Timeout question

[softspot]

When I put my kid in timeout, do I hold him there when he tries to get up? He's 21 months. Right now I'm just picking him up & putting him down repeatedly. He won't even sit long enough for me to walk away. Help.

[MrsAxilla]

I think 21 months is a tad young for time outs. Minutes in time out is supposed to be their age, so at 21 months, you're looking at a minute or two - not long long enough to really be effective.

To answer your original question, NO, you are not supposed to hold him there. You're supposed to keep putting him back until he stays on his own. It could definitely take awhile.

[softspot]

Really? He used to sit quietly & wait but in the last month or so it's been complete refusal to sit down. Clearly it isn't working anymore.

For the record, I don't hold him down, just didn't know what others did.

What age did you guys start timeouts?

[PeonyParty]

Too young. If anything, place him in his room or crib for quiet time.

[softspot]

Oct 3, 2013 20:07:23 GMT -5 PeonyParty said:

Too young. If anything, place him in his room or crib for quiet time.

I don't want him to associate his crib with "punishment", but I'll try to room thing.

Thanks guys.

[Deleted]

I strap my kid in. Lol.

I would have been horrified by this concept when I only had Payne. I out him back like 30 times once and that was that. He never got up again.

G is not the same child. OMG.

Our time out chair:

[softspot]

Oct 3, 2013 20:12:03 GMT -5 @aliciaroset said:

You can do a "time in" which is what we've been doing with our 24 month old for a while.
We just take her to our specified spot (we call it time out because that's what her daycare calls it) and sit with her. We help her calm down and talk about what she's done and sit with her for a while before going back to whatever we were doing. We only use it for things that we've talked about, not the first time we have an issue with something. It has worked really well for us.

That's sound right up his alley. Thanks.

[softspot]

Oct 3, 2013 20:15:29 GMT -5 @stellasmom said:

I strap my kid in. Lol.

I would have been horrified by this concept when I only had Payne. I out him back like 30 times once and that was that. He never got up again.

G is not the same child. OMG.

Our time out chair:

I don't believe that little doe eyed girl earns timeouts.