I'm going to punch myself in the throat

[W.T.Faulkner]

I turned 25 last month, and this week BF and I celebrated our two-year anniversary. 

The combination of these two events must have flipped a switch for the general population to realize and subsequently say, "Oh, shit. Whatthefaulkner and her BF should get married!  When?  WHEN!?  WHEN!!!"  So i've answered that question twice a week, on average, for the last six weeks. 

Additionally, I'm at the age where approximately 98% of my Facebook friends are flaunting giant-ass engagement rings, buying houses, and getting married and because of extenuating circumstances (which are another story altogether), BF and I are waiting to move in together until sometime in mid-2014. 

We've had the "life chat" and I know where we're headed, and I'm confident in it. The logical portion of my brain understands that the Plan is a slow, steady and solid one that is right for us.  

The emotional side of my brain wants him to prose right nownownownowFUCKINGNOW. 

It might be time to walk away from Facebook.

i wish I could quit the board called Married Life (lol), but come on. Let's be serious. 

[Deleted]

Huh. I think 25 is on the younger side to get married. Maybe its just because I'm in New England, but only one of my friends was married at that age. And only because they had been dating for 8 years at that point.

[noodle]

Don't punch yourself in the throat - punch the people who are asking questions about your personal life that are none of their business!

H and I dated for 6 years before getting engaged. There were times I wished he'd hurry up and be ready, but I knew our future and was comfortable with where we were headed. But we were also almost a decade older than you are when we got engaged.

People asked ALL THE TIME about where we were getting married, and I wanted to punch each and every one of them.

Tell them to back off!

[tulip]

Screw them.

ENJOY your 20s, don't worry about it. I got married at 25, bought a house and had a child at 27. I wish I could have all the same things but happening now in my 30s. I'm 31 for the record. The 20s are FUN. Go have FUN.

FB is ruining everything. Lol

[cutecloud]

I feel the same way (although I did get married at 25, sorry.) But now that I'm 29, all my friends are buying houses and having a baby, or even a second baby. We don't own a home, we can't afford to have a kid, and we basically have no assets to speak of. It sucks. I know the feeling of feeling like you're falling behind in life. I just try to remind myself that on Facebook, you're comparing your everyday life to someone else's highlight reel. Facebook is so annoying at times.

[Deleted]

I agree with tulip I was married @ 26 house at 28 pregnant @ 30. I wish I had waited & enjoyed my 20s more. I was so scared of being an " old bride" WTF was I thinking. I honestly think if DH & I had taken a " break " for a year when I was 26 instead of getting married, we would have still ended up married, & would have had a more stable first few years of marriage.

[sonrisa]

You have time.

I married at 29/DH 33 and we were on the early side among our friends. Of course, a lot of us did the "too much education" thing. On the plus, side none of our friends have divorced. Waiting can have its advantages.

[DotAndBuzz]

Stay the course, and tell people who ask when you're going to get married you're taking your time for a number of personal reasons. Or tell them nothing, because frankly, it's none of their damn business.

I get how frustrating it is to have to wait. Truly, I do. 2+ year engagement after 3+ years of dating, waiting to buy a house until all the education and training was over, watching all our friends start their grown-up lives, and we're still moving from rental to rental, playing the "X-more years until ___" game. It sucks, and FB makes it SO much easier for people to brag and show off their totally perfect (lol) lives. But you have a plan with sound (I'm presuming) reasons behind it. Stick to it. You'll get there.

[Deleted]

I turn 29 a week from today. Literally all of my close friends are married and most have 2 kids by now. I just figured out last year what I want to be when I grow up.

*mope*

[Booze Raccoon]

[Booze Raccoon]

H and I lived together for 9 years before we got married. I was 36 when we finally got around to it.

Everyone can go scratch.