I have baby fever

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Not lately (obviously) but I did when I was 27 or 28. It was very weird to realize I wanted kids when I had always been opposed to or neutral about them in the past. I still think I would have had a happy life either way, but having a desire for them at all was very odd to me at first.

[greencrayon]

I'm pregnant, and I'm wondering what the heck I got myself into. So no. The exact opposite, lol.

[justjen]

I always wanted kids *hypothetically*. But when it was time to actual make it happen, I was terrified. I also had a lot of "what the hell did I do??"

But now she's here and she's awesome. Whew

Also? You and that guy of yours would make some mighty pretty babies.

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I had the opposite. Ever since I turned 30, I've been waiting for "my clock to start ticking" since that's all I've heard since I was 18 - "you may not want them now, but you'll want them when you turn 30 and your clock starts ticking."

I had a pregnancy scare early this year, and was sick to my stomach for two days before peeing on a stick. I cried with relief when I finally took a test and it was negative. Clearly, I do not want kids!

Still scared of that damn clock, though.

[mbcdefg]

MH and I go back and forth sometimes. We're pretty sure we want a couple, but we also agreed that we could probably be happy as DINKs forever if that works out best for us.

I've brought up a timeline discussion in the past and he's always suggested waiting a while to seriously talk about it since we spent a lot of savings on our home repair, plus his contract at work is very uncertain right now, and I'm fine waiting another year or two to actually start planning it out. But a couple nights ago he randomly said, "So, when do you want to have a kid?" and it sort of knocked me for a loop, lol. (And our answer was STILL, "Let's wait another year and then talk about it.")

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I have spent a lot of time around cute babies lately and have spent a lot of time thinking about how cute they were... but yeah, no. Not something I want to keep around the house

So I'll stick with kitty cuddles.

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Not you! You're my non-traditional life inspiration

I've actually been feeling the opposite lately - I've been on the fence for years and I'm really leaning toward staying child free. I don't know if it's just a phase or what but I've been thinking a lot about how the standard markers of a successful American adult - stable job, owning stuff, being married, having a family - aren't making me happy and wondering what I would do with my life if I wasn't so concerned about what I "should" do based on what everyone around me is doing.

The fact that I'm not particularly interested in my sister having a baby and that I felt zero attachment or interest in myself being pregnant...well, that only further makes me think maybe a child free life is a better fit for me.

It also takes some of the pressure off of feeling like I have to get my shit together on any particular timeline so that I can find a spouse and procreate before I get too old.

[ssmjlm]

I have one you can borrow for a few days!

We were always on the fence or maybe one day people. Then it was like yeah, we want them.

It's been a big rollercoaster, but I love her more than anything. And I'm one of those sappy people who until I had a kid, didn't realize how much I wanted her and how our family feels complete.

[Deleted]

You are not alone! I am completely terrified of babies. But in the last couple of months, I realized I definitely want one. Like whoa. I have even made a plan not to use any vacation or sick time for the next year so that I can save up enough for a maternity leave. WHO AM I?!

Biology is such a little bitch.

[farfalla2011]

Not recently, but in January I came up with this revelation. DH has 2 kids and I don't have any of my own. I really felt like I would be fine and his two would be enough. Then in January, we had a pg scare before we were married. I wasn't pg, but it quickly made up my mind that I definitely want one, not just a maybe. Thankfully DH is on board with this and we are TTC

Now, once I actually get PG, I will be scared shitless haha

[Brie]

I'm ready for #2.

[simpsongal]

@beagle I'll either be a terrible parent or awesome parent b/c I think Louis CK has provided all the parenting advice and perspective I need.

[hamster]

Oct 17, 2013 10:25:29 GMT -5 @shoegal said:

I had the opposite. Ever since I turned 30, I've been waiting for "my clock to start ticking" since that's all I've heard since I was 18 - "you may not want them now, but you'll want them when you turn 30 and your clock starts ticking."

I had a pregnancy scare early this year, and was sick to my stomach for two days before peeing on a stick. I cried with relief when I finally took a test and it was negative. Clearly, I do not want kids!

Still scared of that damn clock, though.

H and I made the decision that we, officially, do not want children. I'm 29 and he's 31. Like you, I keep hearing that we'll change our minds later, we're so young, etc. So? I have zero desire to raise a child of my own. Never have. Sometimes they look all cute and cuddly, and then they crap themselves or won't stop crying. And then at some point you have a teenager. And THEN what? No thank you. 

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Oct 17, 2013 11:31:25 GMT -5 @blessed said:

Oct 17, 2013 10:40:57 GMT -5 @buckybells said:

Not you! You're my non-traditional life inspiration

Lol. Don't worry, I'm 99.9% positive I'm not going to turn in to the white picket fence, live in the suburbs with 2 kids type I do aspire to be a soccer mom (soccer is in my blood lol), but don't hate me too much for that

And you seriously made my day by your comment, thanks!

No hate for that! Just don't drive a mini van to practice, lol.

Or do if that makes you happy

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Oct 17, 2013 11:14:49 GMT -5 @bluesky said:

Oct 17, 2013 10:25:29 GMT -5 @shoegal said:

I had the opposite. Ever since I turned 30, I've been waiting for "my clock to start ticking" since that's all I've heard since I was 18 - "you may not want them now, but you'll want them when you turn 30 and your clock starts ticking."

I had a pregnancy scare early this year, and was sick to my stomach for two days before peeing on a stick. I cried with relief when I finally took a test and it was negative. Clearly, I do not want kids!

Still scared of that damn clock, though.

Don't be scared of that clock.  I've determined that I don't want my kids to be more than 35 years younger than me.  I am over 35 now lol, but I am THRILLED with the thought that if we determine we want another kid, we simply will adopt one that its into our age requirements.  It's so nice to feel like we will never be "too late".

