Poll: Sexless Marriage

[Bree Van de Kamp]

Sexless marriage: <10 times a year.

Inspired by:

www.elle.com/beauty/health-fitness/sexless-relationships-394316

[pedanticwench]

I don't have a very high sex-drive, but if we never had sex I would not be happy.

[elleblue]

I suppose it would depend on the reason behind the sexlessness (if it was due to accident/injury/ill health/distance my answer would probably be different) but no, I would not stay in a sexless relationship.

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Oct 2, 2013 16:24:32 GMT -5 elleblue said:

I suppose it would depend on the reason behind the sexlessness (if it was due to accident/injury/ill health/distance my answer would probably be different) but no, I would not stay in a sexless relationship.

This. If it was due to illness or something, then yes. Otherwise, I think it would make me feel unattractive and lonely and I'd probably be likely to cheat if I stayed married. 

[LeggsBenedict]

Nope.

[snickers]

I don't know if sex alone would make me leave, but I cannot imagine being happy.

[AmeliaBedelia]

Yes. It wouldn't be a dream come true, but I don't think I'd feel deprived. I like sex, but I think I could manage without it, lol.

[CheshireGrin]

It would depend on a lot of different factors. As PP said, if it was sexless because of an injury or illness but I was otherwise fulfilled, then yes I think I would stay. If he just wasn't interested, that would be a major hurdle for me and I don't think my self-esteem would handle it. I would start to hate us both eventually.

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Yeah.

[hopecounts]

i said no assuming that it was by choice, I would get resentful/hurt if my DH didn't want me physically and don't think I could get past feeling it was because he didn't find me attractive.
if it was due to illness/injury/physical issues I'd want to stay and make it work as long as the marriage was otherwise good.

[Bree Van de Kamp]

Oct 2, 2013 16:21:54 GMT -5 toledo said:

I think you mean <10.

Yepppp. Thanks for the heads up.

[kirra]

It would depend on why. If it were due to physical problems, probably. If there were sexual activity but not actual intercourse, definitely.

I'm not an intensely sexual person, but I think it's important, and I would miss it. If it just disappeared for no reason I could understand? I don't know if I could stay. I would try, but I think I would spend all my time wondering what was wrong with me that he didn't want me anymore. And honestly? If sex just disappeared with no explanation, I doubt that would be the only problem in our marriage.

[underwaterrhymes]

Oct 2, 2013 16:42:44 GMT -5 CheshireGrin said:

It would depend on a lot of different factors. As PP said, if it was sexless because of an injury or illness but I was otherwise fulfilled, then yes I think I would stay. If he just wasn't interested, that would be a major hurdle for me and I don't think my self-esteem would handle it. I would start to hate us both eventually.

This exactly.

[10outof9]

Sure - DH and I have probably only had sex 10 times in the 3 years we've been married. We have a great relationship otherwise, and I don't find sex particularly enjoyable, so it's no big deal to me.