with an MD tomorrow and finding him a counselor. I feel totally I equipped to deal with this since I am not stable without meds myself.

[jaycee]

You're doing the right thing by making an appointment. I hope things get easier.

[bonquiqui]

(hug) (hug2)

[luvvy]

How do I lock up all the meds in the house without making him feel like I don't trust him? I'm so exhausted and tired and I don't want to go to bed before him.

He plans on sleeping downstairs on the couch instead of upstairs in his room (his room is on the second floor, ours is on the first). I offered for him to crash on his dad's side of the bed but I think he is totally weirded out by that. Heh.

I am genuinely concerned his mom is part of the problem. She wasn't exactly supportive of him moving down here and is the queen of the guilt trip.

[saraandmichael]

i'm sorry, but are you concerned that he is suicidal? have you asked him as much? your last post in here sounds that way. and if thats the case, i think he would benefit from some immediate help.

[luvvy]

Sept 30, 2013 21:27:44 GMT -5 saraandmichael said:

i'm sorry, but are you concerned that he is suicidal? have you asked him as much? your last post in here sounds that way. and if thats the case, i think he would benefit from some immediate help.

He admitted that he has thought about hurting himself but has never made a plan.  H is flying home first thing tomorrow.  I've been texting with a friend who is a psychologist and she has given me the green light to make an appointment tomorrow.

SS has also said that now that it is out in the open he feels so much better.  His overall demeanor is better as well.  Moving the meds is purely precautionary at this point.

[luvvy]

Sept 30, 2013 21:38:50 GMT -5 loonylunalovegood said:

I this keeping an eye on him tonight and then an appt first thing tomorrow is the right thing to do. He's been through so much over the last couple of months. You all have. ((Hugs))

Yep.  That's the plan.  *sigh*

My MIL is picking up G from daycare so H and I can be with SS tomorrow.

[ohiowan]

Sept 30, 2013 21:33:33 GMT -5 luvvy said:

Sept 30, 2013 21:27:44 GMT -5 saraandmichael said:

i'm sorry, but are you concerned that he is suicidal? have you asked him as much? your last post in here sounds that way. and if thats the case, i think he would benefit from some immediate help.

He admitted that he has thought about hurting himself but has never made a plan.  H is flying home first thing tomorrow.  I've been texting with a friend who is a psychologist and she has given me the green light to make an appointment tomorrow.

SS has also said that now that it is out in the open he feels so much better.  His overall demeanor is better as well.  Moving the meds is purely precautionary at this point.

How old is he? That was really brave of him to open up about it.

[luvvy]

Sept 30, 2013 21:57:50 GMT -5 ohiowan said:

Sept 30, 2013 21:33:33 GMT -5 luvvy said:

He admitted that he has thought about hurting himself but has never made a plan.  H is flying home first thing tomorrow.  I've been texting with a friend who is a psychologist and she has given me the green light to make an appointment tomorrow.

SS has also said that now that it is out in the open he feels so much better.  His overall demeanor is better as well.  Moving the meds is purely precautionary at this point.

How old is he? That was really brave of him to open up about it.

He is 18.  He started talking to his grandma (my MIL) and she asked him if she could tell me and he said yes.  His biggest fear was that if he told me he missed his mom that it would hurt my feelings.

Yeah.  This kid has such a big heart he is overwhelmed with worry about how his actions or inactions effect his parents and family.

[ohiowan]

Sept 30, 2013 21:59:52 GMT -5 luvvy said:

Sept 30, 2013 21:57:50 GMT -5 ohiowan said:

How old is he? That was really brave of him to open up about it.

He is 18.  He started talking to his grandma (my MIL) and she asked him if she could tell me and he said yes.  His biggest fear was that if he told me he missed his mom that it would hurt my feelings.

Yeah.  This kid has such a big heart he is overwhelmed with worry about how his actions or inactions effect his parents and family.

((hugs)) and hairpats. You're fantastic.

[angelaa73]

Aw luvvy I'm sorry

Good luck tomorrow. Hope he can get some help. Sounds like he has a huge heavy heart

[luvvy]

Thanks, ohiowan. I love that kid like I gave birth to him. He is such an awesome kid, I HATE that he is having a tough time right now.

I know that he will get through this, he just needs some time and lots of support.

[awick14]

((Hugs)) you sound like an amazing step mom.

I'm glad you are helping him get the help he needs.

[Deleted]

I'm glad now that it's out in the open that he's feeling slightly better. You're doing great.

((hugs)) to you for going through this.

[aussiecrush]

No advice just wanted to say all kids deserve someone in their side like you are for him. Good luck tomorrow, he sounds like a great kid.

[softspot]

(Hugs) He's lucky to have you.

[polka]

You're doing a great job, hang in there. Good luck tomorrow.

[kayl84]

When I had a rough time mentally dealing with all my pain/abdominal issues, I gave my mom the green light to handle my narcotics and any meds that could cause me harm. I knew well enough to know that while these medicines helped with pain, it'd be SO easy to take an extra 3, 4, 5+ to dull my mental pain and stress (not that I ever did it) and then I'd lose my medicine altogether. I got into my psychiatrist that next day and have a great relationship with him.

It's been months since my lowest point, but still to this day my mom only lives/works 10 minutes away and even closer to my new apartment and I see her every 3-4 days which at that time she gives me 3-4 days worth of medicine. Hell, even that much medicine is a lot for me to have on hand and if I ever feel myself slipping down to that low point of feeling worthless I know I can always tell mom to scale it back even more. My situation is WAY WAY different than your SS, but don't make him feel like you don't trust him. Just maybe when he's asleep round up the medicine and put it in your purse or a lockbox in the house until your H comes home tomorrow.

He's very lucky to have you who cares about him so much!

[noodleskooze]

He's SO lucky to have you.

Thoughts, hair pets, and hugs for your family.

[curtains]

Lots of **hairpets**..
You are such an amazing stepmom. He is lucky to have you. I hope this passes soon and as painlessly as possible.

[kayl84]

Oh and TONS of *hairpets* for you! He's got a great stepmom who obviously loves him.