Struggling today.

[iamgrace]

why do you feel like a bad mom? How old is your baby. It takes time!!

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((hugs))

Babies change day to day. By the time you think you've got it in the bag, they switch it up on you. You're a good mom.

Put some Boob-ease on your lady lumps.

[polka]

You aren't a bad mom. It will get better, hang in there!

[dizzydee]

My boobs are on fire, so I feel you. Take it easy, you are a good mom and tomorrow is a new day.

[iamgrace]

It's alllllll temporary. It's so hard to remember that when you're in the thick of it, but like Betty said, they change so fast. Lansinoh helped my boobs, but really it just took time. Clare TORE up my nipples.

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Oct 1, 2013 12:43:20 GMT -5 ste said:

Oct 1, 2013 12:31:21 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

why do you feel like a bad mom? How old is your baby. It takes time!!

He's almost 7 weeks. I know I'm being crazy. He's just been super fussy the last two days, and I hate that I can't help him/nothing I'm doing makes him happy. I'm not used to him being like this!! And I'm starting to stress about daycare, which is silly because it's weeks away.

Once when ds was about that age I called my Mom and said "I don't want to do this today". She could tell from my tone it was more like "come get this motherfucker", so she did. I spent the day cleaning and watching tv and I felt so much better.

Is there anyone that can do that for you today or tomorrow?

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Oct 1, 2013 12:43:20 GMT -5 ste said:

Oct 1, 2013 12:31:21 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

why do you feel like a bad mom? How old is your baby. It takes time!!

He's almost 7 weeks. I know I'm being crazy. He's just been super fussy the last two days, and I hate that I can't help him/nothing I'm doing makes him happy. I'm not used to him being like this!! And I'm starting to stress about daycare, which is silly because it's weeks away.

Olivia went though a fussy phase around this time. It's completely normal, and yes it is terrible and heart wrenching. 

[nsl]

(((HUGS)))

The first few months are so, SO hard. Ditto the suggestion that you call someone for help if you can. How does he do in the car? Even just getting out of the house for an hour or two might give you the mental break you need.

[daisybuchannan]

Ughh those early days are HARD.

I didn't have bad nipple pain, but I used a shield which was a whole other set of issues.

As others said, it gets soooo much easier!

[Deleted]

I think my baby lived in the carrier or swing from weeks 8-12. One time the transition from screaming sobs to sleep was so abrupt DH came down to ask if she was still alive.

I did make myself go on at least one walk a day which helped.

Have you seen a lactation consultant to ask if he's latching properly? I used the lansinoh gel as well while adjusting but there was a sharper pain that happened when she latched wrong and the fix was to have her try again.


I agree after 3 months it starts to improve. And even when they regress or fuss after that it's much easier to deal with.

[AlpineSlide]

Go easy on yourself. You're a great mom!

[jaycee]

You're doing a great job. Hang in there.

[Deleted]

Also, if I look back I'm sure I posted a few 'omg can't do this' threads. This board saved my sanity.

[sonrisa]

((hugs)) Having a newborn hurts - both physically and emotionally. Nursing is painful. Sleep deprivation is painful. Physical recovery from birth is painful. The hormones involved just make it all worse. Even people who adjust well take a few months to get on an even keel. It took me half a year to just get my head above water.


It will get better. Not as soon as you want it to, but it will. 

[osulori]

Oct 1, 2013 12:52:24 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Oct 1, 2013 12:43:20 GMT -5 ste said:

He's almost 7 weeks. I know I'm being crazy. He's just been super fussy the last two days, and I hate that I can't help him/nothing I'm doing makes him happy. I'm not used to him being like this!! And I'm starting to stress about daycare, which is silly because it's weeks away.

Olivia went though a fussy phase around this time. It's completely normal, and yes it is terrible and heart wrenching. 

So did AJ. It's normal, but it sucks. Take it one minute at a time...you CAN do this.

[snickers]

I'm sorry