I found these letters of condolence in my e-mail file

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Can you guess who wrote this e-mail to me back in 2007?

"I am so shocked and saddened to read your news today. I know that it must seem as if you are literally awake through a nightmare right now. The next few days will be among the worst in your life. I write these things not to make you more sad, but to let you know how much I understand your pain. You have demonstrated how strong, optimistic and loving you are. I wish you continued strength. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers."

Or this one?

"Words cannot express how deeply saddened I am about the news of your dear husband. I sit here in shock and tears. You know that I am all too familiar with the loss of a loved one as close as one can be. While I certainly can not say that I completely understand what you may be feeling at this time, I at least can comprehend the magnitude of sorrow that we are burdened with when someone so cherished is snatched from us earlier than we ever anticipated. It’s not fair. The pain is unbearable. Although I wish I could, your loss is something I cannot with words or hugs ameliorate; only faith and time will aid in relieving your broken heart.

I would be remiss if I did not mention that often thought of your marriage when I envisioned what I wanted for myself and my own family in later years. Whenever you wrote or spoke of him your words exuded a deep and exceptional love that few people experience. I always believed that you had a perpetual “school girl crush” on him! LOL You have no idea rare that is. Okay, maybe you do. Your commitment, devotion, and unconditional adoration to your husband was admirable and something to aspire to. Yes, with that, I am saying I aspire to be half the woman you have grown to be, and can only hope to sustain the same love and happiness in my marriage in the years to come. I write this knowing for certain that my pride and admiration is but a fraction of that your husband carries with him in his heart and soul.

My prayers are with you and your children.

Do not hesitate to lean on me."


Both of these e-mails were sent to me by a Nestie who was considered by many to be a meany-weenie.  

I found these e-mails because a good friend of mine died today and I wanted to express my condolences to his widow.  I've held on these e-mails (and many others like these) because they gave me a great deal of comfort in those dark days.

[cleo29]

Is one from Immm?

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Nope, but you're getting warm.

[papie]

Missmod?
Graceland? (Loved her but people thought she was mean)

[cleo29]

tonif?

[underwaterrhymes]

I also would have guessed tonif.

Those are lovely.

[flex]

One of them was from Graceland.

[cleo29]

Oct 18, 2013 17:04:00 GMT -5 flex said:

One of them was from Graceland.

It's so nice that you kept them.   When my sister was in high school, a girl either in her class or a year above or below, lost their mother or father. Anyway, my sister wrote a letter to her expressing her condolences and also letting her know that if she ever wanted to speak to someone who has been there and can understand, she would be happy to listen. The girl never did, but years later they saw each other somewhere and she thanked my sister for that note. She never forgot it and still had it.

i always thought that was pretty neat.

[flex]

I've saved everything I received from Nesties: whether e-mails or cards and letters. I take them out every once in awhile to read them. They meant a lot to me six years ago, and they still do.

[flex]

I hope that they are out there in GBCN Land and read this post so they know how much I appreciated their kind words. /waving

[underwaterrhymes]

Is one from amber?

[flex]

Oct 18, 2013 17:15:43 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

Is one from amber?

Newp.

[underwaterrhymes]

Oct 18, 2013 17:17:54 GMT -5 flex said:

Oct 18, 2013 17:15:43 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

Is one from amber?

Newp.

I'm trying to think of the "mean girls."

I keep reading these. So beautiful.

[flex]

Oct 18, 2013 17:31:01 GMT -5 toledo said:

2006?

Newp.

A hint: S/N started with an 'N'.

[thedutchgirl]

Nova?

[aussiecrush]

Nova?

[flex]

Oct 18, 2013 17:35:13 GMT -5 thedutchgirl said:

Nova?

Ding ding ding!!  Winnah!

[thedutchgirl]

They are lovely emails. I can see why they brought comfort to you, both then and now.

[WOT?*]

Those are beautiful e-mails. Thank you for sharing. They made me want to go hug my DH. I'm sorry to hear about your friend's death.