Another relationship s/o

[imalwaysme79]

When do you introduce your new guy to the family (parents and siblings)? Is your answer any different if you live with your parents?

[sparkles17]

BF met my family about months in at a Baptism.

[lookingup]

I introduced stbx to my family the first time he came to visit after he got back from deployment. I was young, but we had been in a relationship for nearly a year by that time.

I think that my sister has it right though. She is living with my parents still, but she just recently got engaged AND THEN introduced her FI to the family. I love that he put a ring on it before she even thought that our parents should probably meet him.

[mandimija]

With XH, I met his parents almost immediately (We went down to help them move). However, we'd been friends for a few years before we began dating.

After XH, I slowed everything down. With Mr. Mijo, I still haven't met his parents (they live about a half hour away). And he hasn't met mine yet (they live about 8 hours away). We're both comfortable with the idea of meeting each other's families, but we're in no rush. He has, however, met BFF when she came to visit and met a few friends from work.

[hobs209]

I have a really close family and we see each other really often (even when I wasn't living with my parents) so a new guy would probably meet them pretty early on. I'd say by the time we've gone on a few dates he'd probably be meeting at least some members of my family. I would wait on him having to deal with a full gathering (7 adults, 5 kids) because that's a lot for anyone to handle.

[roselis]

Hmm. XFI met my family before we were dating since he came to visit me in the hospital after I had surgery
XBF met them after our first date since I lived with them.
XH already knew my brother. He met my parents when he picked me up for a party before we were dating. For the next week my mom asked if I was sure if I wasn't going to date him (she liked him).
Funny thing is, the only guy of those 3 they didn't like is the only guy that didn't cheat on me.

Any future SOs would not be meeting my family until after we were serious. Probably about the same time I would be ready to introduce him/her to DS. That is, if they were not a friend already. Most of my friends have met DS already.

[margaritagirl]

I guess when it feels right. My parents live close by, so that makes it more likely they would attend one of my symphony concerts, for instance.

I was dating BF for 4 months and he was invited over for our family's Easter celebration. They had met a few times prior to that.

[skiecreation]

I think this next time around I am going to wait until I am very serious with a guy to introduce him to my family. SBXH met my family about a week after we started dating.

[udscoobychick]

Jun 25, 2012 21:11:46 GMT -5 inara said:

My family lives on the other side of the country, so I only see them 1-2x a year. We would have to be pretty serious for me to consider bringing a guy home with me, either engaged or talking seriously about engagement. If they came to visit me, I'd probably introduce them to someone I was dating exclusively.

This sounds about right for me, too. My parents live 500 miles away, and I see them 3-6 times a year, depending on the year. If I'm bringing someone home, it's because I'm going home for a family holiday, and it's a big deal. It's less of a big deal if they meet someone while visiting me, just because it's not so much of a production.

They met XFI before we even started dating because he came to visit me at their house during Spring Break one year in college. Similarly, I met his parents before we started dating. Now that I'm living on my own, my parents did not meet the guy that I dated briefly before current BF because it wasn't serious enough to introduce them. I was ready to introduce them to BF when we'd been dating 6 months or so, but they're not ready to meet him, so it hasn't happened yet. I met BF's mom when we had been dating 6 months (his family lives in another country, so he only sees them once a year).

[marigoldgirl]

I think this depends a lot on how much you normally spend time with your parents. Which usually will directly relate to how close they live to you. My mom lives about two hours away and usually comes to spend a weekend with me once a month. BF meet her about three months into dating. His family (mom and sister) live two states away and I am just meeting them next week for 4th of July. We have been dating almost two years.

[stephbfan]

With my ex, I met his parents when we had been dating about 3 months or so? Her mom had Alzheimers and he took me to the nursing home she was at because it was important for him that I got to meet her.
Then I met his sister, BIL, niece, brother and SIL at a gathering. Like a month later he took me to their Greek Easter gathering and they were A LOT.

On my side, I was living in a different country so he didnt meet them soon. He met my brother like 5 months into the relationship and my parents when we had already broken up and he came to my country to visit DD:

[lovelybb]

My parents are finally meeting D at around the 11 month mark... and my friends met him around the 2 - 3 month mark.

[heavenly]

My family lives states away so family meets rarely happen for me.

[chrissie3416]

J met my friends after about 6 weeks or so and then my family at a wedding about a month after that. I met his family about 2 months in....

[explorer2001]

Heck with exBF my parents didn't even know I was dating someone for the first six months. I don't like introducing people to my disfunctional family.

[roselis]

I am pretty close to my family (heck, my brother is living with me currently!) so they will know when I go out on dates, especially if I need them to watch DS.

[crystalangel79]

My guy is meeting my family this weekend though they live 8 hours away... otherwise I'm sure they'd have met already. I dont like making "meeting the family" a big deal. I hate to put any kind of pressure or stigma on the event... I think it's best if it is just a casual thing, not a special "meet the family" event.

[blackkitty]

Definitely depends... once I was staying with my mom for a few nights and I introduced him on our first date because he picked me up so it was the polite thing to do.

With my last boyfriend, I brought him to my parent's Christmas party we had been dating about 2 months.

Those were the only two post divorce

With my XH my parent's lived far away but happened to be visiting like 3 weeks into our relationship and he came over for dinner one night.