This is such a good perspective, blue.  There are always going to be kids that need homes, and not everyone wants a "cute" baby...I know I don't.  I just feel like the mysterious "clock" has been built up into this bogeyman...when I turned 30, I swear the first 6 months I was just waiting for the clock to come get me!!!  (OK, I thought about it maybe once a month, but you know what I mean!)

[chessie]

strangest thing I know. I want them more then ever now. Current man has a few already though.

[raangoli]

I always knew that I wanted to have a family; at first it was two kids and now I've revised it to be one and done. But then this clock that every one speaks of really hit me last year, a few years after I passed 30. IT IS NO JOKE and I hate it. But we are patiently waiting to get a few more things settled and then I think we will try.

Every now and then I do wonder whether it's better if we just stay DINKS, but then I know that my life would feel incomplete. It's a strange feeling for sure.

[protozoa]

Oct 17, 2013 10:25:29 GMT -5 @shoegal said:

I had the opposite. Ever since I turned 30, I've been waiting for "my clock to start ticking" since that's all I've heard since I was 18 - "you may not want them now, but you'll want them when you turn 30 and your clock starts ticking."

Same here, but I am 32 now. Every day it's like, will today be the day?

[wanderlustfoodie]

Oct 17, 2013 13:20:25 GMT -5 protozoa said:

Oct 17, 2013 10:25:29 GMT -5 @shoegal said:

I had the opposite. Ever since I turned 30, I've been waiting for "my clock to start ticking" since that's all I've heard since I was 18 - "you may not want them now, but you'll want them when you turn 30 and your clock starts ticking."

Same here, but I am 32 now. Every day it's like, will today be the day?

Me, too. I am so on the fence about this. If I do decide to have a child I've pretty much realized it isn't going to be because I heard a clock or got all warm and fuzzy from seeing a cute kid since I know neither of those things will ever occur.

[Deleted]

Bio kids are not a possibility for us and I'm on the fence about adoption. Mostly, I'm pretty content with my life as it is. I do have some "is this it" moments that make me question if I'd be okay without a kid. The process of adoption scares me.

[Deleted]

You can borrow my 2yo any day. That should help stop the fever for a bit. Heh.

Btw, I was always on the fence until I wasn't. Totally ok! I was the same when it was time for #2.

[Deleted]

I've always wanted kids. When my x said there was no way he wanted them I was willing to give that up, then that relationship ended and I was 35. At that point I realized I really did want kids - and I didn't need to go through the baby phase, I wanted a slightly older child. I was prepared to adopt on my own but then met H and told him what I wanted. Luckily he was on board and we are going to an adoption orientation next month.

[lb2006]

I was on the fence for a long time. We both knew we wanted kids, my H was ready a lot sooner than me. We knew we wanted to adopt, so we started that process, knowing it would be 3-4 years. And if, in the meantime, we decided to try for a bio child, we would do that. I've warmed up to the bio child (mostly the pregnancy/labor/delivery part terrifies me the most ) a lot this year. Probably sometime in 2014. And will probably finalize adoption in 2016

[Deleted]

I still have no desire to have child. At least from infancy to adulthood. I think in 20 odd years I'll adopt, but even then I have dreams of adopting older teens. So there's that.

But I have no desire to a cute, cuddly, tiny, bouncing baby. I have 30 odd cousins in my family and about half of them have starting creating their own. I've been around WAY too many babies and while they are adorable, fun and I'm pretty good with them I don't want one around 24/7.

And it doesn't end at 18. I'm 26 and still lean on my mom in times of need. And she still leans on her mom, so being a parent never ends. Although my mom says she cares less about our problems now that we are adults. It doesn't affect her as much when we were kids. But being a parent never ends and I have no desire to be that for someone.

Signed,
Selfish.

[winnied]

I've always thought I wanted kids but I was never baby crazy like a lot of women. I like the idea of having a family and what not. Ultimately I realized I have zero interest in birthing a mini-me. That is one of the many reasons H and I plan to adopt in a few years.

[vegas]

1. Last night I had a girls night planned. I got all dolled up, put on my cutest outfit and heels and grabbed my new purse. I was heading out the door when DH handed me my daughter as he was walking her from the bath to her room to put her diaper and clothes on so that I could give her a quick kiss good bye. Somehow in the two seconds I had her she managed to pee all over me drenching my shoes, my outfit and my brand new leather bag.

2. Two nights ago I had the pleasure of listening to over 45 minutes of screaming because I wouldn't let my son have a pop tart for dinner.

3. This morning I was awakend by my happy, giggling daughter. It was 5:15.

4. Last week I was bathing my kids when I noticed my son playing with a brown round ball about the size of a quarter. Turns out it was my daughter's poop.

HTH with the baby fever.

ETA: I love my kids.  They are wonderful. So glad I had them. But it's moments like this when I can understand why people choose not to procreate.

[pitterwoo]

We knew we wanted kids but really aren't looking forward to the baby stage so much. We finally bit the bullet, but it's still a little scary to think about how much things will change in a few months.

[starlily]

Oct 17, 2013 14:43:28 GMT -5 @choco said:

Btw, I was always on the fence until I wasn't. Totally ok! I was the same when it was time for #2.

Same here. I'm 37 & thrilled to have DD, but I never ever heard the clock ticking.

[roseflower]

I have always know I wanted kids and I wanted a lot of them. But I wanted to be stable amd done with school stable etc...I got pregnant with DD while I was going to school, had no health ins.. and I cried for like two weeks straight. I would never give her back though. I know I want more kids...I just don't know when. We had her at a real poor time and that has changed our plans and I'm not sure when will be the righy time.

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[roseflower]

Also I had bad PPD and that scares the daylights out of me.

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